I am so happy for my friend.
By chicgale
@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
May 19, 2012 1:17am CST
My friend is finally getting married with her live in partner. They are together for 9 years. I remembered her and I talking years ago about her wanted to get married. She was so stressed about her family kept asking her about why she was not married with this guy, but the guy wasn't planning on marrying her because marriage is just a piece of paper according to him. I once remember telling her to be patient about it coz I know someday he will marry her, and I told her to just wait. And last night, she called me and was so happy that finally he decided to marry her!! She didn't believe him right away coz they haven't talk about it for 3 years and why suddenly he wanted to get married? She thought he was just drunk or something, but he was so serious. And this morning she called me again coz when they woke up, he asked her again to marry him and now she believe him! I am so happy for her. "Patience is a virtue!" is what I told her before.
9 responses
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
20 May 12
thats great that your friend is finaly getting married, and its good that your wetre there for her to tell her all those years ago to be patient and sounds like you are a good friend with good advice and its good she did not push the issue and let him decide he was ready to get married in his own time and its good she decided to wait it out and now it has panned out for her and i hope they can be happy married and they have a beautiful wedding and i hope you get to be in it.. :)
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@sayo13 (414)
• India
19 May 12
i think this happens many a time that boys are a bit hesitant in taking up the life time commitment of marriage.
i have heard many a times girls saying that boys do not take the issue of marriage seriously, someway or the other they stay away from it.and the worst part is the girl comes under stress and tension and even started doubting the guy whether he is going to marry her or not.
many a times i have also seen that since the boys are not making an effort towards marriage the girl looses faith in the relation and lately she gets married to a different guy and settled in life.
basically the psychology of a girl and a boy vary in this case and many a times many relationship face a rough patch, but this is the responsibility of the guy to communicate to his girl regarding the planning of his life and how he want it to happen, and at the same time the girl's emotion and feeling should be respected.
many a time because of being late in taking a decision, a relationship is on the verge of break up.
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@mervyn07 (437)
• Singapore
19 May 12
great to hear that.
I feel that marriage is not just a piece of paper but it is a start of the sweet love relationship if you know how to manage. It might be even better than your dating relationship. After marriage, people tends to take thing for granted and make argument over small things. When you argue, you will always pick out the bad things and say so this will further hurt the relationship.
Marriage is about commitment and love for beloved one, not you yourself. Learn to be kind to others and other will be kind to you too.
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
19 May 12
Well, taking behalf of your discussion, I can say that this couple had several contingencies at their wedding.
Well, I want to emphasize that marriage is a very important thing in life. Which is why, it certainly is not a decision you can make quickly. Then, you know, a couple of disagreements could erupt, and then arguing before being married, maybe you try to postpone the wedding a little later. Basically, before taking such a step, think twice.
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@anajoyjoxoxo03 (96)
• Philippines
19 May 12
Yes "patience is a virtue", Your Friend is very Lucky. She deserves anything, The Love, Care, and Also the Guy. I think the guy really loves the Girl, thats why he asked he girl twice? What do you think? I think the guy is serious.