Yes, I am a single mom does it make a big deal

hi jai, I've known your story like what you've said it is better to comment if you have been on that situation. I am proud of you really despite of being a single mom you still manage to look young . Being single mom is not a sin it is something you should be proud of because it will never easy to raise a child or children on your own. Hypocrites are everywhere we know that miss yah

Hi jai I've encountered a lot of questions like that seems to put down Filipinas. I usually try not to get into a heated argument. I would agree that it happens in our country at first but questioning more and saying mean things to our fellow Filipinas offended me at times when with someone asking about such thing. I would then of course tell what happens and that the perception that almost all families are like that then that would make me start to say something about their culture too. Because I know that even some countries are much strict than our country, such thing happens to their families/moms to.

Personally no one has the right to judge this situation, as each situation is different. Many times people have made the wrong choice and thought it would bring a relationship closer, and then find it don't or someone gets scared and leaves, but there are a lot of good Single parents out there, and it is OK if you do not know your father. I never knew mine, and my Mom was married to him until I was 4. Just do the Best for your child that you can, and everything will turn out.

Hi Jaiho, This is something that would tick me off also. Its no ones right to judge another person for their decisions that THEY make for their OWN life. I was a single mom of two children for a long time until I found the right guy. I had absolutely NO intention on rushing into anything for the stigma that may be placed on me. My life is to be lived by me and not just for the show of others. I would have been miserable as well as my children. SO that was something I made a decision on for the better of my children's life and mine. My children understand why I left their dad and that was that. I am married to a loving man that I am so blessed to have that loves my children as his own. We have 2 children together. And the other 2 are his also as far as he is concerned. He never refers to them as his step children either. So you go girl! Do your thing!!

I'm proud to be a single mom, and I don't regret it. Even it is the hardest thing that ever happened to me I will still be proud. I'm free and happy to those men who only wants is to give me heart aches. Who ever is the one you are chatting too, I hope that it will happen to her so that she can experience how to become a single mom.

jaiho: yes. i agree with you. To be a single mom and managing to bring up two children to good level in education -- one in medicine and another in fashion-- do not bother about comments of people. The world will talk so many things in general without thinking how it affects the feelings of others. you can be a proud person--as you say single mom -- does not arise from the beginning --it is thrust upon women due to various factors. good day

I agree 100% Many a woman want to be mothers but don't have the ideal partner for life. So they opt to have a child alone. It is far better to raise a child alone than have an abusive or distant partner.

In my home country many single ladies get pregnant and have a baby. A lot of married or living with a partner ladies get divorced or split up. It is normal to be a single parent in the country that I come from. Some kids see their dad even though their parents have split up. In other cases the mom is all the child needs. The dad might be worthless and therefore due to crime be in jail. Single moms should not have criticism. Being a single mom is a good choice and it is a worthwhile challenge.

The fact it happens everywhere, does not mean it is good.

A handfull of evens or incident in our daily life is the sum total for LIFE. Some are incidental and many more are invited by ourselves. In the flow of live we will ge femilierised with everything and the time has the power to give courage to everything, though we may weep whenever we are alond and when we look back into our own history. Be bold and justify what we are and we have a lot more around us to give pleasure and peace.

"I admire single moms who choose to give their love-child chance to live inspite of all the criticism and whatever consequences she might face in the future"...It is what i wanna say also. We should do respect to a single mom and care a baby more because they are worthy with it.

hey there, i too feel that it is surely a challenge and a tough choice to make in life when ladies choose to be a single mom! in-spite of the social criticism, so many issues and struggle in life, if a mom is ready to stick to her own decision of being a single mom then i must appreciate the courage and the mentality of the lady. But there are at times when you feel the isolated one and people raised their eyebrows at you, when you child is being discriminated and you have to fight it all alone within even getting a chance to break down for once. I do not know how much the society have advanced but i do believe that this kind of decision do need an lot of mental strength and self- determination.I do not know even that how others will rate it but i would like to rate your discussion positive,as this can open a new way for us to think and channelize our thoughts.

Good! you let your child live! Give him/her the true love of a mom... God bless!

In the Philippines being a SINGLE MOM DOESN'T NECESSARILY MEAN YOU ARE RAISING YOUR CHILD ALONE.In legal terms as opposed, Single mom also pertains to parents living together in one roof but are not married. I, myself, when I gave birth to my daughter 3 years ago at the age of 19 and has no idea with everything that comes to my way. I find it shocking and difficult to decide checking boxes in my LEGAL STATUS and then I always end up asking higher people in that place like, "I have a husband but we are not married, which box should I check?" I am very much proud of single mothers like you who are able to raise their children without support of the child's father.

Hi Jaiho, I think it is best to ignore people like this. I was a single mom also. 3 of my girls were born within marriage and I ended up getting divorced. My youngest was born while I was single. She wasn't planned and she did and does know her dad even though we are not together. I got a lot of comments about bringing another child into the world when I was already raising 3 of them on my own. It hurt but honestly, the comments were all from people that did not know me real well and I should never have given their opinions more than a passing thought. I had choices...I could have chosen abortion but that is not ME and so I personally could not have. I could have chosen adoption but I already had 3 girls who'd forever be curious about their "other" sister, OR I could just accept the consequenses of the situation that I put myself in. I chose the 3rd and it all worked out. That little baby is now 18 and graduating high school in a couple of weeks. She has added so much to our lives...no regrets at all. What I noticed about those self-righteous people that would put me down was that most of them were either in marriages that managed to work and so they could not comprehend being in such a situation and really can't fault them for that or they were people who had no children at all. I got so I just ignored the critisism. I worked hard and raised my girls. I did not ask for help from others and truth is...it was no one elses business. Some things are better ignored.

That is one naive person then ms.jai, i have friends who are single moms as well and they are like one of the strongest persons i have ever met. They would do anything for their kid.

Hi,jaiho~ You are darn right. Single moms are everywhere. My aunt has been a single mom for 12 years.And even when she was still in the marriage,my uncle-in-law travelled a lot and barely paid any attention to his own family. My cousin is in college now and he's just fine. I admire her a lot. She basically took care of everything herself. With my cousin being only 11 years old,she took him to a new city without any relatives around. Now she has a big house and a small one, and make more money than my family do. She is in charge of a department in her company. So,yeah,being a single mom may not be one's intention,but it definitely means being stronger and tougher than others. Best wishes to all the single moms in the world.

Wow, this is a truly a hot topic. I think that in all cultures, we have what one may consider as global norms. One global or (humanistic)norm (in my opinion)is that many people have to make another "wrong" in order to be "right." They belive in black and white options when the world operates in shades of gray. There is nothing inherently wrong in being a single mom and there are many reasons that women become them but it is not for anyone to judge someone else's life and deem it right or wrong. No one can walk in your shoes, in your joy or pain but for some reason, we live in a society where someone feels that they have been given the right to express and impose their opinion on someone else regarding business that has absolutely nothing, and in this case, I mean, nothing to do with them. Are you imposing on his life? Do your opinions affect him? No, so why does he feel the need to let you know how he feels about your situation. I love this saying by Wayne Dyer and I tell it to my friends often when they have to deal with unfriendly people. What you think of me is none of my business! Hold your head up, keep doing what you're doing and I applaud your efforts!

There are two types of single mothers. One type is a women that was married, had children and gotten divorced for whatever reason. The other type of single mother is the type that chooses to have a child without having to be married to a man. And some of them choose to not even have the man stay in the child's life. There is nothing wrong with a single mother. After all, it is a women's choice to have children, no one else's.

Hi jaiho,what is important for me is motherhood,the highest and the noblest thing in a woman's life.A mother is a mother and she is respectable for all.In my country,India,single moms are not accepted by the society.They have to face many troubles.People look down upon them.But I see them as mothers only.I respect them,because they are mothers and they have chose to give birth to their child despite all odds.