Feeling Guilty Over my Siblings' Misfortunes in Life

Being the youngest of the lot, it never occurred to me that my success would affect my older siblings and that the green eyed monster would make its presence. I would just go on talking about my success expecting them to rejoice but later with the kind of attitude that was displayed I was shocked that my achievements did not make them happy. I am not the jealous kind and I strongly believe that it is only when one rejoices seeing other people's happiness that our own treasure trove of happiness fills to the brim. You were too young to shoulder what you think would have changed your siblings' fortunes. They too had to play their role and whatever they are today it is their own doing. It is said that you are not enjoying what God has endowed you with which is wrong.

Everybody makes choices in life. What some people don't realize is that along with making choices comes having to deal with the consequences of those choices. Your siblings made their choices and now they have to deal with the consequences.

My mom got a saying that says, "every tub must sit on it's own bottom" plain and simple. Yes, your sister got pregnant at 18, don't know if your in the USA or not, but perhaps she could have gotten the child into daycare, then finished her education, and then she to better options for herself. Now she's creating a cycle for her and the child and don't nothing happen, unless the child decides to break it. Now as for your brother, he may not be college material. he may need to go to a trade school. something that will keep his interest and he can make a living on because everyone is not college material, but there is a skill that someone can learn and make a living by. Your father may have left your mother, but he was man enough to help you all financially and to me, he's a better man than most. If the others don't want to improve, that is their business. You did what you was supposed to do. You can offer to help your sister but if they don't do jack, keep it moving and say a prayer for them that they see the light. seriously. I had an older sister. She went to an Ivy League School(the best colleges that the United States can offer)and she became a lawyer and worked for the US government. She passed a couple of years ago from Ovarian Cancer sadly, but now her son is about to graduate and go to the same college she went to, and to me, that is a beautiful achievement.I went into the military and eventually finished college, but sadly, I looked to her for help at times, but to be honest, like I said at the beginning, we ALL gotta do for self. See, sometimes life can make you feel that you can't do nothing but you gotta put the negative aside and work on the positive and do your best. please, have no guilt on your family. this is something I had to learn to for myself.

You sound as though you've done what you could. You didn't force your sister to get pregnant and drop out of college, nor did you cause your brother to fail his classes. Why should you feel guilty for having done okay? It wasn't like you did something to put your siblings at a disadvantage, and it isn't like you haven't been willing to help them as you could.

I have a younger brother who just can't seem to get his life together. There are times where I feel guilty that I can afford the new car, or the vacation, but then I remind myself that I have worked hard and I have earned those things that I have. He is slowly getting his act together. He scrimped and saved and managed to get a new car with an affordable payment. He is saving up to get an apartment with a few friends of his. Mom and Dad, however, will not let him fail...not even once, which is where the real issue lies.