People you can't relate

Yeah, that is a problem when the your one and only friend is not around! Actually, I am starting to learn how to mingle with people. It seemed hard at first but when you find common interests, it is easier to talk I hope when we have a Xanga Philippines/Manila meet up, we two could see each other!

haha, girl thinking, i think we would be actual friends if we met personally. I think you are the type who doesn't mind weirdness in people? I do that technique. However, it makes me feel isolated especially when that one friend isn't around. The thing i want to achieve is that i can be as comfortable with any person at work as much as possible. that would make my job more fun and easier. Actually, this is all for the sake that i won't get bored at my current job, cause i don't really like it.

The weird stuff is not really a bad thing i believe, though it usually drives a lot of people away and gives them the wrong idea. not many people are willing to get to know a weird person, because they are more comfortable around people who they are more comfortable with and more used to being around. You're right, i used to think it's dumb but it actually requires a lot of thinking, analyzing and intelligence. I think i can be witty if i just try to, the concern is if the other person can relate to this. Whenever I see someone who I don't have something in common with, I try to ask about themselves so i can give follow up questions. but there are people who don't respond much to this technique, they cut the conversation short. that's a tough one haha

I think like that before... I do feel smarter than them(even when I'm not that smart LOL) but... I feel lonely. It's good to apply to bad people who really are not worthy to become our friends. It's important to give chances for a new friendship too. There are good people still. If we are not keen enough, we might miss some good friends who will be able to help us some day.

LOL, I can be manipulative when i want to, but i don't usually hehe just kidding Hey, i never thought about watching talk shows before. hahaha, what a great idea. can you recommend some? I only know oprah LOL thank you for that, bird

maybe you should invite friends over at your house. If you can't go to them, let them come to you

I used to think like that, it's very difficult to change. But I'm not afraid to experiment, that is what i am doing now. studying people is quite interesting. plus, i think getting to know more people can help me achieve success one day. Being yourself is important yes, I do show who i am and I'm not faking myself. I just feel like something's off when i don't let my weirdness out. I'm waiting for a good time to release it, when they are ready to accept me XD Thank you evelyn.

thank you, triple! I do that. It's our third week being together and I'm doing my best to get to know them better. I find as much time as i can in order to talk to them more and get to know them more. I mostly them speak a lot so that i can learn a lot about them and sometimes talk about myself.. but just a little. I will show my weirdness at another time, when they are more comfortable with me. as of now, I think that would scare them off hahha

Very true, simple. Unfortunately, my face is rather expressionless and i don't look approachable at all. I try me best to smile but i just end up going back to my usual boring blank face or sleepy face -sigh- I'll do my best to change that thank you, simplyd!

thank you, phoenix! hehe, i do that too, approach people who are gentle and quiet. but loud people who seem very intimidating to me, i'm worried that they may not notice me at all. they make me feel left out, even though i know that there is no reason for me to feel like that.

thank you for that very thoughtful response, wakeupkitty I like how you are very frank in whichever discussion i find you in. I'm not trying to flatter you or anything, hehe, just being honest. Anyway... um, both are important. I used to think that socializing with people is like trying to copy them and as you have put it, to become a sheep in the cattle. I'm afraid that is how it usually is. However, I want to find a way to balance both like being my unique self and still become friends with many people. Of course, we have to choose the people we surround ourselves with, it's not about the quantity it's about their quality as friends. I really think that way(in your first paragraph) before but I realized that... it would be so much better if I can achieve both. When i was in college i didn't gain that many friends since most of them seem snobbish and social climbers to me and they disgust me. But that also makes me lonely. I made like 3 great friends in college and we hang out still after graduating from college. At least I can say that they are true people unlike so many others. Even when we are around people we really don't agree with or like at all, it's still important to get to know them, because that way we learn some things from them too. we probably learn more if we are around those people that when we are around people we are more comfortable with. I won't give up anything, that is for sure. I know there is a way and I'm still trying to figure it out. uh, many people call me weird. as i have said, i was not a very sociable child, so i think differently and act differently. but now, I have a lot of social experiences thanks to my job as a teacher. I have learned a lot of things. Weirdness like... I look bored all the time, as if my mind is elsewhere(in another world) and that I'm not really there. (can you blame me when reality is usually so dull? hehe) and i don't talk to people much and I respond differently, but that has changed.

oooh, polaroid you're back!!! Yeah, I guess what I'm doing now is testing the waters. I want to socialize and gain more experience, so I will learn more. Someday, maybe this will help me achieve success.