So in love with the wrong person at the wrong time.

Hi, Since you seem relatively new to Mylot, let me first of all extend a hearty welcome. Yes, it is not cowardice to let go, but in fact in the greater perspective it is a right decision. It is always difficult to obliterate memories from our subconscious, as it is not a computer hard disk but a heart full of emotions and pathos. However there comes a moment in life when one has to decide to hold or let go, and it is an extreme moment, a moment that could make or break you. It is good to hear you have made that decision and rallied to move on, and from this platform of Mylot all we can wish you as friends are 'All the best' God bless.

I think everyone would like to have a happy family. I guess there are just moments in our lives when we feel that only one person could make us complete and that someone is the one that we'd like to spend our lives with - but there are also times when the one we want isn't the one for us. I don't think that you settled for someone less. A few years back I also felt that I met the 'right one for me', every single time that we were together I always thought that 'this is it'. We will be happy forever and nothing could separate us because we're meant to be. Then some thing happened that caused us to be far from each other. Before I knew it, he married someone else. I was devastated and cried my heart out. I thought I could never find someone to make me feel good again. But I was wrong, after several years I found my current partner. Now, I wouldn't say that he's the one, but I sure hope that he is. But I tell you, now when I meet that guy before, I don't remember the feeling anymore. I guess I got over him finally. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

I agree letting go of someone we once love does not mean we are coward it mean we are capable of love . You already love and committed to another and you cant help feeling that way for your first love but you can help how you behave and letting them go is the right thing . Your first love was not in the picture for so long so its only right that he let you go . All the best

Just recently, I had the same situation same as your first love. I really love this guy for so many years and because of some situation way years back, we separated ways. But I still have the same feelings for him. I did not even enter any relationships because of I believe that he's the one. But just last month, I learned that he already have someone else. It really hurt me but then again there's nothing I can do but wish them happiness and also hope that someday, my own happiness will come.