Frustrated with my boss!
By freqspaz
@freqspaz (220)
United States
May 20, 2012 12:36pm CST
I know that most people don't like their boss, and I know too that a lot of us have voiced it here on mylot but last night my boss pushed my buttons a little too hard.
I work retail, in a mall and I work all day, litterally from open to close four days a week. I drve 45 miles one way to work everyday that I do work I get no breaks and actually all of that I am okay with. However what I am NOT okay with is when I bust my butt and make excellent sales, my boss comes out of her mouth and says: "well it's not what I expected BUT I know you are doing the best you can." To me, I feel like she basically told me that even though I did good, I am still crap because I didn't meet her un realistic goal that she didn't teell me she set until after the fact. If I could quit I would believe me, I am actively looking for other work, and its very hard. And I just don't know what I should do, I feel like I am being used by her, yet out of her mouth is always 'youre my number one' and 'id be lost with out you.' Yet I haven't gotten a raise, no offer to help pay for the gas, or parking at the mall, no other benifits and when I took vacation, I didn't get paid even though she promised me a paid vaction two years ago, and I just took it this past april she didn't even offer to pay me. I'm just afraid to say something wrong and get fired then I really would be screweed but I am not a slave and I am tired of feeling like I'm being used.
Thanks for listening myotters!
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5 responses
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
20 May 12
Hi Freqspaz,
I used to work for a woman that was very critical also. I bit my tongue a lot because like you, I really needed the job. Are you part time or full time? You just have to look at it for the pay check and keep your eyes open for a job you like better. How long have you worked there? As for your gas, they are not obligated to pay for that.
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
20 May 12
I've work for her for three years, and I am working really hard to find something else. The first two years was awesome with her, and I worked in a different location. But when that location closed she said that 'when she could' shed help me with gas by either giving me a Raise or chaning my hours so that I could car pool or take public transit, yet everytime I bring that up it is one excuse after another, after another, yes I understand business has been slower but gas prices are going up, and I litterally spen 80$ a week at least just to come to work and that is just shy of a 1/3 of my weekly pay! And her telling me 'I'm a star to her,' then not getting a single thing she promises me, just makes me feel like she's lying to me and using me. And really that is what's bugging me the most.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
21 May 12
Ok. I'm glad I asked those key little questions. The answers paint a clearer picture of your situation. If your boss made a promise to you and is now ignoring that promise then that is wrong. It sounds as if you have reminded her enough and she is just evading the issue. 80.00 per week is an insane amount to spend to get to work. If her business is so slow that she can't afford to compensate her "best" employee in order to keep her then it is only a matter of time before that business will fold from the sounds of it. I hope you really are looking for a job closer to your home and one that will compensate you your worth. I would not suggest that you quit prior to finding that better job because any job is better than no job but seriously...you deserve better than what she is giving you. In fact, I'm willing to bet that her critisism of you is yet another game to lower your esteem and feeling of self-worth so that you don't look elsewhere.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
24 May 12
Some people are just sarcastic and is not conscious of what they talk about. I have a senior who is like that is she talks with some air, like everyone cannot be good enough or that she pressures us but we have come to know that she is just like that and we know that whatever we do, we can't change her and what she is about to say. We all just managed to accept that that is how she is like... =) I think what matters is that you like your job(if you do) and that it is convenient or your work is near your home... and that it pays you well.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
30 May 12
No problem! =) I just felt as though there are people who are like that.. but well the difference with us is that she is just a senior and in no way our boss - god help us if she is i think i would probably not be able to hold it there for longer time too. ;) maybe you do need to find other jobs and have more options.. at least you know what you are worth and i am sure you will find better work with better boss and understanding peers. sometimes it just takes for us to gather the courage and go out there. he he
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
24 May 12
I really do enjoy my job! Always have, but no its nowhere near to where I live, I get paid crap, and no other compisation like benifits or paid sick days or even after three years a 10 day vaction I didn't have to beg for, and I didn't get paid for. Really the only thing I do enjoy is what I do. Its fun, and I am just hoping that this, ahem, women that is my boss won't mess that up for me too. I am actively looking for other jobs but the markt here is misserable, even labor ready, that day worker place has no work for anyone.
I don't believe that we should have to get used to people like that at all. if I can treat them like a person without belittling their selfworth, then why can't they do the same for me?
Thanks for the comment!!! :) happy lotting!!
@GemmaR (8517)
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31 May 12
It is horrible when we're stuck in jobs that we don't like, and we don't feel as though our bosses appreciate the work that we're doing. I am pleased that you are looking for a new job, as it sounds like this really isn't the job for you and you could do with having a bit of a change. Make sure that you apply for as many new jobs as you possibly can, as this will mean that you have the best chance of being able to find something for yourself. Don't get downhearted by your current boss either, as hopefully you're not going to have to work for her for very much longer.
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
31 May 12
I truly hope I won't have to either! I am applying at every "help wanted" sign I see, and pretty much everywhere I can think of online. I do hope that very, very soon I can give her my two week notice!
I actually enjoy my job, I enjoy helping people find just what they are looking for, even if they only have a slight idea what they want. It's like a game to me. And when I do get a good match, when the customer is genuinely happy, it makes my day. I just can't stand my boss, and with her comes my lack of proper pay, long commutes, and retarded things I have to deal with, like paying for stolen merchandise.
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
29 May 12
Hi there, as I've read your story you really need to get out of that company and find another job that will treat you right. I know it's hard to find but don't stop seeking. I also have some issues on my present employer, for me, we, employee need to find the job that fits and will give us contentment. We work non-stop and our job eats most of our time than we spend at our home so we really have to have a job that will make us comfortable while earning. I can't imagine my self not having a break and working from opening to closing, one of the job that I hate to do is selling or working in a store. That is one tough job, you have to always put that smile on your face and treat customer right even your not feeling good. Paid leave should be paid if your a already a regular employee or depends on your discussion with your boss. I got my paid leave after 2 years of working same as salary raise which is very small raise. Our boss would talk about profit sharing but we haven't receive it for 3 years now, we only have bonus every June and last year he make it half and forgot the other half, we don't have Christmas Bonus, just the mandated 13th month.
To cut the story short, we are underpaid and don't have the benefits that we need and we are overworked though we only work 5 days a week.
You really need to find another job seriously, you deserve better than that.
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
29 May 12
I am looking hard for a new job, and I've got a couple of interviews lined up, but nothing concrete yet. I really would love to work at the pepsi bottling plant that is near me, and I have an interview there on the 10th! But I don't want to get my hopes up because I just went through an interview at wallmart warehouse and at the end of the interview they told me they were "all filled up" but will "keep my file and interview on record for the holiday season". So I don't know if he was lying because he didn't want to hire me or what. Now I'm nervous about pepsi.
Sounds like you need to find a new job too. Lol I wish mylot paid $10/hr *giggles* thanks for your post! And good luck to you too, cuz it sounds like we both need it!
@bond027 (107)
• India
31 May 12
Hello friend !
I think your Boss is female version of Hitler !!I know you are doing your job with the best possible capability but then also when you get these kind of crap from your boss you feel like useless.So instead of feeling why don't you make her feel.I am talking about switching your job my friend.I think you should give a thought about quiting which will teach your Hitler a lesson that what it feels like loosing a hardworking employee like you.
So hope and wish you all the best for your future my friend !!
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
31 May 12
I am really looking forward to quitting, BUT I have to have another job all ready to go before I do. I cannot just quit, kinda need the paycheck, whether it's small or not, it's still money. I try not to be a mean person, or vindictive but she has pushed all of my buttons, and I can't wait to see her face when I give her my two week notice. I am not just going to up and quit on her, because I am not like her, I keep my word.
Thanks for your post! Happy mylotting!
