a lover is a bestfriend and an enemy

Philippines
May 21, 2012 2:21am CST
my husband is always my lover but i hate him...i do hate him.In times,he can also be my bestfriend...talk to him and telling him my secrets...but really I hate him...Of all people I know his the one I hate most...I dont know why.there are times I wanted him but most of the time I dont want him...What will I do to stop hating him?And how can I not love him more than my self?
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7 responses
• Philippines
25 May 12
Aww...maybe its because the honeymoon stage is over and new chapter of relationship is on process. Or maybe this time you know him more and finally his true self really came out of closet. I suggest that you need to talk about the stuff that makes you hate him so he could be aware on what's going on in your emotional aspect. Sometimes we need to reconnect with our partners so we could fix and salvage the relationship before its too late.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
23 May 12
This is how your relationship works.Anyway,there is the guy that who can comfort me when i'm sad and also share good things with me.People would all have different opinions some time,so just be in loved and good luck.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
21 May 12
there must be something else that goes on and is happening between you and your husband. whatever it is, i respect your sentiment towards your husband. you may have put it in another level that no one except you can understand. love and hate sometime collide and what emerges are equally strong emotions towards the other involved in the situation.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
23 May 12
The marriage will not can change the nature of the couple. The Marriage also will not be able to unite between two different personalities. Actually, the Marriage basically just a tool to align between women and men to achieve their goal which same. So, when you feel love and hate, just tell all your feelings to him so that he can understand what you hated and what you love from him. With like that, he can understand what you want.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
22 May 12
Dear we should never love anyone more than ourselves, not even our kids. The secret to happiness it seems to be to love equally and never ourselves less. I realize when I didn't had enough self esteem I was worse with people, and when learning to love, then accept, then admire myself I became compassionate towards all beings, humans, animals and the green. Are you not actually not loving your husband anymore? If you feel like hating maybe the love is gone, maybe it's time for you to rethink your feelings... I feel so bad, hope you can meditate and get into the bottom of this. But anyways, I always cheer for a marriage to continue. I think we really have to think before we get married but once we do we got dive and trie our hardest. Ask your self, when you are calm and at peace that you'll understand your soul and feelings better.
21 May 12
Your husband is the person you decided to be with til the end. You maybe hated him always but it is part of our life. Our life will not be as meaningful without conflicts. Yet, just try to remember the good thing that he did to you that you can't ever forget. That will help you to not to hate him.
@GemmaR (8517)
21 May 12
I think that one of the reasons that you are feeling like this is because love and hate are such strong emotions that it can be very difficult to get them mixed up if you're not careful. It is good that you feel strongly about things, because it means that you care about them, and this indicates that you will most likely be successful in the long term which can only be a good thing. You should always make sure that you talk to your partner about the things that are annoying you about them, because there might be something that you can do to resolve the issues, but you will never know unless you try.