My friend has become a father...
By mr_pearl
@mr_pearl (5018)
India
May 21, 2012 10:53am CST
Hello my dear fellows, I'm the bearer of a good news today... Just before I heard a knock on my door and when I opened, I found my friend standing there, with sweets in his hands and a lot of happiness on his face. He has become a father today... :-)
The magnitude of his joy is inexpressible... I've never seen a man so happy. I felt his joy too, I felt it truly, yes! Here is an honest man, who has been awarded fatherdom by the Almighty Heavens... No matter, how truly I understand him, I can't experience the same happiness and same feelings. Not until, I become a father too...
And here comes gloom again, out of joy this time... I'm 29 now. And yes, capable of being father; but i am alone... I need a life partner, who will love me and trust me.. I need a wife... And I doubt, if that'll ever happen!!! Yes, I wanna be a father.. I won't say life's unfair to me or God is making me suffer...
I know there's something wrong with me. Maybe, I can't socialize or maybe, I'm a mug.. A loser, probably, who could not even find a wife.... It is my fault. I wonder, if I'm even capable of socializing... I'm just another rubbish who remain ignored, incapable of making their world, they fail inevitably and end up alone and in misery...
Trust me guys, I hate to be me today... Thank you for reading this...
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10 responses
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
24 May 12
Take things one step at a time, it will fall slowly into place. Rushing into things will only bring about temporary fulfilment but long lasting regrets. HOwever when we take things slowly, take our pick, and be patient, results would be all worthwhile. After all you are only 29, you are still young, there isn't a need for you to rush in starting a family. U have a good 4 years or maybe a little more, before you start your family, be a father. Maturity will see you through tough times, and woman appreciate man who uses their brain.
@preciousjayje (125)
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22 May 12
Hello friend, don't lose hope and never underestimate yourself too. This maybe not your time yet to get married. Or maybe there's a girl in there that's meant for you but you never pay attention to her. And also you maybe put standards of what kind of girl you really wanted too.
I remember my friends here, they never get married yet because they have lots of priorities in life. They have standards also that they are aiming to have. Now they end up degrading themselves like you did.
You said that you are not good in socializing, so that's the thing that you need to change in your life. In this word nothings remains constant but change. If you will say that it will be hard for you to do it, then you are just coward to face it. Be strong my friend I know you can do it. And hopefully soon, we will hear good news from you that you are already a father. GOOD LUCK! :)
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
22 May 12
Hi Remember me? You are alone but you are not a mug! You are only 29 , not 69! There is time for you to find her! Are you parents trying to set you up? Are you going out and having fun with a hobby? You need to get out and have some fun.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
22 May 12
Mr. Pearl,
I'm happy for your friend but I felt sad reading this. I read a lot of your discussions and I don't imagine you to be at all how you describe yourself. I think you are your own worst enemy honestly. I know that sounds cliche but it is so true. You sound as if you haven't an ounce of self confidence and I bet that is the only thing holding you up from meeting someone that you could be happy with. In a way it is probably a blessing to you that you havent met anyone. It is that lack of confidence that allows us to not only pick people that are so not worth your heartache but to stay with these people. You should work on building up that confidence of yours and then you will be amazed at how your life turns around. It's not easy, I know that. I got some help through councelling after leaving an abusive husband. My lack of confidence wasn't a result of the abuse...it was the reason why I put up with it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
21 May 12
First of all, it is great that your friend became a father. However, as for you, there is no reason to feel like you will never have the opportunity to be a father in your life, you really are still young. My husband was 27 years old when our daughter was born and he was 31 when our son was born.
Then there is my dad who was 29 when I was born, 31 when my little brother was born and 35 when my sister was born.
You will find the woman that you want to spend the rest of your life with and you will have the opportunity in your life to be a father.
@asdomencil (4265)
• Philippines
22 May 12
The happiness of being a father is truly unexplainable. I became a father at the age of 29.
Don't loose hope, you are not the only one that has been single as of this momment. There are others out there too.
I know this saying is already a cliche, but the right person will come on your way unexpectedly. Just don't loose hope.
Have a good day!
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
21 May 12
I can understand your friend´s joy, but I can´t understand why you are saying so ma ny bad things about yourself. At least here, at mylot, you are a person whose posts are interesting to read. You are very capable of doing whatever you set out to do. Seek for a partner, but not only for her outer looks but for her inner beauty. I hope that soon you will announce us that you have a partner.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
21 May 12
Believe me - you're not the only person to feel this way today. Being on its own does have its good points and no, I'm not saying I don't want to be with my husband..just somewhere else that's quieter.
I can't even sit outside without being bombarded by other peoples' chat and I'm sick of it.
@mikemirasol (31)
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21 May 12
That is a great news for your friend. Send him my greetings.
With regards to how you are feeling right now about yourself, think of what could probably be wrong. Don't put yourself down. Everything will fall into place in time, but of course, you should work for what you want or need. Otherwise, it will never happen. And no matter how long you wait for that one thing you want... keep the faith.
