how to enjoy life alone
By derrick 101
@god314159 (84)
China
May 21, 2012 11:22am CST
for some reason , i have been working alone in a city for a month and also living alone for a month ,sometimes i was enjoying this for I can do what i like to do ,and nodody would anything about that ,if only I had done my work .On the another hand ,I was very lonely ,I watched movie alone , eat lunch ,nobody can talk to me ,I really hate that feeling .maybe you would say I can find some new ,however I have to go back to another city next month .So anybody can tell me how to deal with this lonelyness .
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10 responses
@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
21 May 12
I feel that i cannot enjoy my life alone. Life becomes quite intresting and nice when friends are with you. I believe that friends are the treasures of fun and joy. I think you need to get a new friend with you all the time so that you can enjoy the life at your best.
@dandygrace (1)
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22 May 12
being alone is sad but to enjoy it is the same thing as being with God which you can not see...as of the moment i am alone here in my room.my son is in his father's caring.we work separately so i have to be alone here in our place.so i search the web to let my self busy in doing something.and not to mind me being alone...
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
22 May 12
i am an only child so i guess i like to be alone and i know how to entertain myself. also, i don't mind being alone but for you, i would suggest that you do the same. also, you could chat online, go to church (believe it or not, but that is a great way to meet new people) or strike up a conversation with your neighbour.
@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
22 May 12
I read your post and I suppose I'm going through exactly what you are going through although I have had the privilege of experiencing this for many years so I have become accustomed to my present circumstances. I have been living alone since the age of sixteen and I have learnt about being independent as a result of this. I like my own company and I think that this is something you have to adopt in your own life. That's not to say that you will be alone forever we are all very different. I have been living alone for so long that I actually enjoy my own company now.
I'm not totally cut off from the world either as I attend an IT class twice per week and I enjoy seeing the others from class and having a chat with them at lunch break. I also enjoy watching late night movies alone, there's nothing wrong with this. I think it all relates to how you feel about your situation. It sounds like you are constantly on the move and perhaps you can adopt some new techniques in relation to chatting to some new people. There are no hard and fast rules so I suppose you make up your own rules as you go along. I wish you the very best of luck. Andrew
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
22 May 12
You can go out to make friends and hang out with them for coffee meeting when you have free time. It is not really difficult i think..as long as you are honest and wiling to have good friends.
i can't live alone without friends...Life will be so boring when we have no friends...
@blink69nix0 (847)
• Philippines
22 May 12
Physically you alone but spirituality your not alone. Its also help when your alone you give your self space and time for reflection base on what have you done to your life. It's also help to be independent and not always lean on to someone. It's also a self growth, acknowledging yourself to do more better and to experience in your life to be alone. Some people cannot stand without others, Some also can stand with other. When you are in a strange city I don't believe you cannot meet someone to be accompany you.
Human has an instinct in whom to be with. And what type of characteristics they like . Along the way you meet someone who understand and be with you and its really differs when your alone or with anyone.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
21 May 12
That would be hard, if you're in some place you won't be staying. I live alone and eat alone and so on, but I talk on the phone to people quite often and have company two or three times a week, so it's not like I'm totally alone all the time.
In your case, can you go out to eat? That would keep you from eating alone. I don't know about there, but here there are movie theaters where we go to watch movies with a lot of other people. Getting out and around, even if it's for a walk, will help.
@magicchou (163)
• China
22 May 12
Hello, there!
I can see your feeling. Yes, indeed live alone brings you some benefits, for instance you can do your business without disturb. But here come another problem you have mentioned that is you always feel lonely. Here is my suggestion:
1. You do not have to talk with people in person. When you have free time, you can make a phone call to any of your friends who has free time. Besides, if your friends is not available, find some one on-line and develop a good relationship.
2. Do not feel any wrong about this situation. Almost any one will be faced with such condition, you have to face it, enjoy it(as you have mentioned, sometimes you enjoy this)and make the most of it! DO NOT FEEL WRONG ABOUT THIS!Or you may have some psychological problems.
Good luck and have fun!
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
22 May 12
Well,i suppose that there are lots of people who stay the same situation as you.But no worry,just expand your acquanitence.Go out and then know somebody new.You would find better.Otherwise,if i were you,i would really change another city that at least i know one person.
@Backhome21096 (259)
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22 May 12
Sometimes I need to be alone when I work or write, I can feel peaceful moments. And I love to be in home with my family, and I can feel lovely moments.