How do you care about...
By Resy King
@resy21curapika (2131)
Pasay, Philippines
May 21, 2012 12:01pm CST
How much do you care about your friends? Is there a certain limitation on how you should care about them regarding their hygiene or their family relationships, or their demeanor?
I don't know. It was just being asked to me here by one of my coworkers.
They have this topic right now on how bad being nossy about their friend's personal lives. I don't know if you have a friend who keeps on letting you know what's good for you or how well are you doing so far.
Can you tell me if you have an experience with a friend who have remark you so much and or giving you a lot of advices, to the point that you're already pissed off.
5 responses
@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
21 May 12
Hi resy21curapika.
I think we should have limits on our relationships, not even just with friends, but with family and partners too. Sometimes we are so worried with the person and we try to help him all the time with minor things, that when we need to help with an important deal, he just don't want our help.
I don't remember any experience that I have with another person talking too much to me, because I think that I am this kind of person. I am trying to avoid this behavior, to avoid the situation that I explain above, but sometimes it is a kind of difficult, because I just think that I am doing a favor for the person and when I see, the person is already upset with me. Happy mylotting.
@resy21curapika (2131)
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Jun 12
Oh, okay. Thanks also for sharing your feedback about this. I understand that we should have limitations when giving advice. I'm also feeling the same thing. Sometimes you have to see the joy of having your friends accomplishing a certain problem without your advice on hand. Like you don't need to spoon-feed them everything.
This was a great comment. You've shown honesty. And giving honesty also counts when giving advice. thanks and enjoy mylotting with us ^_^-)
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@lctravenisk (483)
• Brazil
11 Jun 12
You don't need to thank me. To share our ideas is the main point of mylot, hehe.
But I appreciate that you have liked my comment. I always try to be honest when I answer here. I think it is very important and I hope everyone does this. It is one of the best things in mylot: we don't know each other, so we are able to be more honest than in our real life, without being afraid to be judge by the friends and without being bound by social ideas. We just need to be polite and share our real thoughts.
Thank you and happy mylotting too.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
23 May 12
I care about my friend who always love to listen to me and also would like to share all her stories with me,i suppose this is really precious in my life that someone love to do this,otherwise,we all have time that unhappy with them,but anyway,just get rid of that,we are good friends.
@resy21curapika (2131)
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Jun 12
LOLZ...
I can be happy at time si f they will follow my advice but I tend to alugh a lot if they didn't follow my advice and they fail. lol.
What I know is sometimes when I give out advices it is usually based on my personal experiences and if I see them doing my advice; they won't repeat the mistake that I have done in the past. And if they don't do what I told them not to do so; and if they fail like me; I felt funny seeing my mistake to them at the same time feeling bad.
How do you feel most likely of friends doesn't follow your advice then?
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
21 May 12
well, if we are indeed friends to them, we should care for their well-being and success in life. although we should do the engagement with them in a polite and respectful way. i would appreciate it if my friends engaged me in a discussion on how to better my life, especially if my life is going to the drain. i would appreciate a good advice and another way of looking at things.
@resy21curapika (2131)
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Jun 12
Thanks for letting me know about how you think about friend's comments and have a good day! Happy mylotting to you, friend ^_^-)
@chan2zexy (508)
• Philippines
21 May 12
Hi resy21curapika! I think friends who gives advises are just concerned. When you're concerned with your friends, you wouldn't want them to experience anything bad. I think most of the time, they are just worried that you'll experience something bad that they appear to be nosy. I had experiences before but now I realize, they just didn't want me to go bad. =)
@resy21curapika (2131)
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Jun 12
I understand how you feel and I've also believe that the more you give advice, the more that you are concern. But do you feel like you are ruling over their lives?
I believe also that usual advice are based on experience. How do you give your advice to your friends?
Let me know how do you do it. This will also brings light to those friends who are also in dilemma in telling something that their friends should know but they can't tell because they don't have the guts to do so.
@preciousjayje (125)
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22 May 12
I have a friend who is like that too. I just tell her the truth that she is telling me too much already but in a right manner also. I know that she is just concern about me and I'm so thankful for her concerns, but without telling her the truth may lead us to misunderstanding.
@resy21curapika (2131)
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Jun 12
Better communication should be present at times like all good companies have. You have a good point back there. Giving them your point of view as you do it also counts. This will also make them know not to feel bad about what you're saying about it to improve them. Also what's good about great communication between friends is to also inform the friend who's giving then the advice how do you feel about doing it and why do you continue doing it.
Hope to know more about how you say it to your friend so far, well; regarding how you give them advice for them not to get offended. Thanks and happy mylotting
