Right use of kindness
By aubrey
@averygirl72 (37845)
Philippines
May 21, 2012 3:08pm CST
Do you think we still need to show kindness to people who makes life hard for us? I mean I encountered people who actually makes life hard for me than easy. Life is hard already and if they only add up to it? then that will make us crazy.
For me I will not do bad things to people who are bad to me, but it is pointless to be kind to them. I have learned one important lesson in life that there are types of people that can damage your life instead of building it.
For me it is best to stay away, be nice but keep a distance, if you want to preserve your dignity and your sanity.
11 responses
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
23 May 12
I think it depends really how bad treat you as a person. They say, be good to all people even if they are bad to you... but you maybe right. sometimes we also feel hate and anger to those people who treat as bad so most commonly, we also treat them bad...
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
23 May 12
I wanted to but it has no use, if I do good to them they will just be hurt, if you do bad to them it is a never ending battle, so just be away and find the right people for you.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Yeah it is the most practical thing to do. We are not being unkind but we are just practical in life.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Honestly I don't need to be kind to people and pleased them just to liked me. I go away with this kind of people who only knows is to destroy me. I can lived without them so why I bother myself to entertain and to be kind to them. I'm very kind to those people who are truly sincere and honest.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Good answer. Just be kind to people who are sincere and honest to you, time is gold and life is beautiful why waste our time on them.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
22 May 12
I know what you mean. problem is im living with someone like that i cant seem to stay away from. wait till you have kids like that
anyway, i used to be able to avoid such people. now im trying to figure out how to get away from them.
anyway, i used to be able to avoid such people. now im trying to figure out how to get away from them. @bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 May 12
i keep seeing someone in my comments in email. im glad they deleted those comments someone was putting links in. 
hope they got kicked out of mylot@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
23 May 12
thanks, I have seen that too. We cannot easily stay away from them, but somehow they also have a role in our lives.
@tanwenjing1989 (15)
• China
1 Jun 12
To a certain extent ,I agree with you .
On the one hand, I strongly believe that there should be no kindness to people who makes life hard for us. But on the other hand it is good to show people who have became a good man already ,even though he do some harmful to us before.
I always believe everything is changing ,so every human beings can alter himself .If we have the power to punish the person who do something bad to us , we should possess a generous heart to the one who have change himself as well.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
13 Jun 12
I quite understand what you mean, yes we do need to be kind to these people but it has no use at all, so better be neutral and do not do anything to them.
@alutka (211)
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22 May 12
sometimes no way to avoid such bad people, sometimes with the more we try avoid this more often we come across them! Such people can poison our lives, but often is a reason that they're just a inni.Mialam not the case, she poisoned another life because one day someone NJA terribly hurt, she could not behave differently, so uprzykszala reaping to others, she had, and others can sometimes zxastanowmy tez.Wiec about why this is happening ...!
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Quite confuse of your answers at the end, anyway it is true, we cannot avoid them and we can meet a lot of them. just won't let them spread poison on your life.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 May 12
To be honest...the kinder I am to the one that hurts me...the worse they seem to be hurt by it. I am one that will not avoid confrontation or act in a manner that gives anyone the wrong idea about the way I feel BUT there are occasions when I have used a professional sort of kindness that have ate people up alive. Like what they do or say about me has no meaning in my life and has no effect on the way I neither view or treat them. I think that sometimes the way people are it can be the worse form of payback to show them they have no meaning.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Very true, we hurt them a lot, I have observed it, they do bad things to us then we don't pay attention to it and still be nice. It hurts them so bad that is why better to just be neutral, don't be nice to them and just stay away.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
21 May 12
The best thing to do is avoid these people who seem to cause damage to you. You don't have to be nice to them if you never see them by avoiding them. In other words I'm not going to put myself through the trauma of being with people who only want to do harm to me by running their mouth or whatever.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
21 May 12
Great, like it. That is it, trauma...if you are traumatized why stay? I am not living in this world just to be mistreated all the time.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
22 May 12
I personally experience the same thing. In as much that I want to avoid that person but I was not able do so if since we are working in the same place. What I have done was just to be casual and avoid that person if possible. I mean when I feel that she/he approaching, I will find way to leave the place/group. Then after sometimes that person realized that he/she had done some thing wrong and ask for an apology for what he/she had done. Yes I forgive that person but I made sure not to be close anymore.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
22 May 12
I have been there, I know what you mean. We don't actually be bad to them but just stay away, don't feel comfortable and that is enough.
@ladyhemingway (965)
• Philippines
22 May 12
Hello averygirl, I know some people who makes life seem harder than easier for me. Although I was thought to repay evil with kindness, I am just human so there are times when I cannot help but get mad at them, And since I do not want to step down to their level and do bad things to them, I would just rather stay away from these people and live my life the way I wanted it to.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Very true, yeah we are just humans, we are not saints or statues that does not react or does not have feelings. We must not let others pull us down, let us not do anything or be neutral but we don't need their presence in our lives so better just avoid them when you have a chance.
@eihjaeiann (81)
• Philippines
22 May 12
even people are mean to us, we should still show kindness to them. someday they will realize what they are doing. do you believe in the law of karma?. let's just wait for karma to revenge for us. just show kindness to people who hates us. and if you can no longer handle their being mean, just keep distance..
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
23 May 12
That is good,we really do need to be kind to them but not as often as we do before, because they might take advantage of it. Thanks
