I wish my mother was here..
@leatherandlatex (295)
United States
May 22, 2012 12:38am CST
My mother passed away last year in July and in October I got pregnant with my third child. My baby boy is due any day now and I really wish my mom was around. It has been so hurtful to not have her here with me. All the time I wish I could just call her up and talk to her about what i'm going through. I'm 23, but I'll be 24 on the 25th and it's really hard for me. My husband still has both of his parents and his dad still has both of his parents. His mom still has her mom and her dad passed away when her children were grown and from natural causes. No one in my family understands what i'm going through.
Does it ever get easier?
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@leatherandlatex (295)
• United States
24 May 12
I have a 12 year old brother, but he lives 6 hrs away. I really hurt for him to have lost his momma at such a young age. I'm not quite sure he fully understands what's going on. She was sick since before he was born so we all expected it and his dad has moved on so that might help with the healing for him. I also have a 21 yr old brother, but he never likes to talk about her. It hurts him too much and he has a lot of regrets.
My MIL is a wonderful woman! I love her with all of my being as if she were my own mother. She lost her father when she was in her 40's and she is still upset over his passing so she understands me more than anyone right now. As a matter of fact, she is driving 14 hrs to be with us until the baby is born. She is such a blessing.
@KingEric (80)
• Philippines
23 May 12
I'm sorry for your loss. Losing someone whom you cherished so much is one of the hardest challenges we face in this lifetime. What I can say about this is that... it's okay if others who are comforting you doesn't feel the same as what you feel right now. It really doesn't matter. It is as long as they are there for you and listens to you and cuddle you when you want to be cuddled. That's the essence sympathizing with people. Don't alienate yourself from them, instead be with them and share your feelings to them. They may not have the best advise to heal the broken, but at least they are the company that could do so.
@leatherandlatex (295)
• United States
24 May 12
Thank you, KingEric. I try not to push anyone away when they try to help me. It would just be a little easier if they understood. My husband doesn't really know how to comfort me when I need him because he still has both of his parents, but I don't ever push him away. I understand that we are different and I love him just for tying.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
22 May 12
It is really hard to lose a mom and I am glad I still have my mom. No one will ever understand that except you. You are in a very sensitive stage now and that is understandable. It is hard but you need to be strong for your baby. Have a safe delivery dear.
@leatherandlatex (295)
• United States
22 May 12
Thank you. I am trying my hardest to be strong for him and for my other two girls. They need me right now and sometimes it's hard to look at them and know that they only have one grandma. I hate it for them, but then I think about my MIL and how special she is to them and she is all the grandma they need. They are still very young (1 & 4) so they don't really understand that they'll never see my mom again. It's hard to think about.
@rehanashraf (350)
• India
22 May 12
Hy leatherandlatex
It is sad news for you.It is a critical time for a girl/woman and that moment of life everyone wants to her mother which should guide the that conditions.My best wishes with you after reading your talk......
@leatherandlatex (295)
• United States
22 May 12
Thank you for posting, rehanashraf. I would give just about anything for her to be with me right now.
@sourabharoy1992 (730)
• India
22 May 12
Oh! It is very sad news and I am also upset for this.
Nice to meet you.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
22 May 12
Life would really be easier if we have our moms with us. Whether its a times of celebration, or times of sorrow, having our mothers with us, would certainly make things feel better.
I'm sorry to hear about your mother, but time will heal. I'm sure she's in a better place now, and seeing you survive life on your own would make her proud and happy for you.
I also wouldn't know how bad I'd grieve when my mother leaves us. She's 60, yet she's still very active and helps us with a lot of things. I'm about to deliver my 2nd child this month, and knowing she'll be there to give support and assistance, makes me less worried.
I do hope you'll be able to move on soon, because your family needs you to be happy.
@leatherandlatex (295)
• United States
22 May 12
You are so very blessed and congrats on your new baby. I hope your delivery goes smoothly and you have a fast recovery.
@smacksman (6053)
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22 May 12
It is tough now but it will be the making of you. You will come out of this tragic experience a stronger person. No, it doesn't get easier - but you learn to cope.
Now is the time you will benefit from a good, true girlfriend who can 'stsnd in' for your mother. Or maybe lean on your mother in law for your extra support at this time. It is just such a momentous event where you can get much closer to your MIL and she should love to be asked and 'invited in'.
You will get through this well I'm sure but at the moment your hormones and your emotions are on a high and you have just got to ride them.
Good luck.
You have got a lot of friends here so lean on them! 
@jsae29 (1120)
• Philippines
21 Jun 12
Sorry to hear about your situation. I know the difficulty of giving birth and taking care of a baby without help. I went thru that 3 times already. My mom works abroad and my husband's mom is too old to help out. And my husband works abroad too. The only thing that gave me courage and strength is the thought of my children. I need to be strong for them. And of course, I asked for the guidance and help of our LORD. Just pray to HIM and I'm sure everything will become lighter.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
23 May 12
I'm so sorry to hear that and hopefully your mom on the heaven would hear that and pray for you.Do not be upset and just think about that everyone would go through this step and you will be fine.Trust me,she does really hope you are good enough to care for yourself.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
22 May 12
i am sorry to hear you mom passed away, I understand your feeling, you really need your mom's help, advices in this time but she is not with us more.
If you and your mother in law are closed, i think you can share your things with her. I think she is mom and she can understand you, especially she has a daughter too.
You should share your thinking with your husband too, don't keep it in yourself, it is not good for your health at all. And one more, you can do share with all mylotters in here, we are always beside you.
@alutka (211)
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22 May 12
I understand you perfectly, I know happens to you, as you trudno.Niestety can not turn back time, although I am too much I chciala.Moze some sort of best friend will help you deal with it, important for you with their problems was not the same, life goes and we must continue to cope with, although it is sometimes very difficult!
