Helping others.... Please help!

Helping Hand - Helping others!
@cloud31 (5809)
May 22, 2012 5:48am CST
Hello dear mylotters, I feel a little uneasy because I read a lot of topics of a friend here in mylot.She/he is quiet active here doing mylotting and I find she/has a problem about something like struggling of something useful for her/him. I want to offer a help but I don't know how to approach her/him..I have a few of the stuff and even I can easy mail it to her/him if she/he really in need of it.I want to ask her if she don't mind if I will offer one for her to solve a bit of her problem? The first time I read her post I wonder if she/he mind to accept a help from others,I'm afraid she/he would think I'm too proud doing so.But I cannot stand reading her problems since I can offer a help I want her to feel better.. Please,kindly tell me how to approach her/him.I don't mind sharing my other stuff since I'm no longer using them and maybe it will be useful to others. If I ask you dear myLotters,would you mind accepting help from others? Thank you for your words in advance...Great day everyone!!
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13 responses
else22
@else22 (4317)
• India
22 May 12
It's really good that you want to help her,but my question is if she has ever asked you to help her.If she has,then lend a helping hand to her.But if she has not,then go forward to help her voluntarily.I have seen people who get offended if they are helped by someone they had never asked to help them.Let her ask you for help.If she requests you to help her,then help her.
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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22 May 12
Hello else, She/He did not asked me for help,I just read her/him post here everytime,just come to mind maybe I could share the spare stuff to her.Just a bit scare she/he might misunderstand my offer so I don't know how to approach her. Anyway,I appreciate your advise and I will consider that.Thank you for being here and to your advise, appreciated!! Great day ahead!
else22
@else22 (4317)
• India
23 May 12
You may send her a pm offering your help.If she asks you for help,then go ahead.May be she would then tell you how you could help her.
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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24 May 12
Thank you!
annavi23
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
24 May 12
Hmmm... there have been 14 people who responded in here... May I ask if that person is one of them? Maybe not...but hey, people can be happy when being offered of help. But you maybe right. not all people are all the same. some would feel bad when being offered help from others. Some also would be asking too much when you once helped them... sometimes kindness can be a way to put yourself in trouble... If they need help, they would ask for it... But if you are sincere enough to offer your help and never expecting anything in return, it is good...maybe if you get to talk to the person you are willing to help, you'll know if he/she will accept it. If I am the one who need that help, I would not hesitate to accept it... My dear, you have such a great heart!
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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25 May 12
Well,with these respondent she/he not among them, I hope your right she/he will be happy about my sincerity to offer him/her a help.And I hope she/he would see my real intentions doing so. I'm not expecting anything in return I just want him/her to feel better and relieved. I just hope she/he will understand.Thank you for having you here.And I hope everything will be just fine and I can make things better with her/him. Have a nice a day!
annavi23
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
25 May 12
Same thing here...hope you could talk to her/him and would accept your offer.since you just wanted to give help...
justinus
@justinus (1104)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
23 May 12
amen, thank you. I hope there is angle knows ...(smile) ... but it's okay
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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24 May 12
Your welcome..
hsofyan
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
23 May 12
My suggestion, you can send a personal message to him, to convey your intentions to help. Whatever the response, which is important you and he's already open. I thought, no problem accepting help from others.
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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24 May 12
Hello hsofyan, I will surely follow your advise,thank you and I'm hoping she/he wouldn't mind accepting help from others. I just hope she/he can understand my intention and not to think of something else. Thank you for being here..Have a nice day!
dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 May 12
This, I believe is a situation that could be very touchy. You see, we only know most of the friends that we've made on mylot through the computer and not in person and for that reason alone, it is difficult to know if you are able to offer help to a person without hurting their feelings. See, if it was me, I would be thankful for any help that someone was willing to offer to me, but I know that this is not the case with all people.
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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25 May 12
I just don't understand what makes me feel this way after reading her/his post theres something made me want to offer something to her/him.And now she/he seldom participating because of her/his problem. But I really don't know if he/she would mind accepting help from others.I just hope she wouldn't. I will just try my best to offer convince her/him otherwise I just hope she/he can make a way of his/her own. I hope she/he would have be same thought of you..just wish....Thank you for taking your time here ms dorann. Have a nice day ahead!
musicluv4life
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
22 May 12
That would be so sweet of you, I think send her/him a message, and tell them you want to help and see how it goes.
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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22 May 12
Hello music, That's what I'm thinking at first sending him/her a private message, after getting all of your idea then I'm figuring what way will work better for her. Thank you for being here too and I appreciate your opinion. Have a nice day ahead!
musicluv4life
@musicluv4life (1867)
• United States
22 May 12
Your welcome, I hope you are able to help her/him. Have a great day yourself :)
justinus
@justinus (1104)
• Karawaci, Indonesia
23 May 12
I need too but I ashamed because it is about (a little) money and I am only from far other country
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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23 May 12
That was so sad when you are in need of something you can't asked someone because it might not convenient for them to ask. I hope someone could offer a hand to solve your problem..And that you will feel better about it. Thank you and God bless you!
MysD
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
22 May 12
How about sending this person a friend request. When/if they accept you can then contact them in private and explain that you would like to help them
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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22 May 12
Hello mysdiana, That's a very good idea, I think that will work too,. hopefully being friends will make a way to offer her a help. Thank you so much for that wonderful advise,..have a great day ma'am.
laken02
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
22 May 12
it is very nice that you want to help this person, im not sure who you are talking about here on mylot.. but if it were me, and you wanted to send me stuff i was needing i would accept gladly,but not everyone is like me.. and others may not accept it like that and ,may get offended.. so maybe you can privatly cntact this person and in a nice way .. you can tell them you have some stuff you are getting rid of and no longer need that is in your way and you was wondering if she needed it.. before you got rid of it.. that way they wont feel bad taking the stuff.. good luck .. hope it works out for you however you chose to handle it..")
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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22 May 12
Hello laken, Actually that is one thing I'm afraid of,persons have different views in accepting help from others.I hope all people would be the same as your thought and so I don't have to worry and think on how to approach her. Your advice means a lot, well yeah I should speak to him/her in private and discuss about things with her/him. Thank you for your idea and hope to make things better with her/him.. Have a nice day!
cerebellum
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
23 May 12
I don't mind accepting help, but everyone is different. Maybe you could send them a private message and offer to mail the thing to her if she wants.
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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24 May 12
Hello cerebellum, That's nice if you don't mind accepting help from others.I just hope she/had the same thought as you! Thank you for that friendly advise. Have a nice day ahead!
Cutie18f
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
22 May 12
Maybe you can message her/him about it. I am sure that he/she would be happy to accept your kindness. I wouldn't feel offended if I were in her shoes.
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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23 May 12
Hello cutie, Thank you for that friendly advise..I would surely do that..I'm so glad having you here. Have a nice day!
Harold_ks
@Harold_ks (1673)
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22 May 12
It would surely be a surprise for her, and I am sure she would like the idea. The fact that she is making her problem a topic, that only means that she really needs help. But the worry should be on you, since you don't know the person well, you should also put precautions on helping others. There are lot of scams and modus operandi existing around. But I do appreciate your gentle heart, only few people have that. May you have more blessings to come! God bless you and take care!
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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23 May 12
Hello Harold, Yes thank you for that sincerely reminder. I will try a way to approach her so I can discuss this with her. Thank you for dropping by..Have a nice day Harold!
Toni
@toniganzon (72517)
• Philippines
22 May 12
I won't be offended if you would offer me something that could help me as long as it is done with sincerity. Others try to pretend to help because they want to get something back in return. But there are those who really genuinely help and i see that you are sincere with that. So i think there's no harm in trying to help someone. Whether he or she refuses it, at least you did try.
cloud31
@cloud31 (5809)
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22 May 12
Hello toni, I just wish you are the one,not to make myself thinking much of approaching you,,But I hope she/he will have the same thought of you and that I can help a bit of her/his problem. Well, yeah you are right others pretend to help because they might like something in returned but with all my sincerity I wish I could help. Then she/he might able to do his/her mylot activities again freely without any hassle. Thank you if you can see my desire and my sincerity doing this..And thank you for being here too. Great day ahead...