Indirects or being sincere, what do you prefer?
By Timeout
@Timeout (419)
May 22, 2012 7:11am CST
I live in for the family I work for. They are nice to me, but if they don't like something I do, they never say it to me, they leave "indirects" all over. For example, when you flush the toilet, it makes an awful sound while the container is filling again with water, so you have to use a bucket to refill it.
Yesterday I flushed the toilet, but then I noticed it didn't make any sound at all... so I left it like that. But last night at 2 am the toilet started making that horrible sound! I thought it would stop itself, after a while but the lady got up, filled it with the bucket and went to bed again, and this morning, the bucket was in front of my door... what does this mean? It annoys me. End of the rant.
5 responses
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Probably, the family you live with just wants to freshen up your mind to think of what you should have done as not to create any more problem regarding the toilet, lol! An indirect reminder surely would make you "think" which would surely make you realize the mistake without verbal reprimand or confrontation.
@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
23 May 12
I prefer " being sincere".Being sincere is being real or being themselves, inside and out.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
23 May 12
I'd prefer direct approach myself mainly to avoid misunderstanding. I would not be confrontional about it; but I like to be clear of the habits, rules, or expectations especially in situations that I am not too familiar with. Sometimes indirect approach, such as in your case, could provoke negative feelings for those involved.
@JHkerriokey (105)
• United States
22 May 12
I actually prefer indirects. i am non confrontational. It is bad when the indirects are unclear but my guess in this situation it that they are changing from a fill after you use to a fill before. In order to avoid the horrible sound when you are done using the toilet you would fill it for the next guy/girl, and when they are don they will for you. That way you dont' have the horrible noise at all.
@Adia7Wang (12)
• China
22 May 12
It's hard to say which one is better.In ththe case you mentioned above,I can tell the family you are now working for are trying their best to be polite and avoid confrontations maybe because they don't want to hurt your feelings.But I also understand you may feel annoyed because of this.But since most of the time they are nice to you,you'd better to be the one who stands out to slove the problem.If they are really indirect,trto be direct yourself.When you sense that they may not be pleased with the things you did,ask them directly and with politeness.Hope this could help and have a happy day.
