Honest enemy is better than a friend who pretends
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
Philippines
May 23, 2012 1:52am CST
I saw this quotes while browsing the net.
Aha- wasn't it true enough?
Yes, when someone hate you, he/she directly say it (at least he/she is honest)
But, having a friend who secretly putting you down -hmnnn-
so, it's like having a secret enemy huh.
In this situation, you know how and when to avoid that enemy.
But you never knew when a traitor friend attacks right?
- come to think of it-
Just sharing dear mylotters.
Have a great day everyone
jaiho®- just browsing here, there and everywhere
5-23-2012 2:52pm Wednesday PT
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37 responses
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
23 May 12
hi jaiho,
Like what Captain Jack Sparrow said It's better to trust a dishonest man than to trust an honest man cause you will never know when he will be dishonest.
I rather have a few friends who I can truly trust than to have many who will kill me by stabbing my back .
miss yah
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@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
23 May 12
i just saw fox's caption on a tv show...
GOOD GIRLS
... are bad girls not yet caught.
--- new girl's spin on jack sparrow's quote. hehe
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 May 12
bhaby,
And I will never trust captain Jack Sparrow either
miss yah
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
23 May 12
hi sis! howdy...
hmmmnnn i don't like having an enemy (no matter how honest hehe) nor do i like having a friend but someone who pretends. for me nobody of the two is better. hehe
it's like a heart attack and cancer, one may kill you outright and the other may kill you slowly. but both are definitely killers.
i'd say, get rid of them both or at least try to avoid them. with friends like that... who needs enemies, right? lol
as for me... i'm trying to be healthy, p**g*y, and happy. lol
cheers!
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
23 May 12
@ myles,
Sis p**g*y, and happy. lol
and sore sometimes or most of the time
miss yah
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
23 May 12
hi di
That proverb is so very true. Is that because when trust is shattered it hurts much more than any thing else.
Such friends who pretend make you feel life is bad... and are unhealthy! Unfortunately there is no legal punishment for them...
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 May 12
sids,
That's the saddest part- no legal punishment for traitor friends.
But, we will learn a good lesson from them aint?
Hope you had given your nephew a playmate
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
23 May 12
Playmate I tried a pillow within my tee to see what he thought of that... and he found it interesting to see that a pillow could go in my tee - He tried that but the pillow was too big for his height... Good that he forgot about the playmate and now has asked his dad to give him a small pillow that he can tuck in his shirt and go to school to show the trick to his classmate friends
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
23 May 12
For the lesson to be learned... yes, we do learn a lesson from those "not-so healthy" friends but many people start believing All friends are cheats... and this is a sad part - some however learn the goodness and tell themselves - we will never cheat any friend as we now know how that feels.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
24 May 12
Hi sis!!
That is why I don't trust people hundred percent. Mo matter how close a person there is still a probability for such thing to happen. Just because if they betray me some day I will not feel really disappointed. I don't like and don't want to have enemy so for me the enemy is also my friends but they are the bad one and the dishonest friends who like to pretend they are also in this category~(^^)
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 May 12
hello sis
Glad to see you again :)
Yes, some best-friends turns into worst enemy and everything you shared with that person he/she will use it to blackmail once the friendship broke up.
It's very sad how close/best friends turns into enemy.
I lost my bestfriend, but we never end up as enemy.
It's just we lost communication and when we find each other again- we don't feel comfortable like the same- so, we turn into ordinary friends.
It's okay, at least we're still friends.
Of course, we don't want to have enemy, but we cannot avoid people who dislike us even without a reason.
It's just- they don't like us and we don't like them too.
Have a good day always and see you again
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 May 12
Indeed, time changed a person and too bad, some people changed from good to bad :(
That's the best thing we can do- move forward and find other people who might become our bestfriend forever
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
25 May 12
Yes, time changed us. When we are not getting together for some time and when we have a chance to meet each other we found that its not going to be the same. Everything has changed. Then we move forward and find other people to be our new friends. Its great to have a friend that always be the best friend forever~(^^)
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
27 May 12
Well, there is one way to avoid a secret enemy. Follow this saying and you should be alright. "Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear." Those are words to live by. Also there was a line in the movie The Godfather, and the line is this, "Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer."
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
28 May 12
hello inertia,
Secret enemy mostly comes from the closest/dear friends.
Worst is- a family member.
What part and who said such line from "The Godfather" :)
Thanks and have a great day
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
31 May 12
Oh, it's Andy
I love this movie- sorry, memory gap.
thanks for the link - I feel like watching the whole 3 parts again :p
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Hello dear jai! I missed you yesterday! Where were you?!
Honestly,I never like back fighters! It's better that they tell me if he/she doesn't want anything that I do rather than keeping to himself/herself but when I'm around and facing him/her,it seems okay. I call them plastic,hehe!
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 May 12
hello cutie,
So sorry about yesterday, but I've already wrote my reason to your topic (hehehe)
We still have more up coming activities and our church building is under renovation- and I need to check things every now and then as well.
Just confirm me if you can make it on June 11,2012 Monday at Araneta...
and let's enjoy the past with the AIRSUPPLY...
I mean...past love-songs....hahahahaha
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
23 May 12
I wish to go my dear jai but I can't,waaa!! But don't worry,you are right,I know we will have our concert date some other time. I think that would be two years from now,ngek!
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 May 12
no worries too...I am sure Araneta Coliseum will still be there after 2 years
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
24 May 12
I agree with the statement 100%. No real friend would stab you in the back.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
25 May 12
Hard to fine and even harder to keep at times.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 May 12
hello sarah,
Exactly!
And a real friend is rare to find as well
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
23 May 12
I have lots of friend but I only have few true friends, I just consider the other friends I have are only pretending that they are and when I turn my back they have many against words me. It is right I better know the true words of my enemy not like friends who only pretend they are and say something sweet words but comes from their nose (labas sa ilong)
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 May 12
hello lyn,
We can never please everyone right- so be it.
We don't force ourselves to everyone as well- and sometimes having few friends is much better to maintain than a group.
yah...labas sa ilong, ngongo tuloy
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Jul 12
hello neil,
Although we cannot avoid those kind of people among our friends, it's sad when it happens.
The betrayed trust and love we've given to that person suddenly become worthless :(
have a great day dear brother
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Yes, sometimes, we really do not know who our true friends are. Some may backstab us, or will put us down. I have many people around me who do the same. At first, I was very disappointed that I own them as friends but eventually, I just realized that we are living in a world wherein the word 'friend' has different meanings. So I'll just go with the flow. The best I can do is to treat them fairly, and to keep my conscience clear. If they do something wrong to me, then let it be. I have done my part so I will not regret losing them. They say keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
hello Paper Doll,
Friends really comes in different kinds, like attitude and character.
There are friends who only remember us when they needed something.
There are friends who only remember our existence when we send them a message.
There are friends who come and go- for short time.
That is really something to think- keep the enemy closer and make friends with them :p
have a good day
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
7 Jun 12
There are persons who always stab at ones back, they have no courage to face or even talk, i know there are many, i hate them from core of my heart...; an honest enemy is much better for sure..
hugs from maa
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
dear maa,
There are different kind of people around and a silent enemy usually comes from friends.
Hugs to you and dada
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
24 May 12
jai,
hmmmm... yeah I got one!
and since the time I learned about her fabricated stories about me... I became cold to her whenever she called me. She felt it and good that she never called again. I did not confronted her coz I know she will just deny it.
So I have to agree that it is better a person honestly tell me anything she doesn't like about me or things she thinks about me. rather than know from someone that a 'dear' friend is talking crazy things about me.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 May 12
en
It hurts when someone we consider a dear and trusted friend is stabbing our back.
The worst part is- we are the last to know.
I agree with your decision not to confront her- I am sure she will deny it.
And your cold treatment is enough to make her feel she is a traitor.
Have a good day and take care always
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
25 May 12
Yes jai coz if she isn't guilty about something wrong she's telling behind me, and since we are a close friend... she should have asked me what's wrong with me. And why am I just answering her with a yes or no only and even not excited anymore talking with her on the phone. If I am a real friend of someone and that friend suddenly changed, I would surely asked what's wrong, so that I could make it right if someone just wants our friendship be broken. But with our case, I learned about it with a trusted source. They were not in good terms that time which maybe prompted the guy to tell it to me. After some months they became okay again and I am sure the guy regrets why he had told it to me. But I am thankful at least we are no longer friends, and she won't be able to stab my back.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
23 May 12
Hahahha Yeah, I have a "friend" who doesn't like me. I didn't do anything to her, she just dislike me because she is jealous. And one our friends told me that she is talking behind my back and I just ignored it. Everytime she sees me, she is like acting as a good friend, but deep inside she hates me. hahhaha And now, I cannot stand being with her. I don't like to see, talk or even look at her anymore. I am not plastic and I wanna give her a message that I don't like her anymore.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 May 12
hello chicgale,
Actually, we cannot avoid people who dislikes us without a reason.
I mean, like we don't feel comfortable with someone although he/she haven't done anything bad towards us.
So it is the same- some people don't like without a reason.
But if the person is showing rudeness without a reason-well, that is another case.
Yes, it is better to tell her honestly that you don't like her too
have a great day
@suni51 (3429)
• India
2 Jul 12
Yes I agree as I have seen some friends who would never miss a chance to back-stab you but an hones enemy would at least warn you before making a harm to you. I mean he is a declared enemy so you shall be careful dealing with him as against the friend while dealing with him you won't have any such idea.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
2 Jul 12
hello suni,
Thanks for agreeing.
But it's not easy to know among friends who is your secret enemy :xx
have a great day
@oderog (731)
• Kenya
24 May 12
I do agree with that but not only your enemy but a true friend should be able to tell you what you don't want to hear, only that confronting such situation may be difficult as many friends would not prefer to be told the truth, and your enemy will find it easier telling you what you don't want to hear.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 May 12
hello oredog,
Yes, friends can't just say what they want to say, but a real friends will tell you things eventhu it hurts.
Real friends are those who criticize you and will stay no matter how bad you are to other people.
Real friend will help you to change and will lead you the right way- will walk with you and will never leave you.
thanks and have a good day
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
25 May 12
yes i would much rahter have a freind who is honest with me about anything then a freind who goes behind my back and says things about me or puts me down to other people and then is friends with me to my face and behind my back a back stabber me and my freind are always honest with each other and it works well for us...
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 May 12
hello laken,
Honesty is the best policy and I agree with that.
No matter if we hurt our friend because we're being honest, that is better than telling other people what we feel towards our best friend.
Besides- gossiping won't help our relationship with our friends.
Sit down and talk with that friend-share our feelings is the best way to mend whatever misunderstanding.
Thanks and have a great weekend
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
29 May 12
Hi jaiho: I agree with this statement. A fake friend is actually a hidden enemy. At least when you know someone is hating you, you know what to expect about this person. It's quite the opposite when you have a so called 'friend' that has other intentions and may hurt you.
ALVARO
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 May 12
hello Alvaro,
Yes, a fake friend is always in hiding.
You can see them smiling at you but behind that smile they are planning to kill you.
Unlike with enemy who verbally say and look at you with anger- you know how to avoid them.
The bad thing is- a friend that betrays really hurts us bad.
thanks and have a great day
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
hello Yheart,
That's the only consolation after the pain of knowing a cheater friend- we learn from it.
Sometimes, we learn more from pain than happiness :)
thanks and have a good day
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 May 12
hello TheIzers,
Sorry about it :(
I know it hurts when we heard or read something that give us reminder of bad things
Anyway, thanks and keep mylotting
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
24 May 12
hello akobuday,
Yes, the saying is true.
Although , not all friendship ends like that way.
It depends on each individual being/characteristics/attitude and upbringing.
Thanks and have a good day