Marrying Again

in my opinion to each his own. I know someone who has married 5 times. She thought that she was being carful and all 4 of those men were really mean to her. not going into detail of what happen but you get the picture. Now the 5th marriage it is the best for her. This guy treats this woman like she is made of gold. I am very happy for her and her husband. Now,What about those people that never marry and have tons and tons of boyfriends?

Wow, that is too much, I mean usually it's celebrities that go around marrying and divorcing and remarrying and just treating marriage like a piece of paper or something. Seems like she is too idealistic and wanting the perfect husband and the perfect marriage but guess what...there's no such thing as a perfect husband or a perfect marriage. My own marriage was on the rocks at least 2 times but we're still married and very dedicated to keeping the marriage alive. Here's an American lady who's married 23 times and married the world's most married man - 29 times married, and she's on the lookout for Husband #24 - http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/4796811/Grandmother-is-most-married-woman-after-tying-the-knot-23-times.html - heh - she even made it into the Guiness Book of World Records!! :-p

It sounds like she is a serial monogamist. There again she could just be trying to find the right man and keeps falling for the wrong kind of man. I see nothing wrong with what she is doing. There are things you just have to learn from experience. You can only really know if a person is right for you by living with them and if she does not like that then she would marry them and when it did not work out divorce them. I have two nephews, one had a girlfriend who would not live with him outside of marriage and the other lived with his girlfriend for a few years. The first one dated his girl for about 5 years or more and then they married in a big wedding, they were divorced 2 years later. It seems that she found him too hard to live with or maybe she thought she would change him after marriage and found out she couldn't, I am not really sure as I have not spoken to either since it happened. The second one married his long time partner and they are very happily married. The thing is that no matter how well you think you know someone you don't. Living with someone is so different from just dating them. But I was once told that you never know a man until you live with him and that is true and it is also true of women. So if she is unable to just live with men she marries them and then finds out if they are ok or not. It is also possible that she rushes in too soon or that the men she is attracted to do not show their true colours until after they are married. Personally I think she is better off trying to live with them first and see if they are right for her. As to your question, yes, my partner has been married a few times and because of those experiences swore he would never marry again. We are not married but we have been together for longer than any of his marriages lasted and we are very happy.

I had a great grandmother that married 6 times but I never knew her. Most of my friends and acquaintances are one their second marriage and doing quite well. Or, like me, they elect to stay single. I think the key to a successful second marriage is taking time to find out why the first one failed. People all too often keep choosing the same type of person to marry and make no changes in themselves, discover nothing new about what motivates them and so they make the same mistakes again and again. They are doomed to fail because they haven't solved the underlying problem, choosing the wrong personality to "fall in love" with. It's actually a kind of dependency, I think. I hope your friend somehow changes his bride's losing streak and puts her in touch with whatever it is that makes her pick men who are wrong for her. I wish them happiness although the odds aren't on their side.

If this is less traumatic for her than to be single, or stay in a relationship without being married, I'd say she's doing the right thing. I know a man who's been married 6 times - AND had a child with each of the wives. You'd think it's a messed up family - but it's not. The children are a very tight group (the oldest one is in a marriage that's already longer than any of his father's), the wives maintain a very decent social relationship, none seems to be scarred for life, at least from what I can tell from a distance. If the ex mothers in law get together, though, it's an absolute blast I also know people who have never recovered after one divorce, so it depends. But look on the bright side - you get to eat wedding cake 5 times

that sounds a bit odd on her part i must say. i think honestly if you friend goes through with this then he will be divorce #5. more than likely it will not be his fault and he will just be hear broken over the whole thing

I don't personally know anyone like this.. but seems to me with so many failed relationships, she is most likely the problem, not them. When my husband and I were first dating, his sister had just gotten married. She's all about trying to prove how she's so much better than anyone else. So that Christmas there was a big to-do about who was going to host Christmas dinner. She wanted it at her house so she could show off. Hubby's parents wanted it at their house for tradition. Unfortunately SIL was going to invite her husband's entire family, which I'd never met. At the time my oldest son was about 4 (no other kids yet) and he was very hyper. I didn't feel comfortable bringing him around people I didn't know. What if they didn't like that he was hyper and unmanageable? I felt more comfortable going to the in-laws because they were used to my son. So that started this big war between hubby and his sister because he told her we would not go to her house (because of me and my son as well as the fact that his parents didn't like the idea either). But he told her my reasons for not wanting to go.. and to that she said "We are married and you aren't, so that makes my husband more family to you than her and her son!". That was about 11 years ago. She's now on her second marriage and me and hubby are still together. Hmmm..

I think she is not contented to those men and or she has a nature that men doesn't like at all

I know quite a few women who are with their 3rd husbands. I guess they are happy now . . . and they say their current marriage has been the longest one. Maybe for some people it takes several tries to find Mr. Right? I personally can't relate . . . I've been with my hubby for many, many years (since before he was my hubby) - he is my first husband and I can't imagine divorcing him or ever marrying anyone else! That's just me.

We've all seen these in movies or TV, but I've never known anybody who's married more than a couple of times. Although it says that he or she does not take marriage seriously (because he or she opts for divorce when it doesn't work), it does sound nice to think that he or she may be na eternal optimist. Someone who thinks that the right soul mate is still out there.

There are many guys who has married more than 2 times, they was sad after getting divorced but they would be happy back so fast and continue dating again and then do married. Somehow it is good also because they can't stand living alone for a while, they need a marriage life even though they did fail with it many times before.

I guess that's the privilege of having divorce legal in a country. when things aren't working anymore, just a piece of paper to sign on and it's done. Unlike here in my country, getting an annulment is harder and it takes awhile. 5th marriage? as long as there is a pre nuptial and she is accepted for what she has gone with, it's alright. The only difference is she's not a celebrity like we are used to read on news changing man over again.

Maybe she still haven met the guy whom she felt that she can spend a lifetime with? I mean, all these do not matter if the both of them are fine with it. As long as they are happy, I guess there isn't a problem at all.

Wow. Really five? Wow. I mean, I don't know what to really say to that. I am divorced myself because my ex was cheating on me and after a few years that we were married we didn't get along anymore, so we went our separate ways, but it wasn't a messy divorce. I have been with my current hubby for six years now, and we both joke that we're going to be the happy old couple that is in a home, I will know him as the nice man, and he will know me as the pretty lady. My aunt went through husbands for a while, like most people go through socks and she looks back on those times and says it was because she was hopelessly romantic and once the 'hunnymoon' was over then she honestly felt that she found any reason to get out because it wasn't as 'fun' as it was in the beginning, so she'd make up a reason or cause a fight or something to get out of it and start again. She is older now and has been married to her husband for 10 years, but her bit of advice to me was to, and I quote "Never do what I did, learn from me and if you feel happy and safe, work at it, don't be lazy." And I have. But really husbands aren't like shoes are cars or even dinnerware- they are not hobbies either and if she has had 5 of them in the past, I would be worried about her AND him. Be supportive though, if he is happy then be happy with him. If she drops him like day old news then really be there for him, just don't tell him "I told you so".

Some people have commitment issues. Your friend's intended bride sounds like she is one. I agree that it sounds like your friend is destined to be ex-husband #5. However, it sounds like he's pretty well blinded to her faults, and he will just have to learn things the hard way.

Wow, fifth!? I am still recovering my 1st divorce.. I don't think I will be able to survive another! I've never really met anyone who's married more than twice actually but I see a lot on TV. Seriously, talk about optimism!

I know someone in our place and I think it we must be sure enough that our relationship with someone will last for lifetime. Keeping a relationship stronger is very hard but ending up in a failure is only a choice we have made.

My opinion is , its their own decision.

i have been married before, but i do want to marry again. but i think if it doesnt work the second time, then either its me or i jus dont know what i am looking for. so i havent even thought of marrying again because the last time was during a time that i know i wasnt ready..and i only did it because she asked me..so the next time i decide to waste someones life..i want to make sure i am ready to do that. but when i give marriage one more time..it will be my last..so on my end..im going all in!

To me marriage is something that should only be done once if it works great if not then it wasnt ment to be, maybe a second time if u meet that right woman/man, but 3-5 times is a lil extreme... i have two cousind that have both been married three times, one is in his 3rd marriage and the other is divorced from his 3rd wife...i ask them y do they keep getting married to women u barely even know thinking that this marriage is gonna wrk...getting to know somone take time nothing that can be rushed...and jumping into a marriage just to say ur married is a lil crazy if u ask me but for someone to be nmarried 5time and divorced all five makes me beklieve she is trying to get something out of the situation or she is just the worse wife ever.. if ima waist all those yerars out of my like getting married and getting a divorce there has to be somethig in it for me because that doesnt look good on your resume when u are trying to find real love..