I'm sick of this!

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Warning: This is going to be long! Most of you all know full-well what a b*tch my sister in law is. I thought after my FIL died, we'd be done dealing with her, but apparently I was wrong. When FIL died I wanted to have a service for him so my kids could say goodbye, but unfortunately we couldn't afford it. SIL said that FIL did not want a service so she would not help us pay for one and if we had one anyway she'd tell the entire family not to show up. Instead she threw a little memorial thing this past weekend where both my in-laws were buried. I refused to go because this was her show and not what I wanted. My kids have already dealt with their grandfather's passing and I didn't want to bring all those feelings back for them, so we stayed home. Hubby went though.. and came home very upset. First of all he was upset before even going because he knew a bunch of people would show up that didn't belong there, like all his cousins who live nearby but couldn't be bothered to call, write, or speak to the in-laws in like 20 years. He also did not like a lot of the choices his sister made with the arrangements, such as her idea to play the bagpipes at the memorial (which he said she did terribly, although she's a music teacher). Apparently she even brought her husband (who my in laws had never met), his parents (again, my in laws never met), and a friend of her hubby's (that nobody knew). But what really bugged hubby was that nobody except his aunt and a few other guests had the decency to say anything to him. None of his cousins said they were sorry for his loss, nothing. He came home right after the funeral, but apparently SIL invited everyone out to a restaurant where she proceeded to talk badly about my husband. When FIL died, hubby was named executor of the estate. He got the car, the house, and all it's contents. SIL was left a TV, which she's already taken. She had asked hubby for a few other things, and to keep the peace he said yes, but that he hadn't gotten to them yet. In fact, when we moved into the house we threw most everything into the garage and haven't cleaned it out yet. He told her we needed time and money to get a dumpster, and then she'd have what she wants. Well, she told everyone on Sunday that she asked for these things but that he hadn't given them to her yet. She completely left out the part that he explained that she would get them as soon as we got a dumpster. So hubby's aunt called him a couple days ago and asked him why she hasn't gotten this stuff yet. He told her about needing a dumpster, then she proceeds to offer to pay for it. Now, so far as I know this aunt doesn't necessarily like hubby's sister either.. so that makes me wonder why the heck she's trying to kiss SIL's a$$? Hubby said that the aunt put it as "getting SIL of our a$$es".. but she has not been on us about getting this stuff.. and who cares. Hubby has the right to tell her she can't have anything from this house because the will states it all belongs to him, except the 1 TV she already has. Probate is finalized, there's nothing she can do. Yet she's got the whole family thinking we're deadbeats, freeloaders, and terrible people just because her's is the only story anyone listens to (mostly because the only part of the family we speak to is the 1 aunt). Now, I had thought the plan was to play nice with SIL until probate was finalized, because up until then she could fight us and we'd lose the house which we're already living in.. and knowing her she'd do it out of spite. Hubby said as soon as it was over, we'd be done with her and she wouldn't have a single thing. But now the aunt is going to pay for the dumpster.. so we have to give SIL that stuff otherwise the aunt will be mad at us too. I'm really starting to feel like everyone is on SIL's side, and nobody is on ours. SIL didn't do anything for her parents while they were alive except cause problems. She didn't even speak to her mother for years before her mother died, and even said she wouldn't go to MIL's funeral (although she did show up). What gives her the right to be all involved now that they're gone? What gives her the right to ask for anything in this house aside from what her father said she could have? What gives hubby's aunt the right to side with SIL? It's so very frustrating!!