My sister is becoming a bigger problem

I could relate with that situation. I have a half-brother who is always depending to mom and to us his siblings. He is such a stubborn kid and spoiled. My other siblings were giving up in supporting him and mom is almost giving up too. He stayed not with mom because she has her other family and his father has other family too, yet either of them he could choose to stay. Presently he stayed with our cousin who doesn't have enough income for a living. Both of his parents never support him often for they wanted him to learn and understand how difficult life it will be if he will just keep on roaming around without educating himself well. I, his only sister left that supports him but not often too. I'm the only sister that he could approach easily just to tell anything about him and asking me suggestions on what he will do next. He doesn't have other choice but to listen to me for the world is against him already. So happy that he passed the placement test that way he could pursue studying in high school. I just hope and pray that for the bitterness in life that he experienced he could open his eyes to make his life better.

How old is your sister? I imagine that you are not handing her money if you do not agree to her way of living. I don´t like people to ask for money except if it´s for an emergency. In those cases I think that we are all willing to help out if we can.

I think she will eventually come to her senses when nobody is making it easy for her... you know that she is always lying around and waiting for the "apple" to drop because she know it will eventually come to her hands with out efforts.. and in this case your family is the gravity that pulls to her the things she need.

it is too bad that people are facilitating this behaviour. she sounds sort of like a princess to me. until people stop bailing her out, she will not get any better.

If she never is listening to you the only thing you can do is: keep your wallet closed! Stay out of her way and let her live her own life. Probably she will always find someone who will give her money and who will believe her stories (lies). That is out of your hands. You take care of yourself, reprimand her if she is doing you wrong and let others do that to her or lost the game she is playing with them.

Maybe you can talk to who's giving her money to stop tolerating your sister. If she already have a new work then she can support herself. It will be a lot of trouble if she keeps depending on other people. Leaving her alone to tend on her own needs will be a good way for her to grow up and learn to be sensitive about others feelings towards her. Hope this help. :)

I have a brother who is a little bit like this. He is always asking for money, and people just give it to him without asking any questions about what he is going to be using it for. I don't like that, because he has never had a job, and I am the one who is working full time yet I have to lend him money. If I say no to him, I get told that I am not a good sister because I should be supporting my brother, but there is no reason at all that he couldn't go out and get a job just like I could, so I am not prepared to work harder just so that I can afford to give him money whenever he needs it.

Then you need to asked her in order to find out what she's been doing on that day. I hope she will get job soon. Otherwise it will make the other family members feel something. Perhaps the others dislike it but they could not just let her just like that and that is why they are still helping her.(^^)

You should keep a check on your sisters deeds.If she is in real trouble then helping her is no issue but if she is cheating all those who are giving her money than this thing should be seriously taken into action.

Well, those people around her who tolerate then complaining about her do not do any good for her at all... They have to stop giving her money so she will be forced to look after herself. What they are doing by attending to her every needs is just somewhat encouraging her to perhaps lie about having another job and other not-so-good things...

I just do not like people like that.

Careful. Not a good sign if u ask me. If things don't go as it should better pay more attention to her.