My sister is becoming a bigger problem

@lady1993 (27224)
Philippines
May 23, 2012 8:27pm CST
and she still asks for money.. and people around her are still tolerating her..It is quite annoying that the people around her are complaining but still attend to her needs.. they give her money when she asks and she just sends them on applying to different stuff. She just lost her job but she said she got another one.. She also says she is going on interviews but is still going home at 10 pm.. what does she do that is taking so much time?.. I hope someone reprimands her, since she never listens to me.
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12 responses
24 May 12
I could relate with that situation. I have a half-brother who is always depending to mom and to us his siblings. He is such a stubborn kid and spoiled. My other siblings were giving up in supporting him and mom is almost giving up too. He stayed not with mom because she has her other family and his father has other family too, yet either of them he could choose to stay. Presently he stayed with our cousin who doesn't have enough income for a living. Both of his parents never support him often for they wanted him to learn and understand how difficult life it will be if he will just keep on roaming around without educating himself well. I, his only sister left that supports him but not often too. I'm the only sister that he could approach easily just to tell anything about him and asking me suggestions on what he will do next. He doesn't have other choice but to listen to me for the world is against him already. So happy that he passed the placement test that way he could pursue studying in high school. I just hope and pray that for the bitterness in life that he experienced he could open his eyes to make his life better.
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@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
24 May 12
i think someone needs to cut the cord already. if one says something like'oh im not gonna give him money' and then when u turn ur back 'he's got money. i have a friend like that but she uses her looks to get what she wants. she's what one would call high maintenence. someone who works but needs more!
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
I do hope your half-brother can finish school this time.. it is so sad having young people like this...living their lives using other people's hard earned money. How old is he by the way?
9 Jun 12
My brother is already 17 years old. He enrolled himself already in high school in my aunts place, quite far from mom and his dad. I just hope that he will be a good student because that is only for his future.
@marguicha (222142)
• Chile
24 May 12
How old is your sister? I imagine that you are not handing her money if you do not agree to her way of living. I don´t like people to ask for money except if it´s for an emergency. In those cases I think that we are all willing to help out if we can.
@marguicha (222142)
• Chile
25 May 12
Maybe it´s a matter of a little more time. And although it´s easy to be upset if you are more responsible, remember not everyone growns up at the same time. I´m sure your father will know when to say "stop". Take care.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
My sister is turning 20 this year.. I do not agree with her way of living, but i don't have any money either.. i don't have a say in it. My father is just to kind that he still gives whenever she asks.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
30 May 12
I think she will eventually come to her senses when nobody is making it easy for her... you know that she is always lying around and waiting for the "apple" to drop because she know it will eventually come to her hands with out efforts.. and in this case your family is the gravity that pulls to her the things she need.
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I hope she wakes up one day and realizes and understands our situation fully. That we have no money to spend on not so necessary stuff..She does have a job though.. i hope she keeps it and earns a lot in it.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
24 May 12
it is too bad that people are facilitating this behaviour. she sounds sort of like a princess to me. until people stop bailing her out, she will not get any better.
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
I don't think people will stop helping her since she is really friendly and nice- she gets along with people easily so she has lots of close friends among our relatives.. I do hope she can learn to stand on her own someday, or at least learn to budget money.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
30 May 12
If she never is listening to you the only thing you can do is: keep your wallet closed! Stay out of her way and let her live her own life. Probably she will always find someone who will give her money and who will believe her stories (lies). That is out of your hands. You take care of yourself, reprimand her if she is doing you wrong and let others do that to her or lost the game she is playing with them.
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Well yeah, i can keep my wallet closed.. but my parents and relatives can't.. She just doesn't understand our situation, we were never even rich, but she acts like we are..
• Philippines
24 May 12
Maybe you can talk to who's giving her money to stop tolerating your sister. If she already have a new work then she can support herself. It will be a lot of trouble if she keeps depending on other people. Leaving her alone to tend on her own needs will be a good way for her to grow up and learn to be sensitive about others feelings towards her. Hope this help. :)
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
My mother already did that- they complain to my mother too, but it is their(relatives) fault why she became like that.. She does have a job now, but she is starting on JUne- i hope she keeps this job..
@GemmaR (8517)
24 May 12
I have a brother who is a little bit like this. He is always asking for money, and people just give it to him without asking any questions about what he is going to be using it for. I don't like that, because he has never had a job, and I am the one who is working full time yet I have to lend him money. If I say no to him, I get told that I am not a good sister because I should be supporting my brother, but there is no reason at all that he couldn't go out and get a job just like I could, so I am not prepared to work harder just so that I can afford to give him money whenever he needs it.
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
Your brother is worse.. Why doesn't he get a job? People can't just live by asking money from others.. in the end, people need to live by themselves, since what if those who give him money are gone?
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
24 May 12
Then you need to asked her in order to find out what she's been doing on that day. I hope she will get job soon. Otherwise it will make the other family members feel something. Perhaps the others dislike it but they could not just let her just like that and that is why they are still helping her.(^^)
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
I do ask her, but then i don't really trust everything that she says since she lies sometimes, and i can't tell when she is telling the truth. She says she has a job and will be starting in a few weeks..
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
25 May 12
That is the problem when we got the experience knowing that the person could tell lies to us but I hope she is telling the truth that she is already got the job otherwise it will be hard for you to trust her anymore when she asked for another help.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
YEah, but sometimes i just couldn't help helping her too. since she is still my sister and we had memories together.. and i have no idea when she is telling a lie or not.
@ankster (273)
• India
24 May 12
You should keep a check on your sisters deeds.If she is in real trouble then helping her is no issue but if she is cheating all those who are giving her money than this thing should be seriously taken into action.
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
I can't really check on her or watch her like a hawk ,since she is not living with us anymore.. She is living with my grandmother since my mom got tired of her going home so late and having a really messy room.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
24 May 12
Well, those people around her who tolerate then complaining about her do not do any good for her at all... They have to stop giving her money so she will be forced to look after herself. What they are doing by attending to her every needs is just somewhat encouraging her to perhaps lie about having another job and other not-so-good things...
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@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
Yes, i agree- those people around her just made her worse.. since she knows she can get what she wants anyway. My mother tried to tell her those and to the people around her to- but nothing changes.
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@stlouis (103)
• United States
24 May 12
I just do not like people like that.
@lady1993 (27224)
• Philippines
25 May 12
Well, yeah- i do not like people like that too. But what can i do she's my sister and i still love her..
• Spain
5 Jun 12
Careful. Not a good sign if u ask me. If things don't go as it should better pay more attention to her.