Inheritance: source of family dispute

It's certainly true. nowadays people valued much with money that they are willing to eliminate ties and even killed person who are same blood with.Values recently are degrading that leads them to worship the inheritance more compared the family which is very important.Not to brag but my grandfather has a big portion of land and it's not yet divided properly, I'm hoping that we will be to give much importance on values than money in the future.

I fully agree with you, your son, daughter, wife, parents, mother can become your worst enemy only for money paternal property self acquired property etc, this is not limited to rich only but most families ENJOY A HAPPY WEEKEND Prof.Dr. B.Saraf. PhD

Hello Sishy, I hope that doesn't happen to me because we seemed to have a lot of stuff being kept just in case mom would die. to be honest am not prepared for this inheritance thing, but i hope what ever it is i can fully manage it. am glad my brother's aren't that much greedy but we may never really know. have a nice day

Yep. It happened to both of my parents (and our families are not even wealthy)! When my mother's father (my grandfather) passed away, his only son (my mother's brother) took everything. His wife said that since they were only ones that took him in to take care of him, THEY deserved to take it all. That put a big thorn in the family -- and everyone says what a worm my uncle was for taking his bossy wife's side of things. When my dad's mother (my grandmother in Japan ) passed away, my uncle made a big stink about taking everything. He felt he deserved everything because he was the oldest son (technically he was, but there were 4 other older siblings that were his half siblings - one of which was THE actual oldest son as my grandmother treated all 8 of these kids as her own). Anyway, so he had my youngest aunt who lives here had been scheming to take the family inheritance. Seems when my grandmother passed away, his horns came out and showed themselves. Not that my dad wanted anything, but he felt what his own brother did was wrong - and when he told all the siblings about it, no one really supported my dad. It just became this whole ugly ball of resentment and deceit . . . it's not even the end yet. Very unfortunate and sad.

I remember when Randy mom had passed away (at the time we were engaged, but I still called her mom because she treated me like a daughter) his SIL wanted his mom's Good China, but I got it because his mom had given it to me as a welcome to the family gift and she also knew that I would not sell it. I also remember that when his mom was sick I would be there to take care of her so randy could go to work. I always bought her anything she wanted (she was on Social Security) and would shop once a month and forget to save some money for food (such as milk and bread which needed to be bought weekly) and I went out and bought (and never asked her for money) she tried to give me money, but I always told her no. When his mom ended up in the hospital because her kidney's shut down I left class early and Randy picked me up to so I could be at the hospital with him. Well, they transferred to another hospital three hours away I missed school to be there because she meant eveything to me. His SIL said why does she have to be there she is not family. Randy said, "first off my fiancee has a real name and secondly, in mom's eyes and mine she is already family". If you are going to be involved so is Darlene. The inheritance was not split evenly because for some reason my SIL had Randy's mom change the power of attorney to her instead of Randy.

lol, well I don't think I have to worry about inheritance ripping my family. I don't any of us are getting much of anything. But who knows maybe they will surprise.

I had a very bad argument with a member of my family over money that somebody had left in their will. They had left everything to my Brother and I, as we had been the ones to look after them when they were dying. My cousins had not done anything, but they then wanted to know why they hadn't been given anything when he passed away. They said that they thought I should split the money with them as there was rather a lot of it, but I said that if he had wanted his money to go to them, he would have put it in the will that he wanted it to be the case, so I wasn't going to budge on the issue at all.

I think that is both sad and tragic enough to lose a loved one.When squabbles come between family members over inheritance it diminishes the memory and the respect of the one we have lost. Our true colors seem to rise to the surface when something of value is left to someone and someone else thinks they are deserving of having it instead. What would our loved ones think of us to see us argue and bicker over something so trivial?

good day sishy7, what you have been posted is absolutely correct. that is really happening most often than not. as the reason why, others defines it, the money is the root of all evils - since, a lot of people do become enemies when money is at stake. aside from that, close family bonding within a home was being destructed because of that. and it is a sad thing to know that due to that small piece, a big effect was done.

That is very true...it is a petty to have all the circus in life just because of money but alot of people are dying because of this, alot of those close families build walls in between them and most of all allies becomes enemies. It is so sad that something like this happens specially to those who are well brought up by their parents, the least expected people to have issues are the people who can have this kind of a problem, I can definitely relate because I am also a victim of family feud over a property, though ours is not really those of the noisy one, it looks like it is a silent war between us, us as nieces versus our land grabber aunt....I may not have a lot of power and energy to fight them and conquer them but I have enough to let them know that I am doing something instead of nothing...I am just wondering if they can still sleep at night knowing that they have stolen something somebody.