Contact with the ex....

I have also had a horrible break up. It is now four and a half years since she left and took the kids. I do call the kids every night and I do have contact with the evil ex. But I still do not want to communicate with her. I just want to disappear. I understand how you feel. I am also in therapy. I go every week and I don't know if it is helping or not. I guess I am strong minded.

Really? The therapist suggested it? Well...I guess it depends on the circumstances. For me, I have found that leaving bad things behind have been best for me. I usually look forward and leave all the baggage that I can in the ditch. If you need to go back for closure..I say do it but if your ok with breakup..I would say move forward.

Without knowing all the reasons why your marriage didn't work out and what went on between the two of you, it's impossible for anyone else to advise. But if it doesn't seem right to you, go with your gut instinct. I don't really see why you need to talk to him if it's all over.

Well I think a therapist studied enough to know what it's talking about, yes I think we need closure and there was a very difficult ex-relationship that only after 13 years later I saw him and it was kind of a closure, we didn't talk but he was drooling so it felt good in a sort of revenge I didn't plan. I think we all need. Sometimes just to see them might help. But I don't know if it is healthy to try a friendship or being closer, I know people that done that but I couldn't. Of course it depends on each person.

Hey there yes I have my ex and me had been together 4 years on and off and a child later and after about 3 months he contacted me again so when he did I asked what he wanted when found out it was him