Hubby and wife, both have jobs?

hi shibby! to be practical in these times, couples often tend to both have jobs to finance the growing needs of the family especially when it comes to the cost of education for their children. sometimes, one working parent is insufficient to cover all expenses. however, if the husband earns well and can support the needs and wants of the family, sometimes the wife will opt to stay at home to take care of the domestic needs of the family. so it depends on the financial status of the couple. earning 2 incomes is better but cannot fully compensate to the neglect of caring for the children and domestic bliss. some people can successfully juggle both the home and the job. although many wives/mothers work out of need, some women work because of the financial independence and personal as well as professional accomplishment. and it's something that should not be taken away from any person unless by personal choice to give up or pursue. just so to preserve self worth. once i'm married, even if my husband is financially stable, i will still want to earn my own money. while taking care of my family (husband and children) and home will be my priority, i believe i can still earn a living to help support them. for the last 5 years i've been doing freelance work and the latter half of that time i am doing my business at home... which can be ideal to be a stay-at-home wife and mother in the future yet be financially independent at the same time. i wouldn't want to fully rely on my husband and i will definitely take an active part of the responsibility for the family we would be building. this would be my choice. but women have different needs and wants and we choose accordingly. i hope your marriage life will be happy and fulfilling. please take note that in any relationship, a couple may be two different individuals. but to arrive at the same goals, each takes part of any decision-making. one can lead at times, but both should be supportive at all times.

Unlike you I see marriage as the women losing Every right to make Any decisions , including having a job or not. See I'm very old fashioned when it comes to marriage. The only reason I would marry is to be forced to have his kids. So of course I assume I would be home! But many a woman wants marriage And their career. Me? I just want to be happy so that is why I will Never marry! Enough about me. I'm glad you have chosen well. I hope your marriage is filled with joy, truly. Take Care.

I feel that now it is not as easy as before to have a stable job, so it´s a good idea if both spouses are able to earn a living. That does not mean the the wife (or the husband) can stay at home for some time if needed. Life looks easy when you are young. But many times things happen that make it important for the wife to help financially.

I think so too- having two parents with jobs would mean the child won't grow that without their guidance. I think one parent should stay at home to take care of the kids, but they should do it simultaneously.. and not just the mom stay at home. Since there will come a time when the mom wants to work too. So the dad should stay at home for a while- or they should just start their own business at home.

Hi, Feel happy that you are not against the working women. I think today the scenario is changing and as the girls are educated too they prefer working not only for the financial stability of the family but also for the secured future of their children. Every day is not same as we face both ups and downs. As of now I work for full time and my husband has started own services. Since he is not established, I feel, it is my responsibility to support and help him run the family. Of course I do manage my children and I am there for them anytime. Sure I would love to give up my job for my children but then I need to do something sitting at home. I mean I need to get myself engaged in some or the work which can give me financial independence as well. There was a time when we both were out of home at 8 am, left the kids at crèche and we meet them only at 8 p.m. That made me leave my job and I was happy at home. So I did take breaks from my career at the need of hour. Now my children are grown up (14 & 11) but still I would love to be with them full day. Again, I can guarantee you my hubby will happily accept me with job or without job.

Hi shibham, Yes I would give up my job if my family is financially stable. It is really better that parents, especially the wife is taking care of the kids personally rather than leaving them to parents or nanny. But if the guy is earning very little which is not enough to sustain the family's especially the kids needs, then I would help the guy (hubby) and manage my time so I can still have even a short time to do the chores at home and even be with kids.

It is good for the wife to stay at home, take care of the house and care for the children, if that is her desire. Both of you will have to be very budget minded, as families cost a lot of money. The days of putting the children to work on the family farm is only a vague memory of the distant past.

i think it depends on my earning if my earning is enough for our living, why my wife must work??and she must leave her duty as wife and mother?/

Hi mamu I never had any such thoughts. My wife was a working lady - and you know when we got married I was in a job which was well paid. I had no specifics - like I never thought whether I need a working wife or a housewife. I only needed a wife. In today's world, it is better though that both hubby and wife work. Reason is simple - women are individuals too and so if they want to pursue work after marriage, I respect their opinion and preference. My personal life, you are aware, if my wife wasnt working we would have been in major crisis as today you know better what kind of lifestyle and work I have - much insufficient to even buy me my medicine.

hi, for me,i think its more good if both couples the husband and wife had job because they can more give all that they need in for their everyday routine and their daily needs,but i have seen many couples that usually had work are those husband and the wife stayed at home only.

I think better a wife should have a job even though her income is not high. The problem in here is not money, she has a job and she could spend her time on her work, on family. I used to see many wife who has no job just stay at home caring kids, but they don't need to do much because they have a servant, babysitting, ....so with the time they are so bored and just going out and may have another man only...it is not really good.

I worked for 5 years since I got married, and that is only because I needed to provide for my mother and siblings. My husband has enough earnings and can provide my needs and our daughter, but I don't want to burden him of my family's needs. But, when I got pregnant with our 2nd child, and my husband is also earning more, now, we decided for me to stay at home and be a full time mom and wife. It's the best gift he could give me, as his wife and mother of our children. I didn't care if I had to give up a well-earning career. I'd still rather be with my family and have more time with them.

I don't think I will give up my job in case I get married someday. In our country, it's better that both husband and wife have jobs cause it's hard to earn money alone. There should be two people working for the family. I just hope our children will understand that we are doing this for them. But if in case we are financially stable with only the hubby working, then I guess I would give up my job to take care of my children to be. Since it's better to take care of the children yourself than having someone else do that for you. You'll never know what these people do to your children when you're not around.. .

If I got married I would definitely still work, I would go crazy staying at home all day with kids and cooking and cleaning. I think that is good for some people but I don't have the type of personality to deal with it.

Personally, I as a wife, would Love to be able to stay home all day and not have to worry about going to work. Unfortunately even with all of the Medical issues that I have, there is no way this could happen unless my Business was to pick up to where I could afford Insurance on my own. Being able to stay at home while the husband works is every woman's dream, and kudos to you if this can always happen.

i understand what you wanted to say about having a wife without a job. i just don't want to use "jobless" for a simple or plain housewife. it's true that they have no job/work in a certain place like office, or bank or teacher. but being a simple or plain housewife who takes care of the children, doing the household chores, cooking, laundry, etc. is even much difficult and tiring than some other jobs.

I think that both should have a job, like this they can stay financially stable and could provide everything they want for them and a future family. Now a days you cant afford to have only one with a job because everything is getting more expensive and the more you can save the more prepared you are for the future.

It all depends on her personality. At first it may be ok for her to stay home and look after kids. However when kids do grow she may regret it and put the fault on you. This is your decision not hers in the first place.

It is confusing here, Shibha, why do men needed women of qualification in education near equal to them and never want to use it in future for the sake of kids? *blink. Many are thinking in this way. It is not wrong for her to go to job. The couples (both father and mother) have to manage their time for their kids accordingly or they have to have a job in that way. At the same time, kids are so important than a job. It is mother's duty to grow them a good citizen as also father's. For initial periods, mother has to be full time care giver for the kids. And as kids grown up she can use her talent what she wishes for and also managing the family in the same time.

Definitely I would like seeing our family to be stable enough for now and in the years to come, financially and emotionally. Worry-free life is all I wanted. Now, I really don't mind the choice of my wife to be at home, but with the current situation, where economy is not as good, I have to admit that I really need a partner in boosting our income. Good thing, she has the initiative to get some work online and I really appreciate that move.