heritage jewelery from my in-laws

How right you are anne! My mother gave me a pearl necklace and before giving it to me asked me if I need it or if it should be dumped for money.I told her I had fond memories of her wearing it when I w as a child [ I still have the picture of her with that necklace on when young and my mother being very beautiful at this age too , you can imagine how she would have been then[50 yrs ago].I can relate to what you have said.

Right now, we need capital. If the jewelry is sold, we would not have difficulty finding capital.

Jewelry was missing, a few years ago. Seem fall when we transport goods, to move house. I became very depressed.

Then I think must tell them what really happens. First is that even if you want to replace it with a new one... that is still not the 'heritage jewelry' that they have years ago. Better tell them that it is not with you anymore and that you may have lost it when you and family moved to a new house. There is nothing that you or them can do anymore but accept that it is already gone.

But apparently, my husband is not sincere. My husband often told me. If the jewelry is still there, maybe now we can get the capital, by selling the jewelry. Jewelry, now does not exist, we now need capital. Now our financial difficulties. My husband continues to bring up the jewelry, as if asking me to be responsible, for the loss of the jewelry.

You have my sympathy.

Thank you. You, already sympathetic, for me. I hope, my husband also sympathized with me, so it does not make me depressed.

yes. jewelry was gone. I was very depressed. Because. lately, my husband discuss again this issue.

I do not work, so it is very difficult for me, to be able to save money.

We do not have the money anymore. My husband's savings, already depleted. My husband said, if the jewelry was still there. Perhaps, now we can get capital, by selling the jewelry. We'll start a new business, in the birthplace of my husband. But, we do not have the capital. Because of this, the problem of jewelry, be discussed again by my husband.

I understand what you feel but there is not use to look back and wondering if the jewelry was not lost then you would have money to start business. Ever heard a saying that "plenty ways to go to Rome", try to think other alternative to find source of money to start your business, why dont you try to get loan from bank which support UKM (small business or home industry) try to find information as much as you can. My aunt had a grocery shop before but she sold it to pay for medical expense in hospital which cost about 500,000,000 almost equal to $50,000 she was really broke and did not have money to start her business but lucky her village has program to help for UKM (small business or home industry) and she was given a used sewing machine but the machine works perfectly. My friend's neighbor owns a home industry, she made snack like casava chips, cumi cumi (pangsit goreng), etc and it works very well, as she said she did not start with big capital. Tell your husband that you are not comfortable to talk about it because past is past we cannot turn back the time and prevent the jewelry from being lost. Talking about it will not change anything and only add more depression.

No venture capital that I can borrow. I do not have insurance. I can not do anything, without permission from my husband. While my husband, often limit what I do. Everything I do now, the will of my husband. This makes me hard, to make decisions.

love, I am not sure of the love. I also do not believe it. My husband has another woman. Could it be, there is love left for me.

My God! This is really terrible.And that too you say it is the jewelry of in-laws. Did you not confess it right in the beginning to your husband? You have to replace it because it is your duty .Now, if you have something that equals in value and has been given by your parents, you can replace this with that; otherwise you may have to earn and replace it.You have to ask your husband about it.

Sorry .I read through the entire discussion and now know that your husband also knows this. From what I read, I feel, now that your husbands' savings are dwindling, he feels the financial pinch and says that if at least you had the jewelry you could have done something about it. What is lost is lost and if it were your fault for having been careless it is wrong but this was over a long time back and you have also been feeling guilty about it. Nothing can be done after all. Now you have to go forward. You try and earn whatever you can by doing some online work and helping out in the financial crisis. Keep expenditure under control and be silent whenever he shouts at you. This will soon pass and once the financial crunch is tidied over, things will be much better. Just pray to God; He will help you in some way or the other. He will never let believers down. The help would not be absolutely according to your liking but according to what God wants it to be; things are going to get better. Cheer up Indah!

Sorry, if I make you confused. Jewelry was missing, and apparently fell when we moved house.

Yes. I feel very guilty. I become uncomfortable. in recent months, my husband continued to discuss this issue. I became increasingly depressed. Because, I can not possibly pay the price of the jewelry. I was very obedient to my husband, do not bother my husband, even, I do not have the courage to use my husband's money.

I do not sell jewelry. I lost jewelry. It happened a few years ago. But, now tilted again, and made ??me uncomfortable. I really want to change, but I do not have the ability.

My husband already knew this. My husband, forbid me to say this to her parents. I was very depressed, because my husband again discuss this issue. I do not know, what I should do. I do not have the money to pay the price of jewelry.