I'm Sorry IF I Couldn't Please YOU..

What makes you sad, cloudy? Who is it that made you feel bad? Well, proves that we can't please everyone. We have our own opinions, good or bad. We are here to share our point. Sometimes we might feel hurt by their comments but then, as your interest says, they are just being theirselves. Or is it the idea of not-being-able-to-know what others would feel about their words... Well, I hope they would learn their lessons someday. And don't be too harsh on others.sometimes words can hit same as physical abuse as well. It goes straight to the heart.

I like your shades. Bono would love those! Where did you get them? Anyway, I wish I knew more about the conversation that happened with your friend. Some people are very rigid and don't understand any other way of thinking.

Awww Cloud31. Please dont be sad. We can never please everybody. There would always be those who object with us; some wouldnt even dar to listen because they prefer to hear things that they wanted to hear. I get this often here in Mylot. There are some mylotters who can really get nasty.

Hmm.. Is this a topic war? lols. I guess to know the two side of the story we also need to read the first thread that make you post this thread right? Can you post the url link of that thread? lols. I don't think you need to please anybody. You cant' expect a cat to bark simply because you want a dog right?

Ouch! Truth hurts. There's a line between respecting other's opinion despite the differences and offending another intentionally because of that differences. We should learn to respect and say things in a not so offending manner so we could get respect back in return.

Hey there cloud31, Well no one can perfectly please anyone and maybe misunderstanding is in play whatever, but i do believe that we should all treat each other with respect i need to read the earlier thread to get a better look at this i hope you are fine though cloud31.

No, it is not wrong. truth is truth, if the truth was about the bad (crime etc) it will be better for us to tell, but it is not necessary tell all the truth or (perhaps this criminal has a good wife then we tell her "your husband is a thief" or tell to his beloved son "your father is thief) ... sorry it is about feeling only...

There is an old saying that "the truth will set you free" and I do my utmost to live by this. In relationships, it is the truth that makes each person in the relationship stronger and feeling more free not to have to hide things from others. Then there are some people who don't really want to hear the truth.. I would say to them not to ask me what I feel/think about something. As a therapist, I have always taught people about the value of the truth. I have often had to say things that people "don't want to hear" because they are there for my support. If I didn't say it as it is, then I would never be true to my client or my patient. This is always explained to a client from the start. Right and wrong are judgements that we use to assess a situation. The truth doesn't make anything right or wrong, it is just the way it is. For example to feel pain (emotional or physical) can feel wrong, but judging it to be wrong, only makes it worse. It is pain, a way of the body/mind telling you that you need to pay attention, without it, things could be a great problem for us. _Derek

Hi Cloud, Some people just don't handle opposing views or truths well. I've seen it on here before where someone appears to almost be looking for confirmation that they are right and if someone counters their opinion, they go into attack mode. I have also seen some that have opposing views that express their opposition in a way that actually does come across as rude and offensive even though it may just be their opinion and their truth. There is always a way to express an opposing view that is not offensive but not all people take the time to do that. Also sometimes things can be misunderstood here on the net with the absense of eye and facial expression and tone of voice. It is essential to take extra care in how we word things here. I've been misunderstood more than once.

sad... no worry dear. in mylot platform, we meet a thousands of ppl from all over d world. capability of getting anything varies person to person. its not wise getting hurt of any emotions. take it easy yaar!

Sometimes we really can't understand why there's people who gets mad at us even we are not doing any bad at them. They are just so unreasonable. It is really true that we can't really please everyone and time after time, we will encounter a person like that, even we are always being good. It seems like there are always people who were born to ruin a particular person's day. Just always remember that bad elements are everywhere and we should not fall on their trap. Our temper will be tested but we should always remain good. As long as we are not doing bad to others, we should learn not to get affected by temptations. Cloud, I know you are a blessed person and you should expect that there would always be people who will get envy at you, just because they don't have what you got. That's really a bad attitude of them, but since you are the one who is blessed, then just don't mind them and focus on positive things. Just think of those people who loves you, and for sure, it will conquer the number of people who hates you. Smile now cloud, coz we are always here for you.

You don't have to say sorry for it. Most of the people when they are having problems they tend to follow their heart and refuse to listen to others. There are just quite a few people who ready to get the second opinion and open to it. Since mylot is the discussion site they should not expect everyone to agree with them. If it so they should mention it in their discussion that they dislike opposite views. Otherwise they should take whatever people write here. If they hate it they should stop make new discussions. We all have the same experience meeting those people but you should not feel sad about it. If we are doing the correct thing than you don't have to feel guilty~(^^)

If you are a straight person and stand for what you say then what is the problem? Why are you saying sorry? I think it's a very good habit to say what is on your mind, and being honest. Although the fact is: most people are not and "we" like to hear the lies more as the truth. It always makes me wonder why. Why asking if you can't live with the answer. How come so many only like those who lick their ... those who tell lies? Lack of the way we are raised? Not able to live with the truth, to cope with the answer, to think over what is said, always having the feeling this is the same as being reacted as a person?

Hello,my friend. It is really a confusing topic. On one hand, All we do is to please others.On the other hand, our words will irriate others although they are truly reflecting the society,itseilf to some extent. So eomtimes white lie is a good selection.

I have bypassed discussions where I had an opinion but knew it wouldn't be accepted well. Sometimes, at least for me, the best thing to say is nothing. People many times don't want honest opinions as much as they want support for their own opinion.

Sooner or later we all come across someone who absolutely does not want to hear what we decide to say. Those people are a danger here just like the mines in a battlefield. MyLot is a discussion site and a discussion is an exchange of opinions. There is no right or wrong opinion and we should all realise that when we start a topic, not everyone will agree with our opinion. There would be no discussionsif that were the case. Stick to what you have been taught and don't bend just because it is an easy way out. Those who cannot accept that others have an equal right to their opinion as they have to theirs are not worth arguing with either because they rearely, if indeed ever, take off the shutters that are covering their eyes.

Sometimes people just do not want to hear the truth. They put it off on you in some way so they don't have to fess up to it. Its called being responsible for your own actions. A mature person will do this. An immature person won't. It is sad but people can be very self involved and not care about the other person.

Well, thats why there is a word "Honost is mostly painfull, whether for those who said nor listen". Sometimes, we have to hear or say it whether we like or not. Life is unpredictable, its not always like we want. For those who could understand it, I believe they could take it.

Hello, cloud31. I am sorry to hear about this. I know how you feel. I had a similar experience with some of my posts. I hope that those tears last only a short while. Cheer up, sis, and I am happy to know that you had the courage to start this discussion.

people who can not tolerate the truth, they are lying, and they are false, I try not to ask such people, I pass them, I do not like people who believe in something false, hope lies, it interferes with their swiat.Nie hate such false things.