What is more important Truth or Feelings????

Oh good!! Since I don't look fat, I can pork away all those goodies. Hey let's go for more ice cream, cake, and candy. Oh yes, Let's don't forget the brownies and homemade pie, Yummy. Oh no! That's just desert. We forgot about the main course. Bacon on bacon on bacon sandwiches with lots and lots of mayo. Next, there is that homemade fried chicken, battered really good and soaked in tons of greasy lard. Oh yummy. Then there are bar-b-que ribs dripping with grease and fat. Yes, we have a great relationship only I'll just turn out to be your creme puff with clogged arteries and a bad heart. Oh where oh where is the truth when I really need it? Doesn't anyone love me enough to be willing to go through the drama it might take to keep me slim and trim, bulging with muscles, mighty and strong. Alas, I am to be nothing more than a slob couch potato. Behind every great man is a loving, honest and truthful woman caring enough to speak the real truth. Think about that!!

Unconditional Love will never leave one blind as long as one carries intelligence along with it. That being said, I am eating a heart healthy diet. I do not eat a lot of sweets either. On the other hand, a piece of pie once and a while is not bad. I eat mostly the filling with very little crust. I stay slim trim and fit.

They say loving unconditionally will make you blind to the fats or the dumbs or the evils...

I disagree. I think it is wrong to hide the truth from someone dying from illness. No one should assume how another would react. Maybe this sick person would choose to do something they would never do otherwise. They may never do it if the truth is hidden. Dying is a part of life. We all know that. We should never allow that to keep us from living. Even on my deathbed with my last breath, I have the potential to make this world a better place for everyone. Given that opportunity. I will do just that.

sometimes we need to be more sensitive. Not everyone can receive the truth when they were on that situation, sometimes by telling the positive thing, it will help them to relieve and feel better facing their condition. In other way, knowing that he will die tomorrow will make him lost hope and add him frustation. Some people choose to see their relatives end in happiness, not in sadness.

I like that. Feelings can always be altered. Truth can't.

You are right, the truth is the truth forever but feeling can be changed

Yes, having that reputation helps. But building it is very tough. It took me 6 tough years where at times it was easier to lie and move ahead. :) But as I stuck to my principles, the reputation slowly formed. Cheers! Ram

Reputation is something I hadn't considered. Once they get to know you, perhaps hearing the truth hurts them less. As in your case, people even seek you out to hear the truth. That does sound good.

Yes, you are right on this one. How we say things makes a big difference. This is something I am working on myself.

We have all at one time or another have said something in a way that hurt someone else. We do have to strive to think before we speak. This will give us time to analyze how it is perceived by others. Which in some cases is very important if we want to keep relationships in tact. Once something is said it can't be taken back the damage is often already done and people remember the things we say good or bad.

So I have to sleep on the couch and cook my own supper, isn't truth worth it?? On the other hand, there should be no shortage of sweet words and kindness long before that fat dress question ever comes up. We should all leave no doubts that we love those special in our lives. Tell them often even if they already know. It's always good to hear those wonderful words. I Love You!!

hihihi, You are so sweet and "bitter" sometimes...

You are so right that the way one says things makes a lot of difference. This is an area I continue to work on. A little sugar on the truth will make it much easier to swallow when the truth really hurts.

Their truth??? Does real truth really belong to anyone?? Of course deciding whether one looks fat in a dress is a judgment call but only to a certain extent. Still, one should never use any opportunity with the goal to hurt someone. One must learn just how to tell her she is fat if, in fact, she is fat. Still, it is important she hear the real truth even if it hurts. How can she ever make her next decision without the truth??

Is the half truth really in the person's best interest or merely a way to avoid the Drama afterwards?? Sure, truth can really hurt, however one can also deliver a dose of unconditional love along with it.

Yes, it helps if we learn how to deliver that truth in a nice way. It might still hurt but will be much easier to swallow.

Yes, you have said a lot. Still, one learns through experience that even though truth often brings Drama, there comes resolution and wisdom. I guess one just must be brave enough to let them have the truth and see what happens. I have found that no matter how mad they get, most show up later happy you cared enough to give them the truth.

White lie??? Aren't there better ways to making someone feel good other than white lies?? Even with a white lie, they think nothing is wrong. Truth supplies a picture by which a decision can be made for the better. A white lie ignores all but how they feel.

Yes, many do not want to hear the truth. On the other hand, truth will bring the best results in the long run.

Yes, tact is something we all probably need to work on. How one says something is important as what one says. Language can trip a guy up if they aren't careful. After a while truth gets to be the norm and one gives nothing else. It gets easy after that.

I know judgment calls can be relative. On the other hand, one plus one always equals two. That is mostly where I come from. Worry not, I love to lavish compliments as well. You are right. If people focus only on what is wrong,they will never see the real beauty that does exist. Good point!!