How would you react if your date doesn't look like their pictures?

Hi! It sounds interesting to meet a different person other than whom we interacted on line. It is for sure that a person would behave differently or at least look differently, if we happen to meet him/her off line. I think we should mentally prepare ourselves for it and if we are going on date, we should not keep out expectations very high. By the way, I have had no such experience in the past.

I never date a woman that I saw their picture online first. The things like friendster, facebook, myspace and other dating sites just didn't exist during my time still looking for girl. So how I check on girls? I chat with them with the good old fashion MIRC chat room. I've actually go for blind date with two of them and exchange phone call. That time there are no texting and not many of us afford to buy a cell phone. I've met with two of tehm because I've enjoy talking with them on the phone even though we've never met. How I react when I've saw them? All I can say, wow... Not as I've expected. They both look fine but in the end I didn't end up with any of them.

It doesn't matter to me at first of course I will be surprise and my I will laughed at the situation. It's our first met and we can try to get to know each other, after that If i don't like him I can stay away from him. And no more second date for us.

I think I would react the same way with the majority. I don't think the deceiving someone with a different picture should be tolerated. I got into the date because I was first attracted by the way they looked. Now it's different when they're a little older than their photos or chubbier and such, but it's really something else when they show up to be a different person at all. I think I would just walk out. As for the sole guy who stayed, I think he just thought that it was just a date and not marriage and she checks out as someone who's interesting so it's okay. But it would be different for women because we're more in danger when a person lies, what if he's a rapist or something? What if he's just in there to lure us to some dangerous place right? I would truly walk out. As for the experience. Guys never look exactly how they are in photos. I experienced this one when I met my partner. But the difference perhaps is the fact that we didn't meet to have a 'date', it was more of meeting friends from the organization that's why there wasn't any pressure whatsoever about how we acted or even dressed - it's just pure friendship with other people. But I didn't recognize him at all, but he sure recognized me. I guess it's better to go on these dates without 'expectations' else you're bound to be frustrated. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

It happens when they do date online first before meeting in person. I know there are many girls who just post nice photos with Photoshop but in fact they are ugly or not beautiful as in the pictures....it is not nice i think. Better honest with ourselves and post some pictures without Photoshop. I think men may disappointed and run away when meet a girl who looks so different with her picture that he saw it before.

It's a pity that I never dated someone I met on the Internet.So I don't have the experience.I think I would be a little angry,but I would definitely laugh about the situation.lol... It's an interesting thing to see people's reaction to this situation.I'd like to see the video you recommend,but it's a pity that Youtube can not be reached here in China.None of my dates is with friends online,and I don't think I will have a go.Frankly speaking,I'd like to be a part of the experiment,but I haven't had the chance. Anyway,thanks for your sharing,friend.Have a nice day!

Thankfully my hubby didn't send me a picture of someone else before we really met in person. The most hilarious story that I could think of that is like this is with women here in my country looking for foreign husbands and are head over heels over the picture that was sent to them. True enough, the picture is of a young and very handsome guy. But most women tend to forget to ask the real age of their online pals that they are shocked to meet these guys in person and find out that the pictures that were sent to them was taken around forty years ago and their supposed mate is being wheeled around in a wheelchair. I don't like being subjected to such experiments. It's like messing with my intellect and making me look stupid because the people behind this experiment already know that the pictures they send out is no way near the person they will send to the date. It's like being scammed and the producers of this experiment will say that it is just an experiment. But they are toying with people's emotions and that is not a good thing.

some years ago i was on a dating list in a news paper type thing. they would send a pic to the paper as i did. a few times the guys recognised me right away. any how, mant of them i met looked a lot different. as apparently they sent in a pic from yrs before. before they got grossly heavier or older. i dont mind the heavy or older. i do mind them lieing!

I can see why they did this experiment, because it is interesting to understand why we seem to put so much emphasis on the way that we look, however I don't think that I would be able to even be friends with the person who had shown me a false photograph because of the fact that I have to trust people who I am going to be friends with, and the very fact that they had lied about what they look like shows to me that they obviously cannot be trusted, so I wouldn't be able to be with them anyway whether it was just an experiment or not.

Oh goodness. I would like to see that YouTube video! Sounds interesting. I have not done the online dating thing, and I am a little too much of a wimp to try it. BUT I have heard stories of people who have went on these BASICALLY blind dates with these people they met online -- and I have heard stories about men posting pictures from about 5-10 years ago - who had put on weight and were a little more rough around the edges than they were in the picture. I don't see why people do this. I understand you want a good picture -- but there is going to be SOME questions rising when you look nothing like you did 10 years ago. Ha ha. I'm not sure how I would react. It seems a little silly to put a different picture on as your profile picture or whatever you call it, just because, appearance is sometimes what draws someone in to your profile in the first place. (Sad, but true). I think I would probably laugh it off (to myself) and go through with the date, but probably not see things through with the person (just because honesty is always a #1 priority if you ask me).

The date would be over instantly. First, I can't even fathom the idea of dating someone I didn't know enough about to begin with, to think them worthy to date. I find people who do this... a little nutz. However, if I did meet someone on a date, and I found anything blatantly a lie, that would be the end of the date. To me, dating is about finding out if the other person is worth marrying. If I agree to date you, that means I want to know if you are women worth pledging my life to, and staying with you until the day that I die. If you are deceptive, or don't have a problem with completely lying to me.... well... that pretty much tells me everything I need to know. You are not worth marrying. Trust is EVERYTHING, in any relationship. Without that, there is nothing. So... with knowing you can't be trusted, and therefore not even on the "possibility" list, there is no longer a reason to continue the date. I will politely indicate that unfortunately something has come up, and I will not be able to stay. If they press me, it will indicate that their lack of character is what came up. And I'll go home and watch a movie on Hulu.

This experiment is interesting. I don't like a date with a strange person, so, I have never had this kind of dating. But If I'm the man, I'll feel up set and bored, of course.

First i never happen to meet the situation.But honestly,my brother try to help me a blind date and the guy is his colleague.Honestly,the guy looks ok ,but i do not have the courage to do so.Though i'm pretty regret now.But just flow it,if i meet the situation that doesn't looks like the person in picture.i would defnitely show my disinterest and then never try to contact him the second time.

somehow, i have an idea that this sort of deception in on-line dating happens more often than not. however, i think it would be hypocritical of these people to resent being put into an experiment, as they were already in a type of experimental situation by luring people in with their false picture, etc. i have not been on a date with anyone like this. my husband and i did reconnect on facebook after not seeing each other for fifteen years, but fortunately, we already knew each other and what we each looked like and who we were. i think not only is it important to consider what the person looks like, but who the person is. this online dating world can be very dangerous and scary.

I watched the video and thought it was going to be funnier. Im glad you told me about it though because it gives me more input into what you mean by your discussion. I think if I knew the guy was who he was supposed to be just didnt look as good as in his photos I would be ok with it figuring maybe it was an old photo but if I knew that the person was fake and used like someone elses photo and got me to go on a date with them then I would call them out on it and get mad.

The person's appearance would not matter to me. It is what's on the inside that counts. Have a great weekend!

Well, personally, I will be totally disappointed if my date would not be the person I'm thinking of or expecting on how they would look like. But nonetheless, I will still give the highest respect to my date and just try to interact and be good to them. Anyway, I haven't been on blind dates yet.