When an Ex Should Remain In the Past
By sunshine08
@sunshine08 (17)
United States
May 29, 2012 4:23pm CST
I have always believed that a person can settle for being friends after an ended relationship. But as they say, the heart is sometimes stronger than the brain. Well, we both tried. As days passed by smoothly, it became harder each day. When you have to feign, know thy limitations, not forgetting where you stand in a persons life. Lucky enough he was the type of person who would understand me a lot. That despite me acting as his gf still, he did not mind. Til I was already the one who gave up. I shouldve given myself the time to embrace acceptance. That some people are not meant to be together. even as friends.
How about you? Do you have the strength to remain friends with you ex despite the fact the emotions still exist?
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4 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
30 May 12
I am not friends with any of my exs. Theres a reason they are my ex. I dont think its a good idea, especially if there are still feelings involved. I have no desire at all to be friends with people I cut out of my life for one reason or another.
I think its possible if thats what both people want but its not for me...
@sunshine08 (17)
• United States
1 Jun 12
You are such a strong woman. As for you, reality is sometimes hard to bear. That is why I give my all just so to avoid regrets. Yet in the end, I suffer, give up. It always depends. The level of emotions that you both have and under any circumstand. You are right, everything indeed happens for a reason. So maybe, I'd be better without him.. :)
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
30 May 12
I don't think you could actually be friends with your ex when emotions still exist. I think it would only be fair for yourself as well if you gave your heart just room to breathe for a while. - and seeing or talking the person won't help at all.
I could remember the time when I got my heart broken. I thought I was different from other people, I thought I could handle talking to him even if he had found someone knew. I thought I was strong enough because I was mature enough - so I thought. But soon I made myself just hurt all the more seeing that he is already happy with the one he chose over me.
Took me a while but soon I truly got over him and even if he talks about his wife now, I don't feel anything at all. I guess as the song goes "I remember the boy, but I don't remember the feeling anymore" truly is the right words to describe it. And this time, I am no longer lying to myself because I am indeed okay.
I think you should just steer clear of him for a while. Yes, he is the most understanding person right now, perhaps it's because he pities you because he knows that you are not over him yet. But don't forget why you are no longer together.
Until you forget and don't hurt anymore. An Ex should remain in the Past. He is an EX for a reason, stick with it.
Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@sunshine08 (17)
• United States
1 Jun 12
I love this response! It made me think deeper. Thank you!
I could not agree more.It gets harder when I focus too much on my emotions.
Indeed, I have learned a lot.. And it gets better each day. I feel more at peace with myself. It's just that, sometimes, you just need to set your emotions free.
Thanks again! Hope to see more comments from you! Take Care! ^_^
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@rewardsinlife (1132)
• United States
29 May 12
I am still experiencing problems with this, and emotions, but they are not as strong as they once were years ago when we were together. Either your heart will go fonder with time and you two were meant to be together, or the time will heal you both and you will find that frienship is ultimately meant to be.
@sunshine08 (17)
• United States
31 May 12
Sigh! Thanks for the response..
As they say, time has a way of healing.. I thought I'd feel bad because of my decision. As of this moment, I feel at peace. Knowing that I did what shouldve been done a long time ago.. It took me time, and a lot of strength to finally let go. I realized that no matter how much you love a person, the heart gets tired too. You know, I moved away, but it doesnt really mean that I dont love him anymore.
@dansazz (1058)
• United States
29 May 12
I don't see the point of over complicating your life. Why does everyone want to be friends with their ex's? It is usually a recipe for disaster. I think it is possible, but if you both have feelings for each other then why not be together? I don't get it. Especially if you act like bf/gf already it makes no sense to me.
