Marriage is a workshop where husband works and wife shops- Do you agree ?

Well, I think, is a question of distinguishing a traditional family, compared to a modern family. In ancient times, when even the cost of living was not as high as today, in a traditional family, only the husband worked, while the woman took care of the housework and especially to raise children. Unfortunately times have changed, the money today, families are more and more scarce, "thanks" to the inflation of the cost of living. So also the wife, in the limit of its possibilities, almost need to go to work to keep a family economy, in a sense more decorous. Perhaps it was a better once a time?

I think that this is a very old fashioned way of thinking, and I am not sure that there are all that many people who are in this kind of relationship any more. I am a woman, and my partner is not the one who works. I am the one who works full time for the money that we need in order to pay for everything and survive. Yes, I like to shop, but then again I think that I absolutely have the right to do so seeing as I am the one who is earning the money in the first place. Nobody else should be telling me how to behave, because at the end of the day it isn't anyone else's business.

Yes I agree it has to be rewritten or redesigned so that couples can better cope with what society throws at them in general. Not to fall for every trick in the book from the business and media sector. Enjoy life but be wary and live within our means. Think out of the box. and yeah the couples should agree to this mutual concept.

hi,viju0410 I completely agree, marriage is a workshop, ( i will be on cloud nine if i can go shopping frequently when ever i feel like) i love shopping..hmm,but due to high cost of living we need to be in control. yes online shopping is also good as we can buy by sitting at home.i prefer both any shopping..is ok for me (when ever i think of shopping i remember my college days, me and my friends used to go for shopping at least twice in a month, for serious buying, and 3/4times for window shopping, haha silly isn't, but yes we were that way, we used to enjoy a lot while shopping, i am not going to extend it more, lol) i will be more happy if my husband spends for me in shopping, if we spend ourselves ,then we wont get that excitement (lol, anyways yes its reversed in some cases..but shopping is always exciting...for me...

You began a big debate here. *lol. In our family it is just opposite. We both are not good shoppers and trying to learn it step by step. May be some exceptions would present as like us.

Well in my house we both work. And on one or both of his days off we both go shopping together with the kids and then out to eat. As for shopping style we both shop for food together, even though sometimes we separate as we get done quicker. But I find a lot of things I didn't authorize buying in the cart that way ha ha. He usually shops for new gadgets he is checking out like a new phone or the asus tablet he just bought alone because he has to do a lot of comparisons. We all shop for clothes together usually like at the mall, Old Navy, Target or American Eagle.

I like the workshop phrase. Of course it is an exaggeration and not always applicable. But I do think most couples can probably find some examples of the wife being focused on shopping while the husband is focused on working (and paying the bills). There is always a bit of humor in such things, so rather than getting upset, we should just sit back and ponder.

For me , I wouldn't marry Unless it was for the money! So the Work Shop saying is spot on. But these days with two income families With the woman earning more than her hubby sometimes , she Can ans Should shop! It all depends on the couple. I an single and in love so I will never marry.I buy what I need and thankfully I have had the money to do so. I don't bu things just to buy things. It is more fun for me to window shop. I love walking around. I can't tell you how many times I have been looking and found something and then weeks later I needed it and went back to buy it. But it is the hunt that is the fun part.

When I was married, I always worked and even after our children were born. I also did the meal planning as well as most of the shopping. Sometimes my husband came along and "helped" but it was usually something that I did.

Not in my house. We are both retired due to ill health and bring in the same money but my partner is the one who shops and even that we have reduced to once a fortnight. I hate shopping. It is not just the need to save money I hate trudging round shops unable to find anything I actually want to buy. I do not like the fashions and they are seriously over priced for the quality offered. There was a time when price meant quality material and workmanship, no longer, now they are poorly made with poor quality materials and you are asked to pay high prices because of the name of the designer. I do not. Add to that the fact that walking for too long leaves my body in pain and I avoid the shops at all costs. That leaves online and while I have bought some clothes online they are not much better and you cannot check out the quality as all you have is a picture.

Honestly viju, online shopping is a cost saving thing for everybody. I travel in bus or car to the shop. I might not like what is shown to me. I will go to another shop, and then another, before I find one. I block the traffic for a while with my parking and become part of the traffic for a while. Instead, when I order something and it is sent through courier agency..(FEDEX u r gr8)..the agent goes on one route delivering all the things for people on that route..only one vehicle moving! Right? Moreover, I get what I like instead of settling for best amongst worst. And another thing. When we go for shopping with friends - we may like something but for some reason our friend would suggest something else. There goes the desired item..unlike it we are truly on our own and in our budget. Saves time as well..petrol charges are effectively saved..you know how costly petrol is now. :)

Yes, really I agree with you and this is a fact that marriage is a work shop. The husband works for money where wife only spends, shop.

I am a businessman and my wife is a quintessential housewife.I work at my shop and she keeps busy with her household chores.I have made it a point to keep her giving a few thousand rupees so that she may not have any problem buying things of her choice.Fortunately she knows the value of money and so seldom buys anything for herself.If ever she buys something it is for our children and a niece or my younger sister who is a widow and lives here with me.Thus at least our marriage is not a workshop.I earn,but my wife never shops.She believes in saving money for the rainy days.Am I not fortunate?

Hi viju410,my husband and i were married one year ago,both of us are go to work,and at the weekend we will go shoping together,i think this is fair,we both love this way ,so i don't agree with that saying"marriage is a workshop where husband works and wife shops",marriage should be equal for husband and wife,but not only husband works and wife shops,hehe...i think that kind of marriage is not perfect,because they can't experience and enjoy together,this is only my personal view,thank you.

How i wish it still works that way viju. On my part, me and hubby both have to work and work and work... so where does shop enters? well sad to say rarely. We need to work to sustain our needs. I hope i could really just shop. darn.

hmmmm....... Viju. You are right that married life is like a workshop where both parties can work or shop. But as i have said on my earlier discussion that parents have an utmost duty to take care of kids. Its not mandatory that the mom is obligated to that where any one can do it observing the situation. Have a nice time.

Here in our country, even if the husband works in the office, he still help the wife with houseworks. But on this modern days, both are working in the office and both are working at home, or- they will have a maid to do the houseworks and look for the kids as well. Husbands stay home and wife working is also common here, especially if the wife is working overseas. Instead of hiring a nanny or maid to do the house works and taking care of kids, most family prefer for husbands to stay home and be with the kids. Which is much better for the kids too.

I never heard of that. I only know/met men who shop themselves. Expensive cars, watches, books, tv set, stereo sets, all kind of toys for themselves. Also I know plenty of men, worldwide who don't work or never worked who let their wife do all the work (including the shopping and kids). They just hang around, drink coffee or tea, with other men. So I wonder about what kind of men and women you are speaking, in which countries?

Hahaha! . Nice idea... In our case my wife and I both work... and both of us also shop! hahaha!

With the phrase or sentence that marriage is a workshop, I do agree with that in a lot of ways. Breaking down the word workshop into two would give us a lot of meaning, just like what you did, which makes it interestingly wonderful. The husband works and the wife shops or vice versa as the case may be. A similar interesting topic is when both works and nobody shops or when both are shopping and nobody works. May you have a working marriage. Good day.