What Should I Do???

United States
May 30, 2012 4:40am CST
Im in a situation in my relationship, we have been together almost 6yrs and we have hit a bump in our relationship at the begining of the year... we no longer stay in the same house that we purchased together and we have had some infidelities in our relationship...we have some much invested with each other but the trust isnt there on either part...we're trying to get that spark back but im not sure if it's gonna wrk...i maybe leaving in the near future to work offshore and i'm not sure if i can leave home and have the confidence that while i'm away at work for my 3week rotation she wont get lonely and try to replace me while im gone, i mean if u think u want something new while im around no telling what will happen while im gone.. im trying my best to trust her.. but i dnt think i will be able to and i dnt wanna be out at sea stressing about whats going on back at home....should i cut all ties so that i will have a clear head while at work or stay and hope that she will hold it down in my absence...what do u think?
3 responses
itsmamanen
@itsmamanen (423)
• Philippines
30 May 12
i totally understand what your are experiencing right now. i think you should ask yourself first if you really love this person so much that you are willing to get back to her, despite the infidelity. if you do, try asking her the same question. if you love each other very much, then surely you can work things out. you just have to have a heart to heart talk. tell her how you feel about her and her infidelities. give her a chance to talk and let out what she really thinks and feel. both of should agree to on things like starting anew. been to this situation, we tried these things, and we turned out to be okay now.
courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
30 May 12
Try talking about how you feel with her and talk about what both of you want to do. If you really love each other, your relationship will be built on trust and love for each other and a little distance wouldn't make a difference. But, if you feel you can't trust her while you're away, then that doesn't sound like much of a relationship. If those feelings continue and you can't rekindle your spark, then you might have to consider other options. You'd want to leave knowing that she'd be eagerly waiting for your return and not out and about with other guys. It can be hard to trust someone when you're far apart but many people are able to make it work. I hope you're able to talk to her and figure things out :)
GemmaR
@GemmaR (8517)
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30 May 12
It is hard when you feel as though you've lost the spark in your relationship, and one of the most difficult things that you can do is admit that it just isn't working anymore after being together for all these years. Maybe you should spend some time apart maybe for a few months, and agree that you're not going to talk to each other at all for that amount of time. If at the end of those months you find that you're missing each other then you know that you need to work on your relationship because you obviously still love each other but just need a little bit more help.