forgiving yourself and others

Well, I think that forgiveness is something fundamental that we must implement, when we have the chance, always in our lives. You say, it is natural to react badly when we are wronged. In my opinion, this is big mistake. Because we have been wronged? It may have been, the person's reaction to a wrong that maybe we did to him and maybe not even remember there! Forgiveness! Yes, there is also a sentence that just says: "The best revenge is forgiveness!" We forgive and we will undoubtedly happy!

Hi prashu, I believe that you are very close to the truth here. All the great teachers down through the centuries have encouraged their followers to forgive, because forgiveness brings healing, both physical and emotional. No one likes to have their feelings hurt or to be taken advantage off, yet by holding a grudge we do far more harm to ourselves. We need to forgive and move on, but also remember the way we felt, and determine never to make another feel that way ever again, by something that we say or do. It is often even more difficult to forgive ourselves,but we too are human and can make mistakes like everyone else. Let's learn from the past and put it behind us, we that we can be happy and healthy today. Blessings.

I do not hold grudges. I try to forgive everyone, but I don't always forget.

I think you are right. Forgiveness is a big step and says alot about a person. Revenge and such is ugly and only gets uglier. Nothing pretty or dignified about it. The only time I would feel justified in not forgiving is in the case of injustive toward my children.

Its true. Not forgiving someone is like carrying a very big burden everyday. I've also experienced this and nothing good came out. Its best to forgive and forget. Its better for your well being as a whole.

As some people would say, forgiving is freeing yourself of the burden you carry within you. I am forgiving when it comes to small matters but when trust and betrayal becomes an issue, I really can't forgive that easily. It would really take time, a lot of tears and tries before I can forgive not only the person who could have caused me that much pain, but also forgiving myself. That is actually the hardest part, forgiving yourself for not doing what was right during those times, for trusting too much and for being such a fool, etc. There was a time that it even took me years before I got to really forgive someone who had wronged be so painfully, but when I finally did, it felt like a huge load has been lifted from me and I feel lighter and better when dealing with day to day activities. It's always best to forgive and forget but if you can't forget, at least try to forgive.

what is forgiveness?forgiveness could be defined as ones ability to let go of wrongs melted out to him,before forgiveness can take place, you have to let go of bitterness so that forgiveness can take place

Forget and forgive is the best way to lead a happy life.If you dont forget then those feelings keep haunting you forever.It leads to hatred or revenge.When in hatred or revenge it is like you take a burning coal and throw at your target so it hurts you first.Try to relax and forgive and forget all your disturbing feelings to have a relaxed life.

I have been hurt by a lot of people in the past, and I think that one of the things that you have to learn how to do is deal with those people who have let you down in the past. It is very hard, but if you can't forgive people then they're just going to be playing on your mind for the whole of your life, so you have to make the decision at some point to either forgive the person or just remove them from your life. It is not an easy choice to make, but once you've done so, you should find that you're able to relax a little bit more in your day to day life.

Of course, in this world, all of us gets hurt in any ways. Some of easily forgives those people who've caused them pain and just let it go but there are some people who finds it hard to do so. Some asked for apologies if they know they've hurt someone and somehow, the one who get hurt forgives but not wholeheartedly. I don't know how to explain it but they somehow like pretend that they really forgive that person but deep down inside they still feel the pain and others may get revenge. But as what you've said... all illness is caused by not forgiving. If one can forgive wholeheartedly, the pain will just vanish!

I agree that forgiving is one of the best thing to do in circumstances where we are hurt by others. It is very interesting to learn about the law of forgiveness. The Lord tells us to forgive our enemies, and that vengeance is the Lord's. That is the reason why there is no reason for us to take the justice and put it in our own hands. Let go and let God is a good principle.

I can't agree with you more, if you have a quarrel with somebody, and that person walked away, and you got emotionally, you feel your heart is like a wash machine, churning the bad emotion inside. Some time it is better to let it go. Do not take it emotionally even if you are offended by others, and try your best to forgive others.

Hi Prashu- That is life for you, you find all kind of people who do behave in different manners, have their own ways. You can not expect any one to act as per your own choice; you have to act their way some times while you feel they like it that way and some time you go through trusses and make compromises. Some times I wonder is forgiveness is a way of compromising and we we give our self a false satisfaction giving it name of forgiveness!!! Any ways that gives us some peace and positiveness for sure, false or true!