Annoying Visitors
By bing28
@bing28 (3795)
Philippines
May 30, 2012 10:48pm CST
It's no longer relaxing sometimes staying at home. When distant relatives come almost everyday one after another or sometimes in groups. I am not selfish, I also welcome visitors or relative when coming but the manner of visiting is already quite annoying. They would come lie down in sofa watch TV and others would go directly to the pc to open their facebook and if you won't ask them to let you use it they won't stop. They would stay till lunch time or even till late in the afternoon and naturally you would ask them to join you eating. It's alright anyway if just once in a while anyway they are still relatives but after eating the dishes you would wash are piling up. Plus the fact that you lose your privacy. You could not concentrate on wgat to do. You could not speak up they might feel bad. Sometimes if I'm alone at home I would just lock the door and stay at the mall to have a peace of mind and to avoid this annoying visitors. At least the tv set, the electric fans and the computer were rested and save a little for the power consumption. I enjoy meeting with relatives but not in the manner like this. Did you experience like this friends?
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6 responses
@psychoartist (756)
• United States
1 Jun 12
i completely understand and agree with you bing28. i also feel guilty or embarrassed that i feel this way but i really just hate hate hate having company, even if it is our family! i think that brings up more guilt feelings, if it is your family. you say you enjoy meeting with relatives; i think i am to the extreme in that any socializing i do, i would prefer to meet friends or family for a couple of hours and then return to our sanctuary without them and collapse into exhaustion. i think this must be an introvert quality. i like to keep our home sacred just for me, my wonderful husband and our sweet princess and am not keen on having anyone else, even our family invading. i know this is a selfish attitude, but it is the truth.
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Oh yes psychoartist everyone feels that way too of sometimes being alone with the family. Even myself love to have the privacy with my children and grandchildren only, I'm a widow by the way, that's why perhap my relatives freely come and go to our house. That's not a selfish truth but just normal for us
@GemmaR (8517)
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31 May 12
I work from home, and the number of people who seem to think that this means I am able to stop and invite them in for a chat whenever they choose to come round. If they come to see another member of my family, then they will come into my office and start talking to me, and this is something that I hate because if they spend an hour talking to me at that point, then this just means that I am going to have to work for an extra hour later on in the day so I won't have the whole of the evening to myself as I would want to. Some people don't stop to think about whether you would have something better that you should be doing.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
31 May 12
I dont have this happen as none of my family comes to visit me, it might be because I have 4 children. They might not want to be bothered by the activity of my family. Its fine with me too. Because if they acted in that manner I would be very annoyed. I think that coming in with no manners should be addressed. They dont seem to care much about making you feel bad. I would not answer the door all the time as you chose sometimes. I would never just go to someones home and behave like that. I would just do what you do if I were you. And pretend as though they are not there. It seems like they are doing that to you. You are just to polite. I would tell them that I am busy or was just about to go somewhere.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Thanks ladygator for the response right I remember I told a brother before what was happening perhaps he misunderstood me as he said are you not happy, you have visitors all the time? or perhaps he's not serious of what he said he's just turning it to something fun. I just hope I could tell them in a way that they would not misunderstood me. Thanks ladygator have a good day.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 May 12
I would also feel the same, if my relatives are like that. They are invading your privacy already and abusive of your generosity.
Luckily, my relatives are not like that. Because if they are , i would tell them not to be like that because i also would like to have my privacy.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
31 May 12
hi bing, fortunately I don't have relatives within 500 miles to
come to visit..However I am a very oriented person and really love
my family....However even if they did come to visit I am sure
they would like act like your relatives...simply because we do
respet each other and each others property...
I really think your relatives act the way they do is becasuse you
guys let them get away with it....
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
31 May 12
Hi Bing! Yes, we have no control over the things to happen the way we want them to be. But somehow, we wish that we can do something about it. If we not to completely change it at least to reduce the impact on our life. But they are our relatives, and you have mentioned that there are times that you would not want to be staying at home. I also experience having visitors, my relatives actually but they would not be coming everyday. Perhaps there is something in your home that they like? Or maybe they want to stay in your home because they don't want to stay in their home? Perhaps you could tell them in a nice way, "Don't you have anything to do today?"
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Hello ARIES thanks for the response, yes I'm just thinking they're much confident maybe at home as they know me to be kind to them but I just hope they would come to realize the people they're visiting might be irritated already. I tried that already ARIES, they said no we're free that's why we're here. Have a great weekend, friend.
