A friend, that's all I need.

There is always a place for friendship here in mylot.Communication with friends is not easy especially when they already have their family unlike singles. We started being friends and that on and off mylot I will be your friend.I cannot say I'm a perfect friend but I know for sure I always care of my friends. Cheer up Sheila.We are for you!

I am sorry that you are feeling down tonight. I know how you feel. I have had so-called friends like this. You are there for them for everything. Then when I needed them they would blow me off. One especially was like this. I would listen to her problems for hours upon hours then in later years I asked her for a few minutes of her time on a few separate occasions and got blown off. That was the last time I ever did that. You need a friend you got it just ask. I've only been here for a few days and have only made two friends. I hope you feel better tomorrow.

Why don't we two meet aira? No matter how much i try to communicate with my friend it seems like they are too busy for me... but somehow i understand, they are busy with their careers and families.. but like you i tend to really put them into my schedule, i text them or at times call them but i also wonder how they cannot do the same? but if ever you need friends aira, we are here you know.

You say: you need a friend, just someone to talk to for a minute. If it's just for a minute you can talk to anyone, even outside at the street or the supermarket. I wonder if it's the one minute talk you miss or if it is the idea/knowledge(?) your friends are not there for you now you are in need. If your friends are not there for you, you better ask yourself if they are friends at all. Why do you invest so much time in them, why are you there if they need you, while they don't do the same for you? You can sit there and be sad or upset but the fact is they don't have or take or want to take that single minute for you! So there are 2 things you can do: 1 call them/go over there and tell them straight away: I always been there for you, now I need you so I want you to take some time for me now! (and see what respons you get, since if you are always the one helping them out they won't see anymore you can be in need as well). Or if this is too much for you, delete these so called friends, invest all that time and energy in yourself, say NO if they knock on your door and make new best friends. And remember: only if you find yourself valuable other people will see that too and treat you that way.

I can understand the pain you are undergoing.We human beings are social animals and we want to live in the company of our friends.Years ago I was in the same situation as yours.All my friends had migrated to other cities with their families and I was left alone in my hometown.Months passed by.Then I decided to act on my own.I started to mix up with people.And within a matter of days I came to discover that there were people who were ready to give an eye and a leg to get a trusted friend.I befriended them.And now they are my friends,my trusted friends.One of them suddenly passed away in 2002 of an heart attack.He was my best friend.I can't tell you how I miss him now.

I am sorry that you are feeling down tonight. I know how you feel. I have had so-called friends like this. You are there for them for everything. Then when I needed them they would blow me off. One especially was like this. I would listen to her problems for hours upon hours then in later years I asked her for a few minutes of her time on a few separate occasions and got blown off. That was the last time I ever did that. You need a friend you got it just ask. I've only been here for a few days and have only made two friends.

writing in mylot is included to talk too I think even we can talk longer without interruption (agree ?)

Hello there, I am sorry that you feel low for the past few days. This could happen to anyone. I know you need a friend, someone you can talk to. But maybe that night all your friends were busy that they didn't have time for you. If this was the case, you could entertain yourself. Go to the youtube site and listen to the music, watch TV or go to the popular street to see people shopping and dining. Alternatively, you can buy yourself a small packet of chocolate or treat to reward yourself.

One of the best things about this website is that we are able to find support from people who have been in similar situations to ourselves. It is so easy, because all that you have to do is log into your account, post your problem, and people will help you out. Even when we feel as though we have no friends in our real life who we can turn to, we normally find that there are people on here who are willing to listen and help us with any problems that we might be having. I think that we are lucky to have people who are nice enough to do so, because a lot of people don't have that.

Hello Airasheila, I've been lonely and a bit alone as far as I can remember since graduation. but i can tell you're just lonely, how can you be alone when you can talk to a lot of people in mylot. i feel the same way most of the time but i tend to find something else new just to compensate that loneliness. i am sure you can do too

One of the things that I've learned about friends throughout my life is that those that are true and will be there for you when you really need them are few and far between. The people that don't have the time to talk to you right now when you really need someone are really not friends at all. With that said, you have the people here on mylot to talk to and at least that is someone that you are able to talk to.

Let going out, my friend. You can look for fun outside the door. Don't lay on bad when you're feeling sad. You can go to a coffee bar, relax , then, calling for one of your close friends. I believe that you and your friend will be very happy!

We cannot really expect our friends to be there everytime we need them. I mean they have lives of their own and have their own problems to deal with. If they say that they are just busy that time, then you should try to understand. Maybe it wasn't just an excuse or maybe your timing isn't just right. Maybe it wasn't really intentional. When this kind of situation happens, we still have our family. They could help you.

Just like others here on mylot, including yourself, I have been in the same place you are in right now. I have done the same things that have for people. In the end they either ignore me like your friends do to you. One thing that would suggest to you is too start looking for a new crowd of friends to hangout with. Now when you go to make new friends take time to get to know them. As well when you are getting to know them make sure they will do the same for you that you do for them. If you come across one of your old friends either ignore them or tell them that you don't have the time and that your busy.

I can totally relate to your situation because I, too, sometimes experience that. I haven't been in contact with most of my closest friends since we graduated in college and the loss of communication worsen when some of us got married and had own families. I sometimes feel that I am worthless because nobody remembers me. Friends sometimes text me or call me because they need help or even money and it makes me even more desperate. But then I came into a realization that these friends always remember me in times of need, and it made me feel that they trust my friendship and they consider me a true and dependable friend that's why. But still, we have to be cautious of those whose sole intention is only to use us. So my advice to you if you will consider it is to try to make new friends, be more active socially, maybe the neighbor or colleague you've been ignoring is just a friend undiscovered. Maybe your friends do not remember your friendship anymore but it is also a possibility that they are just busy with their own responsibilities in life. Most of us commit this mistake, to neglect our close relationships because we are much confident that it is just there. So cheer up, and by the way, we are here to listen (errr... read :D) to your concerns.

Hey,airasheila.Do not worry that everyone may occur that situation and mine is too.Sometimes i can not go through the sadness of myself and then i tried to even contact other people through internet.Thank god i'm ok,just be tough and we may all need to face coz we finally couln't bring anything away after all.

I understand your feeling, sometime i got the same situation...when i need, i have no friend around at all. But you have us in here right? Even though you haven't met us in person but we are always around you and can reply you whenever you need. Don't be sad more...You should be happy, ok? Hug you tight!