My ex called several times, but I still not having time to see her
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
May 31, 2012 3:34pm CST
For over a year and half, I broke up with my ex, and I think that I am moving on already. Although pain still linger a bit after memorize the past, I knew what is past is already passed. For last 2 months, she called me twice, and I just kept on telling her that I was kind of busy, and I will call her back or we can hang out whenever I can . On last week, she called me for a favor, but I had to pick up my mom from the airport, so I kind of stood her up. I wasn't mean to her, I was just really busy, and When I have a day off, I just want to have a rest, since I am working 7 days a week. I speculate that she might mad at me since every time she called, I told her I was busy. I don't think that I had done it wrong, because I am telling the truth. But for her, as a friend right now, was it fair to her?
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11 responses
@GemmaR (8517)
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31 May 12
I think it is hard when you break up with someone, as you feel as though you should be friends with them, but that is always a lot harder than you might think because there are always more feelings involved than that, and one of you is always going to feel as though they want more from the other. It is up to you what you want to do with your time, and if you don't want to talk to this girl then you shouldn't have to. Maybe she is having problems moving on? If this is the case then the best thing to do for her would be to move away from her completely to give her the chance to move on as well.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
31 May 12
It wasn't that I don't want to see her. Because I was too busy at the moment, with my job, and other stuff I have to done. So, I just can't go see her. I wish that I have more time of my own now, but I just can't hang out now.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Well if she is your ex, then something had to happen between you two. So if you're busy and I am sure you are, it is fair. Why would she want to hang with you? I mean I don't know who broke up with who, but if it was her that broke up with you I can understand your feelings. Just play it cool. If she calls again and you have some time, talk to her on the phone and find out why she wants to hang out. You deserve an answer.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
Maybe you should tell her the truth that you are done with her. You already moved on from the past. And it means that it is also the end of your friendship so that she will stop calling you.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
2 Jun 12
I think that it is already past since you guys had ended up that relationship.So i definitely think that if you guys can be friend and it is ok.For me,if i once fell in love with that guy.It's really hard for me to still be friends.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
1 Jun 12
What is fair is saying the truth. If you have no intention to call her back why do you say so? Since saying to a woman you will call her back means you do that in one hour or today perhaps at latest tomorrow.
Sounds to me you are not in the mood to meet her at all at this point so tell her and don't answer her calls anymore.
@captinjack (788)
• China
1 Jun 12
Wow, man. I don't think what you did is fair to your ex. Maybe you were really too busy to respond to your ex. Maybe you were scared to see her again at the bottom of your heart or whatever. But it is never a wise idea to be indifferent to a woman. More or less, she must be discontent to you, even hate you. Why don't you call her back and explain everything? If I were her, no matter believing it or not, i would felt relieved after hearing your explanation. Communication is the key to smash misunderstanding. What do you say?
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
If I was your ex girlfriend, after all those calls and invites that you have rejected, it should be clear to me that you are no longer interested in me. Is she trying to win you back? If the guy initiated the breakup, then I can't really see myself still wasting my precious giving him a call or inviting him out. Why should I do that? Or maybe, she really want the two of you to talk about your past relationship hoping that you could fix it. I guess, your ex still loves you. It is also possible that she was hurt that you broke up with her and wanted to revenge :D
@xiaoyeye (32)
• China
1 Jun 12
As a girl, I don't think it's fair to her.You know what is past has already passed and you are moving on already. However, she still needs time or she still wants to be reunited with you. So she calls you. If you think it's impossible to be together again, you'd better tell her directly. When she called you, you said you would call her back or hang out with her which gave her hope that would never be realized. It's so cruel.
@PoppaDave (438)
• United States
31 May 12
Just let her know, you are real busy lately and that you will visit when you can, but at the moment you just don't have time. Be honet and let her know you value friendship and care for her happiness as well, but be stern in standing on your own feet letting her know it is not a good time lately. =)
