My friend just so competitve
By kingparker
@kingparker (9673)
United States
May 31, 2012 3:48pm CST
I wasn't trying to show off or anything. I just want to tell my friend that I bought a new computer which is touch screen, all - in - one computer. And I also bought a portable A/C over the Memorial Day weekend. He asked me how much I spent on them, and I just told him the truth. Then he tried to compete with me how much he spent on his other stuff within this month. He bought a couple of external hard drives; new RAM and graphic cards to upgrade his PC. And other softwares and he fixed up his car, he totally spent more than I did. I just said, "all right, you won." I just shut, and switch to other topic besides spending money, or shopping. That feels weird, when you talk to talk about something, all of sudden people just want to be competitive.
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18 responses
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
31 May 12
Oh yeah?
Well, that's nothing. I once bought a new computer, a portable A/C, some external hard drives, new RAM and graphic cards to update my computer, and it wasn't even a PC, but a Mac, and a bunch of other softwares, AND I was able to fix up four cars and 2 trucks and a van down by the river, and I also bought some new musics and gave the queen a ride on my brand new shiny bicycle and I STILL spent less than both of you, combined!!
So there!
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
31 May 12
AND, I was not only at Woodstock, but I sat on the speakers!!
@cloud31 (5809)
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31 May 12
When people try to compete,I just let them.If that makes them happy then go ahead.
Some people cannot just satisfied of what they have.So they try to compete.I don't appreciate those kind of attitude.Sooner or later they will end up broke.Jealousy makes them like that, they don't like others rise higher than them.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
31 May 12
Yes, this is so true. Some people just don't get it and have to be the attention of everyone. I just shake my head at this kind of behavior. ;)
@GemmaR (8517)
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31 May 12
I hate people who always see everything as a competition, because life just doesn't have to be like that at all. I have one friend who always makes things up to make sure that you think he's better than you. Even though you know full well that he is making the things up, it doesn't stop him, and this means that our friendships are often a little bit strained because of this. You should say that bragging is not cool, and it doesn't make you like him as a person, and hopefully that should stop him from acting in that way because it isn't cool at all.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
31 May 12
I agree with you that this can be quite annoying.
Hey, did I ever tell you about the time I was abducted by aliens, lived on another planet for like, 500 years, became king of the aliens, then came back to Earth and no more than a minute had gone by?
@freymind (1351)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
I think there's a lot of people like that and I didn't have to look on my circle of friends, I already have some as my relatives. 
Its like you are just telling them how happy you are that you bought something that you need and happy that at last you already have want you needed then the person you are talking with will suddenly tell you that I also bought blah blah and I spent blah blah more than what you spent blah blah...
Its annoying to say the least.
Its like you are just telling them how happy you are that you bought something that you need and happy that at last you already have want you needed then the person you are talking with will suddenly tell you that I also bought blah blah and I spent blah blah more than what you spent blah blah...
Its annoying to say the least.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Jun 12
Perhaps you were not trying to show off. I also don't know how much money you are able to spend or how much money your friend is able to spend, but somehow it sounds to me as something else is going on. I don't know if this all is about being competitive, although there will surely be people who want exactly or more like the "neighbours" have. I am glad I don't belong to that group of people. I think it's all just a waste of money. If you can do with less why spend it on more? Also I would not easily tell people what I just bought and for how much. It's not that important to me and more of all I always count with the fact there are plenty of people around me who can't afford it.
@hanlutz (3)
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31 May 12
I agree with you, it is wierd! my cousin does the same thing and has done since childhood. he does it with everything though, i got a new toy, he got a better one. i sprained my ankle, he broke his collerbone. his whole life is like a giant competition and i will never understand why.
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
1 Jun 12
Even i used to do these things before :) when I was small . If I go back and look at it I laugh it out . Yes few people continue to do the same even after that.Competitiveness helps one to grow at some point but it also takes away peace of mind.I just tell those people a word 'So what?'
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
Maybe he just felt that you are boastful when you tell him about what you have bought, that's why he also shows you what he have. I hate that kind of people when they feel that if someone is sharing some good things happens they really have to show what they have too.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 Jun 12
I wouldn't actually call it being competitive, I'd call it being jealous. I think he heard about how much you spent and what you got and was very jealous because of it.
@wildflow3rz28 (180)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Sadly, competition is what makes other people breathe. But for us who do not care if others wanna see us as losers, then we just have to ignore them. I know some other people who even make fun of those competitive friends by feeding their ego more and then just laugh at them behind their back. Sometimes it's funny seeing them excited and frantic because they think that other people cannot handle their self-inflicted "greatness".
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
There are people who are like your friend, who would always want to be at the top, always the unique, always the best, always the number one. Then let them be. It would surely drain their batteries for there would always be someone out there who is better than them and who would beat them. Along the way, they would learn their lessons. I just hope that when that time comes, your friend will take it positively.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Jun 12
Yeah a lot of people are so competitive. I'm glad that you were able to get an all in one computer. That is pretty neat. Some day I would like to save and get me a laptop. It is a great idea to shop over the holiday weekends as they often have so many great deals going on.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
1 Jun 12
Honestly, i don't like your friend's behavior. He just wanna show that...hmmm he is richer than you, he bought many expensive things, blah blah..it is very bad behavior. You are right, it is so weird, just ignore that guy and being happy with us in here...
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
1 Jun 12
i have a little sister who is like that. before she became newly single, her and her hubby would always compete over small things which were silly! he wasn't really in the competative mood but she was, and she took it wayy too far! when they were in the Army, she would try to beat him at every level. in PT, money and he didnt like it when she would do this. when she would loose, and it was quite often, she would make hime sleep outside with her dogs, and her dogs didn't like him! but that still didnt make him let her win!!
I guess some ppl are just like that and u were the bigger person to say what u said!
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
human nature to compete when it comes to these stuff, there are just guys who just like to always on top 
I have some friends who are usually updated with he latest technology and i ind of envy them sometimes.. but they are really nice since they are wiling to share it with us. 
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
31 May 12
I think that competition is just a natural instinct that humans do. Especially for men. If humans were wild, you'd be doing the same thing; competing, but for women. I don't think that he may have been doing it intentionally to hurt you or make you jealous.
@averygirl72 (37845)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Well I have encountered friends like that, they seem to watch out what is new with you and after a few days or months they will have the same thing too and the catch is, they would say to you that what they have is much better than yours. Though you don't have plan to compete they take it as if we are like on a fierce competition. When you are sharing your accomplishments they don't seem to be interested but when it is their turn to share they expect that you appreciate them, congratulate them and WOW them a lot. That is really being competitive.
