What do you call to this kind of love?
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
May 31, 2012 8:12pm CST
A love that built through the internet. No attachment no obligation just a simple talking to each other everyday. Give inspiration and laugh, exchanging thoughts experienced and everyday happenings. A sacrifice love because even though they want to comfort each other through hugs and kisses is not possible. But you both feel the love to each other.
I had a friend he met this guy online and for 2 years being in love to each other they met only twice when the came home for vacation. Actually they were neighbors before and got separated when the family of the guy moved into the US. They saw each other only last two years ago and they are both single. The friend of mine has her stable job and the guy too has a good job in the US. The guy courted my friend and they built a nice relationship since they knew each other since childhood.
She just told me their love she think is unique, no physical contact they were contented just to see each other on web cam talking,laughing,sharing thoughts, lonely and happy moments that happens everyday. They both feel that even they are separated they were beside each other, everyday when the guy is in the office they keep on chatting and even the girl is always online in other words only sleeping time is their break time.
So what do you think about their love? Is their a particular word to describe about the love they have? Both are still young they were in the mid 20's still have no plans of marriage she told me maybe 10 years more because the guy wants to have a stable life int he US. He had many future plans ahead and before setting down he wants to have it first.
What's your thoughts about this?
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19 responses
@celticeagle (168112)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 12
I think this type of communication could be called friendship, even intimate friendship. I think a good loving relationship stems from a freindship like this. The more communication and getting to know one another the better. It is a good basis for a good relationship later down the road.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
They become friends since in their childhood, and friendship is a better start for a deeper relationship called love.
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
1 Jun 12
It is totally pure love and very romantic, i think. Nowadays we just think that we have to make love when we are being in love, gifts, presents, flowers...and meeting everyday. But long time ago, in my parent generation, they do love through mails only since they live far apart. Sometime they receive 1 mail a month only but they still being faithful, give each other sweet words, together dream of a marriage life later, and wait to a day for meeting, etc...Many of them just do meet 1 time before married but they still live in happiness because they really do love with all their heart.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
3 Jun 12
her relationship with this man is not unique it happens all the time. Yes the love can be very real and you go through the emotions just like you were physically together.
I met my mate through the internet, I went through several internet relationships before I found a man in my own city and we are together now for 13 years.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Wow how I wish to have someone to meet over the internet hehehe.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
1 Jun 12
Before the internet was invented people used to sometimes "meet" like this through letters they sent back and forth. Eventually they might enclose a photograph. I know of a couple who fell in love through correspondence, although there was some match-making because the girl, who lived in Europe, was the sister of the boy's best friend, who lived in the US.
The word is platonic when the people have no physical contact, although they could have a platonic "affair" and live close by as well, as long as they do not touch in that certain way. Some people get the words platonic and plutonic mixed up. A Plutonic Affair is one where one of the people is after the other person's money.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
1 Jun 12
Hmmm. I learned something here. I never heard the word plutonic. I've heard of 'golddiggers' but didn't know there was an actual name for that kind of relationship.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
1 Jun 12
I think it´s a beautiful frindship and the platonic love. But it is not the kind of love that usually leads to marriage, as least not in my culture. We need a physical attraction besides the talking where I live.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I really hope that someday they will ended up together. I know the strong relationship they have now will be there foundation to build a nice and wonderful family.
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
2 Jun 12
I´m very glad to hear that. I feel so sad that now so many marriages end up in a bad way. I had a wonderful marriage for almost 40 years and know what a good marriage is.
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
3 Jun 12
Well the fact they knew each other before being separated, gives it a better chance.
However, no obligations, and no attachment, is not love. At least not, the romantic type of love that one would be thinking of in this discussion.
I have a friend, who is a girl, and I love her very much. No obligations, no attachment, and she married another guy, and I'm happy for her. That's a friendship love.
But a romantic love can't exist without attachment and obligation.
In general, I am skeptical of internet romance. People act different when they are on camera, than they do in real life.
Until you see what a person really is in real life situations. See how they react to being wronged, to bad news, to disappointment, you really don't know that other person.
And until you really know that other person, it's risky to get 'involved'. I can't count the number of women, and a few men, that ran off to meet their internet romance, and were shocked to find out it was all a scam. They were duped into thinking he was their one and only, only to find there were several 'one and only' girls around him. Or that he really wasn't the great guy he claimed, or seemed like on camera.
On the opposite side, I know a couple that met online, and got married, and have a couple of kids, and a great family.
I personally can't imagine ever doing this. I would have to meet the other person in person, before I could ever "fall in love" with them. I just don't trust people over the internet.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I do agree with you somehow but sometimes we can't understand the felling until were not in the same situation we can easily judge them but not all ended up bad.
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
1 Jun 12
Its really a fascinating and rather touchy love story in the happening.I Really appreciate their bonding.But I feel they need to be atleast together very soon.As to know each other in person is the best way , online is fine ..love is great and time period of 10 years is rather very late.Anyway best of luck for the pair and have a fabulous life together.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
They will see each other again next year when the guy have his vacation.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
That's a lovely love story that no one knows what is the ending- until the day it came to conclusion
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
1 Jun 12
What else either of them could hope for!Except for a perfect life once they reach their respective goals.I wish them all the luck 
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
1 Jun 12
I think that is wonderful Lyn. This is a very sweet love that is being allowed to blossom without complicating it with physical attachments. I think this is the best way to nurture a relationship. You get to know the other person's heart and personality on a deeper level.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
I felt what she felt while sharing her feelings and stories to me they really in love to each other.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
1 Jun 12
This has nothing to do with love. It has to do with friendship. Love it will be if they also like eachother in real life, are able to spend day and night together in exactly the same way. I doubt that. Behind a computer you can be who you want, always shining, always attractive, always the listener, understanding, caring, funny. But I do think it's good to have someone who is able to brighten up your life/days.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
They seen each other in real twice, and spent the whole time to each other. Until they promise to the love they have even they are far away. Constant communication is their key to have a good relationship and little by little they are building plans for their future.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
It's kinda cute and it really gives inspiration. They're both looking forward to a happy ending. But hope so they wouldn't wait for 10 years before they decide to tie the knot. By that time they'll be in their mid 30's and to many Long distance relationships, the excitement fades sometimes. I do wish them a happy ending though. And hopefully both of them will be together soon. Tell them not to wait 10 years more.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
2 Jun 12
Hehehe maybe it depends also on the situation they have, I'm sure after the guy fulfill his plans the marriage will come.
@Ula1989 (9)
• China
1 Jun 12
I have a friend. She and his husband meet one or maybe twice face to face only. And the rest time they communicate on the line. And they didn't know each other before. One month later, they confirmed their reletionship and got engaged. The decision she made has surprised all of us. I never know she will be the member of "Flash marriage". After they engaged, they still conntect each other on line or messages. Although I think it's haste for her to get engaged, I still give my best friend my best wishes.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
If they both ready maybe it's time form them settle down, I wish them good luck too.
@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
2 Jun 12
I basically do not believe Internet love. I admit I also used to have that strong relationships while sitting infront of the computer screen but it has never turned in love for me. These are just friends you do not see in their usual way of life so you cannot see their negative sides. The only thing you see and hear from such people is just the thing you want to.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Jun 12
I think that they could have a very successful relationship. They knew each other ahead of time. And now they are separated by distance. If one of them is willing to move closer they could perhaps get married and start a very good life together.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
The girl don't want to settle in the US since she respect the future headed plan of the guy. She has her own career too that she wants to fulfill first before settle down for marriage.
@factorial (977)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Hmmmm... I hope they will feel true love when they will meet...
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Jun 12
Yhea it is how wonderful that feeling they have to each other. I wish them a happy ending too.
@andy_aberdeen (1)
•
1 Jun 12
maybe 10 years more because the guy wants to have a stable life??? are you kidding me?
