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would love to hear the cliffnotes of the story behind this post toni. most likely, you went ahead and broke the hearts of the men swooning at your feet, eh? here is my personal take on breaking up courtesy of the band 'nada surf': three important rules for breaking up don't put off breaking up when you know you want to prolonging the situation only makes it worse tell her honestly simply kindly but firmly don't make a big production don't make up an elaborate story this will help you avoid a big tear-jerking scene if you want to date other people, say so be prepared for the girl to feel hurt and rejected even if you've gone together for only a short time and haven't been too serious there's still a feeling of rejection when somebody says he prefers the company of others to your exclusive company but i you're honest and direct and avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you break the news the girl will respect you for your frankness and honestly, she'll appreciate the kind straight-forward manner in which you told her your decision unless she's a real jerk or a cry-baby you'll remain friends

hai Wow....yes, all break up is so hard to accept,I experienced it many times but days I just forget and move on,because I knew that I did all but I realized that I'm not the man they are looking for.but, for now I don't think so if I can accept and I can move on if my gf will break me up.it's too hard for me loosing her, so I'm keep on PRAYING that we will stay for the rest of our life.. anyway,thank so much for the helpful meaning of it..lol.. Have a nice day

Hi toni 100% correct. Instead of making yourself miserable thinking that the other person would look and return - is merely trying to use sympathy. Even if the person returned, it wont be a long lasting relationship. Let the bygones be bygones and look ahead ... there is a silver lining out there somewhere. I fail to understand though why people feel so low and heart broken once an affair ends and also why it always has to be an affair to break

I agree with you on this and its just sad that right now most of the young ones think that they need to hold on to the romance that they have thinking that he or she is the one. Life is too short to live it with someone who already asked for friendship only or who can only give that in return. Yes breaking up isn't easy and letting go of someone you love is the hardest but its for everybody's own good in the end.

I totally agree Toni. ] And girls, if your man breaks up with you, let him go. Focus on reinventing yourself, make yourself more sexier and beautiful, so when he sees you pass by, he will have second thoughts now.

Well I think: Who does not want you, do not you deserve!. This is an Italian saying! However, from my point of view, when an engaged couple are no longer agree, I think precisely the break, is the right thing to do. Also because, assuming that if there is a break, it means that there is also something that does not fit in the couple. Initially everyone will suffer, but if things go wrong, best to break the relationship immediately of engagement.

I totally agree with you. For sometime I thought I had the relationship fro keeps but realized that once started wrong, it can never be right. So even though how hard and painful it was for me to give him up, I just have to let go. I still do think about him sometimes, but that is all I can ever have- memories of him. No longer wanting to be with him. Just knowing that we have become each others' lives is enough.

hi, that is true,if someone break our heart and broke up with us meaning there will be another guy that more deserving to our life and our love,as they said there are always reason why it happen to us.though its really hard to us to accept that break up in first but gradually we heal our heart and can start to be happy again.

Well, If ready go to the final decision: to break up from 1 side or both 2 sides, it means love is gone already and you are right, love should be end in there and nothing more. But before going to that decision, both should think carefully about it, it is not easy to have feeling on a person, it is not easy when being in love together for a while already...so that break up is the final decision when there is no cure for that love only. Nowadays, i feel that people are so selfish or their love is very "small", they can do break up with a small reason, it is so weird...

Is in order, madam. I will quietly follow their instructions.

It's not always that simple. I met a lot of girls who said that to see how their partner would react and then they were angry because he accepted and didn't put up a fight for the relationship. I agree that it was probably better for the guy to end a relationship with a girl like that but not all guys think as I do. For girls it's the same. Don't dream for a miracle, but do your best if you really love the guy. This goes for both boys and girls- don't beg for love but fight for it if it's truly love what you feel because if you don't after a while you'll start thinking ~what if I had done everything in my power ?~ So do what you can in order to live a life without regrets. Ego's won't keep you warm and happy and neither would a fail attempt but if you do anything you can regrets won't eat at your heart every day.

I am 100 percent agree. For me breakup is not the end of everything instead it is a new beginning. It might hard to accept and let go but sooner or later you will realized that there's a lot of good opportunities coming on your way. Sometimes we needed to experience breakup to test our strength and to become a better person. We can also see the big picture of life when we ended up our relationship. And if the man or women left us doesn't mean we did not give our best, she/he might found a better that us but he/she never find someone who can love him/her the way we do because we are unique and the only one can do it.

that's true Toniganzon...my latest wat tragic since i was the one who proposed 4 it...we weren't working out so i suggested it but she really couldn't understand why...she went a whole new level to ask her friends to talk me out of the idea,which was very wrong,n they started bumping up on me with many senseless reasons to stop the breakup.but i just couldn't keep on i was sad,n if she truely loved me she'd allow me be happy but not with her.