Please mind your own business...

I would sometimes find myself in this situation with my mother-in-law. We live with my parents-in-law and usually it's just me and my husband who is with them because our daughter only comes home from her dorm during school vacations and my gay brother-in-law would just go home on Fridays until Sunday after lunch only. Thus, it would always be me and my mother-in-law in the kitchen before and after meal times. And when a situation such as that arises, i would tell her in a nice manner, " Ma, me and my husband knows what to do . We will ask for your help when we need it. " That will silence her.

Well,i really did find in some case.Like saying " try some other discussions." some of the mylotter used to say that to me.. But i think there are some discussions which we should not think like that.Because one may like a thing and say good things about it.Some other people will not like and say bad things about it.So it is their personal matter.They have their rights to say what they want to say.But they should not say like what i have mentioned above.. A discussion will only be interesting when there are difference of opinion.Difference of opinion should come. That is why the word "discussion" Arises...

Who are these people that invade your privacy? There are some like parents, kids and the spouse surely when they do it it is not called invading but there is a better word for it and that is involvement. So far as others are concerned you could just ignore them and move on.

this sometimes happen to me with my mother. i hate it when she talks things about me and my daughter with other people like she says every detail of it.,,i think there some things that shouldn't be said anymore and we just have to keep to ourselves..i hate it and i am not comfortable with it..this happens a lot of times with me..

I faced such people many times, whenever i started something (a job or business)they only discouraged me by saying- why are you doing all this, you dont need it or it doesn't suits your profile, it will be better to doing this as this or that way...bla bla..:/ Such people are only interested in gossiping about others and they try to proof themselves intelligent..

Yeah i always experiencing the same thing. I think we are 'birds of a feather', because you are telling exactly what i feel. Can you make me as your friend. I like you because our views are same. I hate the busy-bodies.

I think I have had such an experience with a lot of people.. and well someone always stands out in my head as that person is really someone who goes out of their way to put you down... and i mean with this, it is not only me... she does this to everyone else. he he oh well i have learned to deal with them with patience anyway.. i know that they are only destroying themselves by doing these things, people will eventually know as you cannot put a good person down and for sure cannot always put a bad person up. It is totally annoying when one person does a lot of things that annoys people, make sure they notice and feel something is wrong with them but they are imperfect themselves!

It is really bothersome when people tend to stick their noses in a place where it is not needed or wanted. It really makes me kind of frustrated to say the least. It is almost like they want the world is rather going to revolve right around them and just pull yourself in. Or they think that they want to help but they are only meddling. I really feel the need to tell these people off more often than I really feel like I should. But they just keep pushing, it is always the type of people who don't take a nice hint. Which can be a problem, as I am as polite as I can be, if there can be a polite way to tell people to kindly buzz off. But then I guess people like that only understand the more direct approach. In the back of their minds, I'm sure they had good intentions but their help is not wanted or needed.

This is very common in my home country....they love to interfere in someone else's life....what I can't believe is when I had a holiday in the US that my host (my own people) insist that they should know where I am going and what are my plans and they are to decide who are the people I am associating with....this is not acceptable to me as this is personal.....so I continued my own life do whatever I want...I was on holiday and I want to enjoy....they throw me out of the house LOL!

Tell me about it! There are people that just don't have a clue and they must have an empty life or something because they always want to know and when they know they always want to criticize, point the finger, blame us...It's society's cancer.

First i would never do like that coz i found that it is really annoying no matter for other people and also yourself.Communication is really important,meanwhile,doing such bad things like wouldn't also make yourself happy.So i'm with you at this point.Respect can be certainly the most important in human relationships.

Yes, I had this kind of experience when people invading my privacy and try to tell me what to do according to their own life, i was like "hey it is none of their business what I want to do in my life, my parents and family never tried to force or try to tell me what to do so why you bother". and I told them everyone has their own life and way to solve their own problem, people may give me advice but no way they are allowed to force their idea to my life. usually it is about my personal choice of education, hobby, or my love life. I like learning something new and I dont mind to spend more money on education, for me it is not about having a degree but having more knowledges and they was like telling me not to waste my time to study another major. Or when they commented on my hobby, I like spending my time on internet but it doesnt mean I only waste my time, I like watching video tutorial or learn crafts, browsing new pattern. and they was like "why wasting time on internet, you are silly to waste time on internet, you should do this you should do that", i would rather spending my time on internet than gossiping other people with them. and about my love life, well just because they are married and have kids since they was young so do I have to do the same thing? sorry for the long response lol, I get annoyed when my former roommates invading my privacy and try to compare my life with them, that if i do what they do then my life would be better as if their life are perfects.

i do believe that people must be ever in that situation at least once including me.. sometimes people was so trying to be smart to mind our business which don't have nothing to do with them.. but still sometimes in some cases they was doing it for our own sake,so yeah.. just trying to receive all the suggestion.. :)

I had personal experience of that sort in my life and it's not a very rare phenomenon in China. For the reasons of behaving like that , I may come with up at least tow possible explanations. The 1st is related to culture . Some societies are more conservative than others and people under such cultures do not accept varieties easilly . Their brains and minds are formatted in a certain way and when they see occurrences which are different from what they think to be abnormal, they are shocked and emmotionally disturbed, so they take actions trying to correct. The 2nd is about personality. Personally I take it as a flaw in one's feature . Life is full of comeptitions and some people do not poss the ability to stand out from others by mastering real capacities but to utilize invading and criticizing others to give themselves some inderect advantages . It's like a scheme behind the scene and it's not uncommon for the crooked people to use it.

I have many times. I just try to let it go in one ear and out the other.

Hi Jobfindonline, I know what you mean. Everyone suddenly become an expert on your life. Even though they dont live it nor do they walk in your shoes. I have also questioned that very thing regarding if they have a life of their own. And seem to have nothing better to do than make notions on someone elses life. I have not said to anyone to mind their own. But I have learned to just let silly igorant comments roll off my shoulders and into the mud. :)

there are certainly people like that who cannot mind their own business. they have made it their own business to mind other people's business, often times it is very nice to tell them to get their own lives. But then i have long accepted that there are really people like this and all i can do is just ignore them and move on, i will live my life.

I always mind my business.

Oh yes, daily! But then again I know I am very guilty in going the other way and butting into peoples business and I have to bite my tongue from saying anything that way too. But I work retail and it's sometimes very, very hard not to give parents a piece of my mind when their 6 year old runs up and asks for a game (that is age appropriate), and the response from the parents is "you don't know how to play that why am I buying it for you." I want to tell them, 'TEACH THEM! That's YOUR job as a parent!' But it's none of my business so I bite my tongue, usually. Some times I slip, and I apologize but it's so frustrating when you see something that someone else is doing/saying and you know with every fiber of your being that they are in the wrong, but you can't say something because it's none of your business truly. I know I hate it when friends and complete strangers alike come up to me and get into my business to tell me I'm wrong when they don't know the whole story. Even if they are right, it's not their place to correct me out of the blue, or give their advice out of the blue. Hypocritical I know, but that is why I do everything I can NOT to get into other peoples business, because I know I don't like it.

Just don't mind them, they are just insecure and feel jealous about you. It's just a challenge to you on how to handle those kind of people. I encountered people also like them and to think I was also treating them in a nice way but they're still betraying me. What I did was keeping myself away from them.