healthy marriage

prashu: This is a problem in vogue for ages together. the intensity has increased on account of advancement of science and techniques. You have stated that marriage after love succeeding also causes difficulties. It is because expectations increase and once the initial desire of being together with a woman/man is satisfied that causes gaps. Responsibilities increase as days pass by -- children are born and much has to be done to satisfy their basic needs. Each member of the couple feels that he/she is bigger than the other and the other person is taking advantage of his/her innocence. you have rightly stated that adjustment/compromise is the key for success of marriage. Upto what extent one can give up --it depends on one's own image about himself or herself. I belive in giving up more and fully because readjustment after separation or getting a new partner is awfully difficult. Give more and more and expect less and less.

The first thing that one should do is to marry the person that you think you can spend the rest of your life with and do not marry because of pressure or because you like something from him/her. Be ready to be committed to your marriage, remain faithful, be intimacy with your partner, have open communication and respect one another.

I would say I had a healthy marriage for about 40 years. We had our discussions and when I became a little wise, I decide I´d fight over the important issues and let the small ones alone. That helped me a lot. It´s incredible how we can get very b*itchy over someone coming in (from work) with dirty shoes. That´s absurd. We do a lot of things we shouldn´t during the day. I live alone now and I have noone to fight with. But wouldn´t t be wonderful to have someone I care near me to share my day?

Just keep in my mind the sacred vow you both made in church as witnessed by the state and GOD. Love would surely be a binding force that would keep your marriage intact through thick and thin, no matter what ups and downs you both would go through. Respect also plays a vital role as this surely would make both of you realize the aspect of "ego" which is a common denominator to every intricate issues you might both have.

HI, Not only adjustments work in a marriage but there also has to be an udnerstanding between the couple. I have been married for 15 years and we both respect each other's decisions as well we try to work out things together. Healthy marriage should have a basic foundation of trust and love so we will not actually feel that we are adjusting and not enjoying the company of our partner.

hello,my additional insight to this topic,i am married for almost 10 years, and the feeling we had with my husband still the same way back 2001 when we are still girlfriend and boyfriend, our secret, GOD IS THE CENTER OF OUR MARRIED LIFE,open communication, sharing your what you feel,everything,respect each other and treat your partner as your boyfriend/girlfriend in order to maintain good relationship.

My mom and dad had been married for 30 years now, and based on what I see from them, I can say that when a couple knows how to meet halfway it works. They have respect for each other and no matter how intense the fight is, they never curse each other. My father is a real gentleman, I guess that if all men can be like him then there would be more marriages like my parents'.