Prepare for a Wedding / Live-in Relationship

For the men, it's safer to live with the woman first before marrying, so that he could see her more closely (like how she is in handling a home, etc.) On the other hand, it's much safer for women to marry first before living together because when you live with someone prior to marrying, what's the point of marrying still if you're acting as husband and wife already? Anyhow, for me, I think I would prefer a long relationship first as boyfriend and girlfriend. Trips together, family affairs and such in order to know each other. So that both could see how the other is when situations are not 'normal' or 'routinary'. Like when we go for an adventure and camping, how does your partner behave like? If he/she is very tired and hot-headed can you tolerate it? You can find these things out when you spend a lot of time together - even when not yet married, nor when not living together. You see, some people say that it's better to live together because you'll see the 'real' person. This is not totally true because you never figure out the person totally even after marriage. There will be something new to discover every day. I guess for the woman it's difficult to just live-in together and decide that it's not worth pursuing in the end, because we (women) do have depreciation. Our youth, beauty and etc don't last long. As my good friend used to say, "Why buy the cow if you can have free milk?". Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

I am not against those who prefer to live together first before marrying each other. But of course- in this situation, it is always the woman who lose after the man refuses to marry her in the end. I have seen many marriages who ended up in broke up after a year or two. Some do not even last for a year and get divorced and re-marry again. So,it is almost like lie-in and separate and get a new relationship again. Here's one thing. If you really want a lasting relationship, one should not think about separation. One should always look straight for eternal love. So, if something goes wrong with the relationship, one will never resort to separation or divorce, but will work out to patch up any misunderstanding. It's not live-in or marriage that matters in a relationship- it is love. There are live-in partners that last forever and only decided to marry on their last days (as they gets old) While there are wonderful and big weddings that never last for a decade.

I moved in with the man that I thought I was going to marry, but there have been a number of issues that just can't be glossed over. 1. He was supposed to be getting divorced from his wife. She left him over two years ago, even filed the papers, but then everything just sort of went kaput. And he doesn't seem too keen on filing himself. 2. He is terrible, no, AWFUL when it comes to handling money. A year later, and it's MY bills that are late, or not getting paid. NOT boding well for the future. 3. We have had terrible screaming matches over some stupid crap. I know how bad my temper is, and have tried very hard to NOT say nasty things, as is my custom. Didn't stop him-he's said some really nasty things that have REALLY hurt me. 4. One day while setting up our new apartment, he threw me against a wall. It's because of these things that makes me wonder WHY I stay. Oh wait, I know-I sold my old car and had my sister send me $1000 to make a downpayment on his new car. I have a while before I can afford one. But if I had known any of this going in, I'd have run the opposite direction.

Always marriage first for me. It's best to be married before you live with someone. Studies go to show that instead of making things better by living together it only makes it worse. Also it's best to know that someone is committed to you.

Hi Onlyhope, the culture differs from one country to other. In India, One should get married first and then settle down in family. There is no live-in relationship before marriage. Marriage is a bond made between a guy and a girl that they will live happily ever after but at the other side, you can find divorce cases piling up. So, I don't actually understand why a person should get married, why can't he just start away with live-in relationship.

hi, Live-in-relationship not allowed in our country. Its an offense by law and one will be punished for doing so. And frankly speaking i am also against it. Wedding is known as pure bond by law and culture and it is not easily broken. Live in relation ship means just have fun and separate. Which is not a life.