I need some advice...

Oh that's just sad. I couldn't imagine people leaving their kids or those who obviously opens up to them because of their personal needs. I guess not everyone is made to be a mother. I could remember the situation of my partner with your story. He was very close with his mom and when the relationship of his parents went rocky, his mom felt that she needed to go. She went away leaving him behind and he cried for several days facing the door because his mom left. It was devastating for him. Soon he because a problem child too. He just didn't get why people needed to do this to him, he didn't understand and thought that he was the reason why his mom left. After several years, he finally set these things aside but was left to hurt again when he saw his cousins. Those cousins of his were taken cared by his mom. They loved her to bits and she loved them back, he couldn't understand why she had to take care of the cousins and never bother to visit him? and every single time she'd call, it was just to ask about his dad and how imperfect their lives were. To this day, he cannot forget his past. He often told me that mothers should be mothers else, women should not have kids if they can't take care of them! I still don't have kids but I am glad my mother figure (my mom) is the best mom. She isn't only the best mom but also the best wife. She is literally there for us and her love for us is unending and we love her for that. When my partner saw my mom and how she was preparing food and taking care of my dad and us, he always tells me to love my mom because she's priceless. I think you should let go of the people who hurt you. I think instead of wondering and hurting every single time you think about them, you should promise never to do that to your kids. I always tell my partner that the past is there to help us appreciate our present and do our best to make the future better. You both may have not gone through a good childhood, but now is your chance to make things better and happier not just for your kids but for you yourselves as well. Take care mom, and I pray that you will have the patience and the strength, and remember, you are the best mom your kids would ever need. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

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It is so nice for the attitude you have for your children. There are some like who with so many hurts and wounds at their childhood or teenage stage, then when they become adults they do take revange even on thier own kids or childre. It is really beautiful how you try to fill up your wounds by making your children happy and not inflicting in them the injections. Yes children are defenseless when they are small. But try to forgive those who hurt you. They you shall enjoy to the maximum. What you did not get from your parents you mey be rewarded by your children's acknowledgement.

Maybe because each of us has a very different sense of responsibility. Maybe it is not about love anymore. As a young mother I still do not know how much I could do for my kid if ever I need to sacrifice more in my life. But nonetheless, I know that I love my kid so much that I can do anything just to see her happy. We could find many reasons to love someone but could also find a thousand more reasons to leave that person. Sometimes, love can also be a reason to leave a person. But in your case, did you ever ask her why she just suddenly let go of you? If she was friends with your stepmom and dad, it could be that she deemed it right to give them respect in upbringing you. And bless you for being a good mom despite your sad childhood. Hoping that in the future you would find it in your heart to forgive them and move on with your new happy life.

First, I am sorry you had to go through so much pain, thats awful. I do not understand how any mother, foster mother, stepmother or any other kind of mother could do that. I have always wanted to be a foster mother, my whole life because I love children and I love helping. I would be an amazing foster parent. But I chose not to because I could not raise and take care of the kids and have them taken away at any point. That would break my heart! I am a mother to my three children and nothing could ever separate us. They are my world. I could never in a million years just walk away. This is why I have such a hard time understanding how some mothers walk away, hurt or even kill their own babies who they brought into this world. Blows my mind. I have no idea the kind of hurt you feel, I am sure its a lot. I just think you should keep beong a great mother to your children and keep cherishing each moment with them. I think its therapy in itself for you to be a better mother than what you had. I hope one day your heart heals.

First of all, no one can replace a mother's position. A mother is a mother. But at times, I wonder even a stepmother is also a mother, then how come she can behave indifferently? I have a 2 year old son and he is my life now. I am so possessive of him and I love him with all my heart.