insecurity
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
June 3, 2012 8:09am CST
what if someone really good looking came to you telling you that he/she likes you and he wants to be his boyfriend/girlfriend? what would you do in this situation? would you believe he is serious or that he's just teasing you?
personally I don't know what to believe...he could pretty much have any girl he feels like...why would he look at me? I'm insecure and he told me that I need to learn to appreciate how much I worth...
and he dedicated me this song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QJO3ROT-A4E&feature=youtu.be
my heart is totally melllltttinggggg
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12 responses
@dede28 (52)
• Romania
3 Jun 12
Insecurity destroys relationships but LOVE builds relationships. The Bible says in First John 4:18, "Love has no fear because perfect love expels all fear. If we’re afraid, it shows that His love has not been perfected in us."
How does that work?
How does love expel all fear?
Here’s what it does: it takes the focus off of you and it puts the focus on another person. That’s how it makes a difference. :* XOXO
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@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
4 Jun 12
"If we’re afraid, it shows that His love has not been perfected in us"...i love this sentence.. it is totally right.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
3 Jun 12
Hello swissheart
I have had this experience as well. A ridiculously good looking person expressed their interest in me, and I thought this couldn't be real. Why would they be interested in me?? Still, they persisted and I was wooed by their charms and we are together to this very day, loving each other and enjoying life together.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
3 Jun 12
happy to hear that. how did you manage to overcome your fear? I'm scared with the fact that I might end up hurt
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
3 Jun 12
we tried to have a relationship in the past too.but thanks to my insecurity I practically ruined everything....he said that he had feelings for me but seeing me acting so cold made him give up but that he still feels somthing for me and that he couldn't take the idea of seeing me with someone else. I don't know...guess I'll see if he keeps expressing his interest in me
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
3 Jun 12
Well, you may end up hurt, but that is true in any relationship. All relationships are a risk, for a plethora of reasons.
If this guy has expressed his interest in you, then he is interested in you. If you are interested in him, then give it a chance and see what happens. But I encourage you not to short-change yourself based on your own insecurities. Remember, you are as valuable as anyone else in the world.
@ally12 (1202)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Insecurity will just bring you nowhere. So what if he is good looking? Maybe what you are trying to say was hes more than enough for you to deserve him.? If you just open your eyes wide then you will surely know if a person is sincere or no. Dont be blinded by an outer appearance. it is sometime deceiving but of course not for all cases.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
3 Jun 12
I"m saying that he looks good and that there are girls chasing him and this scares me...I guess I have to learn to thrust myself more
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
5 Jun 12
well you see this is the problem...I don't know if I should thrust that he's serious or I'm just another girl that he wants to check on his list
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
Learning to appreciate yourself is learning to love and accept yourself, and if you do, it would be hard for others to love you back. To doubt his intention would be for you to find out, the sincerity and truth of the issue at hand, and if truly finds you interesting, then just be yourself and enjoy his company.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
Good point, and i guess he just wants to be with you. There are times when we seem to enjoy someone's company completely different from what we perceive of them. The "vibes" issue is somewhat clear as he wants to be with you as he feels rather comfortable, at ease and probably the sense of belonging. Good luck.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
3 Jun 12
I don;t know...he tells me that I make him feel different and that he likes the fact that I"m not like other girls...that I"m not all over him and I let him come to me.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
3 Jun 12
What do you mean by: really good looking? I am good looking too so this would not impress me. Also telling me he likes me is not enough, saying at once I love you sounds cheap to me but a song sounds better and would make me think!
Lucky you, ignore your insecurity and take some chances!
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
3 Jun 12
It's hard for me to thrust him...or better said it's hard for me to thrust myself and I'm afraid that I might end up hurt
@Mashnn (4501)
•
4 Jun 12
What you need to ask yourself first iswhether he is the right guy for you. Unfortunately, some guys can do anything to try to win a girl heart just because he want something from the girl. Take your time and learn more about him.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
4 Jun 12
I can't tell if he's the right guy for me. despite the fact of how he looks I like his way of being...I like talking to him I like spending time with him and I feel like we would never get bored that we would always find things to talk about. now I don't knowww......I"m scared of the fact that I might end up hurt. but on the other hand if I don't take the risk I'll never find out
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
4 Jun 12
I would say that every person is beautiful and it does not have to be from the physical aspect. You should not feel insecure about him showing his love for you because you feel and think and see that he is good looking and is out of your league. I'd say celebrate the love you both have and don't ever feel you are not worthy because you are worthy just as he is. all people whatever race, whatever background and no matter how they look should be given the chance at love.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
4 Jun 12
you're probably right but I can't help it feeling insecure. and because of that I blew things in the past with him... we tried to be together but the fact that I was cold with him made him stop trying...but he said he still has feelings for me. now I don't know what to do...
@adforme (2114)
•
4 Jun 12
Well, either this is a dream come true or it is too good to be true. I am sure you are going to play things by hear, and put him through some tests. In other words, you got to feel him out. You have to ask yourself some questions as well. Are you ready for a relationship? Would you be better off getting to know each other as friends. Believe me, if he is attracted to you, the ball is in your court. Just be careful, and do things at YOUR pace.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
3 Jun 12
Surely would think he's not joking. I don't see why a handsome guy wouldn't like me but also for me the inside is so important. I dated guys that were gorgeous but one in two months I was thinking what did I see in him. He was the best of friends for a long time but dating he was distant, empty, weird person...
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
3 Jun 12
You should ask him if he is sincere. If he is the type of person who is honest about then if you like him you should date him. Depending on the circumstances for me, if he is a person I know well, and respect I would date him. It all depends though on the circumstances.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
3 Jun 12
yes but there are people who fake really good. I like him. I don't necessarely like how he looks...I like how he makes me feel, how we can talk about anything. but the fact that there are girls chasing him it intimidates me
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
3 Jun 12
I would admit insecurity will be felt initially but who knows, she maybe captivated by some unknown and irresistable reasons. Smell of my perfume, my charm or she really like me at first sight. I would give this grand event to flourish - I would spend time with her at that vey moment, scrutinize her real intentions. Who knows, this can be something more. It can be love at first sight.
@obey39 (125)
• China
4 Jun 12
Hello, my friend.I think it is a nromal way for a boy/girl to express blessings to the sexy.Do not always feel ut all when some one express his sincere feelings to you all of a sudden,Instead, you will feel proud of yourselves, because you are so charming that thousands of hundreds of fans follow you and expect to make friens with you!you are so happy I think!
