Do you have too much pride

I always am the first to apologize if I did wrong. It is a shame and its gotta be how they were raised. Im sorry your mother was that way. My mom always said sorry but never my father.

I really hope so. I'm not the perfect son and I am pretty scared of having my own knowing that I have slightly disrespected my father on several occasions getting into an argument with him. He told me that time that what I have done to him will be done to me by my children ten-folds, and I really really hope not. Of course, I apologized after those incidents but those words got stuck in my mind.

I am so glad I had my mother to teach me good manners. Of course, we want to be a good example for our future generation. I think you will be a great example to your children when you have them. =)

I agree. It teaches them no one is too old or young to make mistakes.

I have no problem saying sorry either but I know a few people who do. I agree, its needed in order to show a good example for kids. That is exactly what it was with my father. He did not want to lose control. He had us scared of him. Thats not respect, its fear. He failed to see the difference. I never understood his parenting and I never will.

I think we have all been there with losing our temper now and then. My littlest one is always under my feet too! Lol. Exactly, if we do not have manners neither will they.

I have had to apologize too. I agree, children deserve respect too. I feel the same way, my babies are everything to me. I am surprised my siblings and I all have no issues with apologizing with how our father was...

Good for you! My father actually did apologize to me a couple of times when I was a child. My mother never did. To this day, my mother never has, and she certainly has cause to do so. My father was the better example to me, which is really surprising when you consider the masculine expectations with which he was raised.

Well that is good that your parents did not have an issue apologizing. My father never said sorry, ever and still has not unless my mother told him to. It is good to say sorry even to children. It is teaching them to have manners.

I have to say that looking back in hindsight, they were seldom wrong...

My father was wrong many times. He always told us he only agreed to have us so he could have slaves to do everything for him. He constantly yelled at us for stupid things like we were retarded and could not understand English. He would always call us rude names like slobs. The list goes on and on... I don't have that kind of time to write them all down now but there were plenty of times where an apology was in order.

I agree. Showing by example is SO much better than just telling them. Our kids need to be taught manners so they can be good people. =) Thats great that you taught yourself that! I don't know anyone else that has done that.

Thanks!

Bounce...Really?!? I never would have thought you were too prideful to apologize. You seem so sweet and wow, I am very surprised. I see something wrong with it only for the fact that my father was hateful all the time and never felt the need to apologize. Honestly, I am very insecure because of things he used to say to me. I think there is a fine line between being a big deal or not... That's good that you realized its nice to say sorry sometimes. They can learn that way that at any age we do make mistakes sometimes. And of course they learn manners from us too. Keep trying, that is all you can do is best. =) I'm proud of you for trying!

That was something he should not have said. And it would have been different if he gave some sort of an explanation after he said it. Look, if I was to say something on that order, I will always explain why I said what I said. Sometimes people take a statement seriously. I always like to clarify what I mean when I say something. I am also sure your father does not look at your sister as beautiful and you not. I think he looks at both of you as beautiful. But I can see how it became a blow to your ego and caused you to not follow your dream. That does have an impact. Parents sometimes do not realize that. I remember when I was you I was always told I cannot do this or that and thats impossible. Things like that. I do understand that they grew up in prehistoric times and life was different for them. But that stopped me and held me back most of my life. So I can relate.

Well that is good that your kids just know and vice versa. Sometimes people just need to hear it too though. Like with my father, it was major things he should have apologized for and didn't. An example is I was telling my parents when I was 18 that I wanted to model. My father turned around and said well I know your older sister could and should do it because she is beautiful. That was a slap in the face to me. I was at an age where I was unsure of myself as it was and I gave up the dream because of what he said to me. It hurt a lot. That deserved an apology and I never got one...

So your kids are lucky when they have a good mom like you. I am proud of you too..

Trust me I do not and will not ever agree with my father's opinion either. I always hated as a child that I was never allowed to speak. Yes, I am teaching my children good manners.

It does actually. To apologize your admitting you were wrong and at fault. My father thought he was too good to do that and he thought he was always right. Therefore he had too much pride to humble himself enough to say I was wrong. I want to set a good exanple for my kids. I say sorry if I am wrong. We should not have to apologize for no good reason but if you have done something mean or hurtful we should humble ourselves enough to apologize...

Thank you for the compliment. =) I am 27 years old and married. Yeah its good to apologize when your wrong so the kids learn to say sorry when they are wrong. =)

I don't either. I always apologize to my kids or anyone for that matter. Of course it shows our kids manners and that even adults make mistakes! Right, we need to lead by example. =)

Yep because even us adults are not prefect because no body is prefect.

I wish my father did not follow everything his father did but he did. My mother tried to make him be more soft and compassionate but he never got there and still hasn't. There are some good points about the way I was raised and there were bad points. I will do the good things I like and the bad things I will not do. My father never found his own way to do things.

I always wonder why some people are more ashamed of apologising than to accept that they have been wrong and saying it.

Yes whether big or small we need to know when an apology is in order.

I agree with you. Parents can be wrong too. It is good to teach them that. They follow our example. I have more respect for people that apologize to me as well...

Yes we should absolutely tell them sorry if we have done wrong. We are their example. They will learn to do the same if we do it. No matter what the age it definitely should be said.

For some people yes I agree it is hard to say. For me it always came easy because I treat others the way I want to be treated...

Your poor english is okay with me. =) I know people are from all over.