Some people - I just dont understand!
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
June 3, 2012 1:26pm CST
This lady I use to work with asked me to go out for a coffee after work.
I work a few sideroads over from the town she lives in. So I thought why not since it would get both of us out of the house.
I show up at her house, and we leave. She says she has to stop at the Dollar Store to buy cat food (yep, thats right she buy her cat food at the dollar store - some cheap food that noone has heard of before).
She carried on how she cant afford it anyways, and she needs to find a job (since the government is too cheap to not give her enough money while on disability yet last time I checked they give way more than needed - they are paying over her thousands of dollars of depth and she still gets over thousand dollars a month from the government - so where is yet? she gets her food from the food bank).
So when we were done, I said how I wanted to get these herbs for my garden, then we can go for coffee. She insisted before today, and today she was paying for coffee. So when we were done we stopped at the coffee shop, she goes give me the money and Ill run in and what we want. Ummm....WHAT? I dont her I didnt have any change and she carried on how she cant afford it.
She goes I told you at the dollar store I was done , and thats all I needed. Excuse me? She knew she didnt have the money, and assume I would pay, then shes just basically bumming a ride off me because she needed cat food and couldnt walk acorss town to get it.
I just dropped her off at home and left. Now I can see why noone will drive her or take her anywhere. She takes advantage of everyone and thinks everyone will feel sorry for her. While we were in the dollar store she was trying to get me to buy her cat food. I told her no as I cant afford it, and have 3 cats & 1 rabbit to geed plus all my bills.
I dont plan on taking her out anywhere, especially not going out of my way. Today she was whining about how she has to go to the doctors in the city nad the bus pass it too expensive and the government has to reimburse her or else. I think this is the year for me and Im cutting out all these type of people in my life and thinking of myself.
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10 responses
@innocents_lost (1026)
• Canada
4 Jun 12
I was going to say before I read that last paragraph I think you need to cut some of these kind of people out of your life all they do is drag you down and cause grief in your life and that's something Noone needs. It's hard to cut people like that out of your life but it often for the best that and maybe they will start to see that being negative and complaining as well as taking advantage of people is not the way to get anything accomplished
@roberten (3128)
• United States
3 Jun 12
No, they understand just fine. They live by their wits and you are walking around like a living target. You are hard working and honest; people know how industrious you are and they take your kindness for weakness. Applause to you for not letting them take advantage of you. Don't let them play you.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
3 Jun 12
This lady is older and I honestly think she doesnt understand. Her parents, her siblings, then everyone in life has handed her everything so she thinks it should be like that now. She will complain (but not whining) that she doesnt have money, and afford things everyone feels sorry for her and she has these stories to go with it. For example all her debt is from her son screwing her for a Rogers Turbo stick of $500.00. Yet, she had 30, 000 in debt beforehand and she still owes me about $80.00. She will go in a store, and say Ill pay you back yet never will. So I refuse to buy her anything period, and if she would work for it I wouldnt mind helping. If she couldnt afford something they why is she sitting on disability with cable tv, internet, and name brand food. I tried giving ehr such sites as MyLot, and so on and she doesnt want to work for it.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I completely agree with what you are saying. You should definitely do that. It's awful that people do things like that. She was definitely taking advantage of you. She wanted you to get her cat food and pay for her coffee. Basically she wanted a free ride in everything that she planned on doing that day. I don't mind doing things for people I know it's when they ask or expect things of me that there is a problem.
@fashionfever (2200)
• Indonesia
4 Jun 12
Hi 911Ricki, I too have the same experience with people who try to take advantage of me. What I do is cut my connection with her, I filtered her number from my cellphone so I dont have to hear her whinning and crying about her life because she is not only try to take advantage from me expect me to help her when she doesnt even help herself but she called me all the time day and night disrespect my privacy. Im a student, I work for my parent and I sell my craft to earn extra income. She sent sms told me to buy her phone credit because she doesnt have money. well she didn't even ask in polite words, so why should I buy her phone credits when mine has zero credit. She complained how she doesnt have money to buy milk for her son, but when people give her loans she would spent it in beauty parlor, no doubt none willing to give her loan anymore. Im cutting this kind of people of my life, I better use my time to do something positive instead of listening how bad is her life.
@Lizomatic12 (96)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Sorry that you had to go through all of that but hey, you learned from it right?
Yes, there are many people in this world that use peoples kindness for their own gain. They are called mooches in my area.
Does make a person wonder if they have Goverment Aid and Disability benefits, what does she do with all of her money?
Don't stop being nice to people just because of one person. If it makes you feel good to be nice then, continue to do it. Good Luck:-)
@ForSouls1234 (720)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I actually worked with a person like this, believe it or not she was the manager and I was just a peon employee. But I did not know the condition of my employment was chauffeuring her around. She worked full time and got a great salary yet she said she was afraid to learn how to drive and that cars were too expensive anyway. She would ask me to take her everywhere and even invite herself to come with me if I was going somewhere after work. Well isn't that nice, some of us actually have car payments and are expected to cart around the ones who don't want the expense.
It's good sometimes to do a little brain picking and find out what people are really living on, it keeps you from feeling like a fool later on. And I agree with you, if she keeps feeding her cat junk shes not going to have one for long. I have also known some who get disability for themselves or their kids in the thousands a month and I did not find it out until years later, this is just my personal experiences and I know not all have had this happen but it makes me feel so taken advantage of.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
3 Jun 12
my mom knows someone like that. she is on disability and cannot take the bus, so she is always asking people from her church to drive her everywhere. the thing is, she never stays home and always wants to go somewhere. she got mad at my mom because she wouldn't take her out on Easter Saturday! my mom is in her 70's and hates crowds and why should my mom drive this girl all over town?
@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
3 Jun 12
You and I are kind of alike....always trying to be nice and a good person and just getting taken advantage of all the time! I have stopped several things and letting them bother me and trying to change my life to fit in with the bad things that have happened to me that I can't change. Sad, but true. Oh well... guess we just keep on learning!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Jun 12
There was a time in my life that I might bum like that, but no longer. I would feel really bad for doing that. I would be upfront and say I wish we could get together but I have no money, would you like to do something say at my place? That way the person knows and can refuse if they want to.
She will learn one day though, and it will most likely be the hard way.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
3 Jun 12
You sound very angry and as I read the first part of this long story I thought: what a nasty person you are. You already made up your opinion about that lady. But as I read on I thought it's not true since you wrote this afterwards, after all is happenend. In the end I can only agree with you (plus this all reminds me of how I was for many years and how people abused me and how I deleted them out of my life, finally!). Get rid of these people. Don't care if anyone says you are selfish or people are so more selfish today. I don't believe that. People like you are there plenty and if you stay that way you will only attract more and more of thes whining people. You are right she (and others) want you to feel sorry, worst of all is they don't care if you are broke or if your cats have nothing to eat. It's really great you refused to pay for her catfood! I admire you if it comes to that.
