Where Will You Put Yourself In This Situation?

toniganzon it is advisable for parents to accept the daughter's choice as otherwise she will go away from you now itself instead of her leaving after marriage. sorry. pray to god that the relationship should be smooth.

hi toni. youth nowadays are really so hard to understand. even how much we sacrifice for them, to give them better lives, they still get so stubborn, never listen. if only she can see the future. one thing more, my wife is someone we know, and i guess daughter also knows, that can predict and have a very good sense when it comes to relationships and even with a person. ravisivan, you are a parent and when you can sense that your child is tracking a bad path, won't you pull him away from that road and lead to a better and smoother track?

parents always have a good intuition on people specially with relationships their children may go to. but still she is just so ... i don't know neil.. why is she like that? you did and have provided her well. i pray to God that maybe soon the well see the good thing her parents have given her.

hi ravisivan. is it really "telling a life" or "telling a lie" about her relationship? we know about Facebook, how it becomes a good source of information, and even how it helps the authorities in solving crimes. but it's not really about Facebook that I am trying to talk about here, but the relationship of my wife and her daughter and how to keep secrets or telling lies.

Yeah i truly think so, she had been in the relationship of this guy for a while now. to be honest i think she should be given a chance to live her life. otherwise, she will keep lying to herself and the family for a very long while. she is working and i hope she gets to save money, otherwise, she will end up being broke if she doesn't spend it wise or save it.

hi dolce. personally, i also do not want her to continue with the relationship. the boy is very well known in the place as a repeater in school. i do not exactly know why he remains in high school with his age i also do not have an idea. i heard from neighbors that the boy is a frequent internet cafe addict and there are also talks about him being a user and a drinker. not to mention how closed my wife and his mother from their childhood days, my wife very well know how their family is. i have doubts in the past, that they probably meet frequently during school days or weekend. i even have some evidences that can prove there could have happened, something serious between them, that i thought i could have showed my wife. but since she said, if the evidence could only hurt her, better keep it to myself. and that's one thing, in this new situation, i have draw-back, to tell her what her daughter confessed me. She really is working now. But it's one thing that also makes me feel uncomfortable, as we work in the same office. It's something that we know something that we are not telling my wife which in a sense, she should know. it's something that makes me feel i am being unfaithful with my wife. Decisions, responsible for her actions? I can give her that and everything including freedom, but not, i guess, in the same roof where rules and regulations must be for parents and not the children to make. letran, if you're the parents, will you let your daughter work and live life with a high school boy? will you allow your daughter to be spending her time and money with an irresponsible man?

we really do not want to interfere with the relationships our children will get into. personally, all i wanted is for me to get to know their sweethearts. i always tell them to bring them to the house so we can meet. i always wanted to know their love interests so we can also know who their families are. it's as simple as that, right? but with this daughter, getting to know is not necessary, with respect to the family. as my wife and the boy's mother were very closed friends during their childhood. the problem is the boy himself, as he is an irresponsible person. as of this moment, our daughter is already working but the boy is still in high school when the age gap is only about two or three years, daughter's older than him.

i heard that the boy is a bit younger than our daughter. maybe two or three years younger. but 17 is not anymore for high school and he should be in college already. one thing that made me decide to recommend her to our chief to get the job here is for her to feel that i am always on her side and do not think the otherwise.

ohhhh that is why your wife totally do not like the guy as i would also because if we think of the future that guy would not be able to give her a better future.... tsk tsk. why is he even still in high school at that age? your daughter i believe is already around early 20s right? therefore the guy is also around that age.... maybe it is time you talk to your daughter about it but do not say negative stuff maybe she should just be careful as she may be used by the guy... or well let her just go with it and see for herself what will happen just let her know you both are at her side..

Oh sorry for that I guess I miss that post. Well, hope you will not get me wrong my friend. It is not that I am interfering family's affair. Based on some of my experienced and encountered same case like yours, lots of relations being broken, family members being broken, anger and some untoward incidents happen in terms of feelings are being touched and yet in the end the neglecting parents is the loser because their children elope. I hope and pray this would not happen in your family. What I think is the best idea for you both (your wife) would be to talk to your lady, explain to her what would be the consequences if she will go on with his present boyfriend. If you couldn't convince your girl and show force to separate them, try to anticipate what would be the result. If your girl can't separate abruptly her boy give her time and space. I hope your daughter would understand your side. Good luck. Mobhomeir here 070612 0912hrs

hi mtrguanlao. it's really a tough situation and so far, i still have no idea what to do. i know my wife very well. and i know our daughter knows her mom too, very well. but even me hesitates some times if i have to talk or even start talking with her. with regards to giving reminders and advices, i know it's only part of being a parent. it's only for them to believe and follow. but we don't want our children to suffer later with their bad decisions. i just hope children won't blame us parents when they come to that situation.

it's really a tough situation. seems like i am being stuck between two mountains. and i can't help to feel i betrayed my wife in this situation.

i know it will only make her stick with him if we will frequently tell her how we, especially her mother, dislike the boy. what we only ask from her is to be honest. i also know it is not necessary to tell her about parents being strict as it even came out from her mouth, and even told me to keep the trust, as if we parents do not have trust in her, worse might get worst with our daughter.

i find it really difficult for me. it seems that i am being unfaithful with my wife too. but of course, it is not the way it is. one of the problem here is how my wife will react if she knows that i know about their relationship and i did not tell her. and i do not know how will i depend myself. like i have mentioned here before, one time i got a hold of some evidences that will probably make her daughter can't deny with her lies. i told her about it, if she wanted to see the evidences. she told me, if that would only make me hurt, don't. so from then on, i keep those files and information. but it's hard for me to keep secrets, especially when it involve the children. sometimes i will tell her how i feel, when daughter has to leave and go with her friends. that probably, she will be with the guy. my wife told me, how could daughter feel when she thinks no one believes her. so i let go. i mean, i let my feelings with myself. i keep my doubts with me. probably, at that time, she would like to believe herself that i won't talk, which at this time, i still have worries. if i can talk or how long i can keep it. but actually, when i asked her and she replied with "yes, they are still on", she added that at the time her mom asked her and said no, they really broke-up. i still have a doubt.

i am not sure about the boy's age but our daughter is almost twenty now. while our daughter is already working, the boy is still in high school for years. being so closed during their childhood, my wife knows what kind of people the boys have. i am not against the kind of people thing as it's not the family that our daughter will be living together, if ever, but the boy. and i feel she do not deserve irresponsible and childish man. by the way, if i am right with my recollection, our daughter is about two years older than him.