What is she thinking?
By syramoon
@syramoon (654)
United States
June 4, 2012 1:43am CST
So a friend and I went to visit another friend this afternoon, and we were sitting on her porch, just talking and joking. This friend lives in a culdesac, after a few minutes of being out there I notice a little boy riding his tricycle around the circle area. My first thought was to look for his mother, or some adult watching and there was none. This child couldn't have been more than three of four years old. My friend says he's always out riding around on that bike alone, but I didn't care if it was usual. I went to talk to his mother, I walked right up to the door and knocked on it, and politely asked if she knew that her small child was outside riding his bike in an area where cars drive without an adult? Her answer "Oh, everyone is used to him playing out there, they all watch for him."
Okay, first of all many people who don't live in the culdesac use it as a turn around, and that's not even the point. All it takes is like two seconds or less for someone not to pay attention and her child would be dead, or abducted or anything could happen. And I told her so. She told me to mind my own business. I'm so mad at that freaking woman for not caring about her child's safety. I could scream. I did report her to the authorities, but they said it could be a week or more until they could look into it, and I was told by another friend that if he wasn't out alone when they got there, they wouldn't do anything about it. That is ridiculous.
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@JenAC1984 (233)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I have witnessed this situation too many times myself! It is uncalled for! So she mentions that other's are out watching for him. Wow, she needs some parenting classes and to relearn how to care for her child. This world is a very untrustworthy place! Too many sick people who are out looking for easy prey. You cannot expect others to babysit for you. I don't trust anyone. They say when a child is taken, 9 times out of 10 it was by someone who knew the child and the family. So, even those few she knew around the culdesac might of not been so responsible or safe.
This reminds me of a situation last year. The woman next door always asked me why I was so protective and why she heard the door lock everytime I shut the door. It's just a habit for me to do such things. Anyone could walk in and kidnap. We are not living in the past people! Are you not watching the news? Have you not heard of the thousands of children that go missing every single day? You think to yourslef that it couldn't happen to you and you ignore it until one day, it's just simply too late!
I applaud you for writing about such an important topic, and I hope that others will respond with thier own encounters of these types of situations. I am so protectve of my kids. I do not even allow them to have sleep overs at their friend's houses. They are too young of course for all that at this stage in their lives. I shelter my children from a lot of things. You can never be too safe. It is sad, but I would rather keep my kids safe you know?
I really feel that it should be a law for parents to never leave any child alone, especially outside if they are 14 and under. Someone has to be watching out for these kids. Your children are not invisible. The evil in this world that we hear about every day and still, parents have the nerve to neglect their kids. It also upsets me more than I can express! Again, Thank you for bringing this problem into the light for others to read. :-) Have a wonderful week, my friend!
@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I don't think you're over protective, most of my childhood I was raised by my maternal Grandmother, because of situations with my mother that made her unfit. When I lived with my Grandmother I was home schooled, and she was very protective over me, and well the children of her friends too. We were all part of the same homeschooling group. I do not remember going to the mall without an adult with me until I was sixteen. And guess what it never embarrassed me, and if I have children I plan to raise them the same way. She taught us what evils were in the world, and that you can't go around counting on others to watch your back. I pray that nothing happens to this poor little boy before the authorities do come, and it may sound spiteful, but I hope they found him outside just like I did today, playing where cars drive into the lots, alone. So something will be done about this woman, who I can't even bring myself to call a mother at the moment. Sorry for the rant reply, but she has me so worked up even though it happened nearly twelve hours ago. Have a Great Monday!
@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I hope this doesn't sound weird, but I want to thank you for being a good mama. Because it helps to know that are still good parents in the world, especially when I see so many parents not paying attention or taking care of them. I loved my Grandmother more than anyone else who has ever been in my life, she passed away shortly before my 16th birthday, and I was sent states away to live with my mother, less than two months after I got there I was living on my own. I miss her everyday, so I'm glad I me talking about her reminded you to call yours. In a small way it honors her memory. Thank You.
@JenAC1984 (233)
• United States
4 Jun 12
I also homeschool/online school with my kiddos! The benefits of homeschooling them have been absouletly amazing! So much in fact that my little 5 year only is reading on a 3rd grade level. Can you believe that? She and I also read every single day together. My son has found great pleasure and talent in science and art. I think it is great that your grandmother took you into her home and cared for you. Grandmothers are wonderful to have! Mine is almost 90 years old. I can remember many times feeling like she was my best friend! She always took up for me and never doubted me..EVER! I love my little, sweet grams. Thanks for reminding me, I need to give her a call. I am also praying for this little boy and thank you for standing up for him when no one else would. One person can truely make a huge difference!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 Jun 12
If you ever get to be a mother , you will be a good one! You are so correct and this woman is not. She is assuming all her neighbors are watching her child but in reality many may not even know him. But a molester could be watching! But she won't think about that until it is too late! Even in my day, 3 was too young to be out without a babysitter or parent. But this woman doesn't know How to parent! it is so sad. You did what you could!
@syramoon (654)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Thanks for the compliment, I've had an active role in many of my younger cousins's lives for years. It goes back to what I said about I know for a fact some women were not made to be mothers, and either are plainly stupid or just so unmaternal that their brains don't function properly.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 Jun 12
" so unmaternal that their brains don't function properly"That describes me to a tee. I just shut down and I like it that way. But then again I have been doing it since I was 7.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
16 Jun 12
Wow!! Yes , the g-ds were looking after him. I hope over at granmas he still gets to ride his bike just this time With someone!
@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
5 Jun 12
That is sad... The mother is not going to learn until it is too late and something BAD happens! :( She sounds like my neighbor who lets her 7 kids all under the age of 7 years old run around the neighbor block without any supervisor. They hang out on my patio looking in the window, play in the street, other neighbors driveways and the mom doesn't care as long as they are out of her hair and she can relax in the house and watch TV. We live on a busy street by the hospital too so it is sad to see.
@GardenGerty (160702)
• United States
5 Jun 12
She is not thinking, and that is the problem. He is too young to be on the street alone, and he is too young to be unsupervised like that. He is at danger from cars and from being taken by strangers as well.
@musicloverfriend (1465)
• India
4 Jun 12
well that's so sad, that mother doesn't care even a little about her child. Well not now, but when my brother, who is just three years older than me, used to go out in town alone(there are not much vehicles too), long ago when he used to study even in the 6th grade, well, even when my mother allowed to go out alone, I wasn't very happy about it, 'cause one second he's careless and anything could happen.But I always prayed nothing would happen to him and nothing did ever.. it's too bad to know about that mother, I too would feel the same way as you did...
@Lizomatic12 (96)
• United States
4 Jun 12
Yes, I agree...Parents should watch their own children..not leave it up to others to watch out for them. I am sure this is the type of parent that if something tragic did happen to her child...it would not be her fault when you ask her.
It sucks that the Child Protective Offices do not take this serious enough to respond immediately to a call like yours. I will pray for the child to remain safe and unharmed while his parent is being an idiot.
