Guy friend I met trhough church, saw at library,

United States
June 5, 2012 12:31am CST
Hi, I met a guy name Ricardo from church quite long time. However, I just happened to see him at library since I haven't seen him in a long time. I think I've remember seeing him at library few times before or long time ago.. But it seems this guy recognizes me from church long time ago. He glanced at me when I was doing computer, seems he recognized me and i recognized him a bit. But yeah, just exchanged info after we chatted a bit. However, when I mentioned about if he plans to go church young adults, he asked if I will be going? I said maybe and yes. He does know of my church ministry group.. He said he will go if I will go... He said if I go, that i should text him and meet him there. What does that mean if a guy says he will go cuz I will go? Does it mean he doesn't want to go be a new person and go alone there? Because i just said if he knows the young adult minister there, he can just go there.. I just sense some vibe there.Also it seems as if I just remembered how Ricardo was years a go when texting him. Then we started texting me he asked about talking on the phone and movies...Does it mean this guy likes me? He hasn't said that he likes me. I'm not into guys for now and not looking for relationship. Also I'm not really a phone person and wouldn't want to run out of things to say by phone. Anyway i don't know. but i'm just friend to him and nothing else.
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@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Yes, webgirl01, this guy likes you and he's hoping to spend time with you so that he can get to know you more.
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• United States
7 Jun 12
hey there! how are you? hope all is well. i did have a sense the guy kinda likes me but he hasn't directly say yet, that he likes me. he texted me the other day about what movies i have watched.. and did mentioned he had free movie tickets and asked if want to watch movies with him sometime.. I kinda said i dunno, i'll see. and that i'm busy job searching and i said maybe next time. what is common between me and him - i was surprised to see him at library. he doesn't have a job and is looking for job. I am not working and looking for a job. he hasn't been to the church functions in awhile.. my friend did sense that the guy likes me. lol.
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• United States
22 Jun 12
Hey there PageTurner, Thanks for the reply. I've been doing fine. I see the guy is somewhat shy, lol. I'm not sure if he'll try again but anyway, i don't think he has texted in awhile. I haven't heard from him. The last message was, hey what are you doing or what you been up to? and my response was been busy with family for father's day or mother's day thing. then I mentioned that I'm focusing on job searches. he too is unemployed like me.
• United States
7 Jun 12
I am well, webgirl01. Thank you for asking. How are you, today? I think it is obvious that this guy likes you. Perhaps he is shy and that is why he hasn't said anything directly. He is probably mortified that he asked you about the movies, and you said you didn't know. I wonder if he'll try again?
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
It is still early to be saying that he likes you in a way more than friends, webgirl. Just let the friendship bloom first. Observe him and be familiar with his ways. That way when the time comes that he would say that he likes you indeed, at least you have an idea of what person he is.
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• United States
7 Jun 12
hey, thanks for the tip. I see what you mean. lol, he hasn't said what he feels. I have not heard him say "hi, I like you" kind of stuff. I am just friend and nothing more, lol. I'll see what person he is if I do see him more often on church functions and stuff.
• United States
22 Jun 12
AH I see, lol. well the guy hasn't texted me in awhile. LOL!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
8 Jun 12
Just let the friendship grow into a more deeper relationship. It's nicer that way.
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@Soniasony (1827)
• India
5 Jun 12
From your observation,its not sure whether he likes or loves you but he surely likes your company.He is interested in you.Or may be he is shy to say that he likes you.If possible ask him what he needs so that he is not hurt, and close all assumptions running in the mind :)
• United States
7 Jun 12
Hey there! the guy hasn't told me that he likes me or what not. I haven't heard that from his mouth yet. I'll just becareful and just be his friend. I know he's probably being friends but i dunno. lol. thanks for your comment. hope all is well. :)
@marguicha (223129)
• Chile
5 Jun 12
Be friendly. There´s no harm in that. At this stage, it could be that he likes you (some) or that he doesn´t want to go to church knowing noone. You just play it soft and see wht comes out of it. Just don´t let it get out of hand if you don´t want it to.
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• United States
7 Jun 12
Hey thanks for the tip. I'll just be friends and I'm just friends with him. I'll see what happens when I get to know him more on or after church functions. I'm not really into guy relationships if it happens, lol.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
I guess he likes you. If I were you I'll just let things go as it is and let your friendship grow. You may know what is really in his mind when you really become close friends.
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• United States
7 Jun 12
hey there! thanks for the comment. lol i dunno yet if he likes me or making advancements. I just feel ackward and weird if i sense guys acting like that. Anyway, i know he's probably just being nice and friendly and just friends..and i haven't heard him yet say that he likes me. But he does text me. last one was about what movie i watched and then he mentioned he has tickets to movies and asked if i wanna watch with him sometime..but i told him thanks but next time. Also i'm in the job searching mode. Also he said he's also job searching too since he got out of his last job. it was a surprise to see him at library, lol.
@Chikezie (385)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 12
Hi Webgirl, I like your discussion. On Ricardo, it depends on him and what is on his mind. I as a guy, sometimes girls mis-understand our gesture as advances as we also do to you girls. His response of him going based on you going depends. It can be relative. It all depends on Ricardo opening up his mind to you. It might be that he has interest in you and is shy to be more explicit or that he does have interest in you but jesting with that response. But for him to request a time with you on phone, I think it is an indication of developing interest in you. However it is for you to pray, talk to your close friends about it and still watch him. But I have seen ladies that mis-understood guys on issues such as this basing it on their past relationship with guys. I think it also depends on you. I will advice you to watch him and see his further steps towards you.
• United States
22 Jun 12
Hey Chikezie! thanks for your response. Great input. Yeah, I'll becareful with guys like him. He does sometimes text me about hi, what are you up to? but now I haven't heard from his text in awhile. lol I haven't seen him in awhile or heard from his texts.lol
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
5 Jun 12
I have not observed any inclination that the guy have a crush on you,but he was just trying to connect to someone else in the church as you say,he he wants you to become his companion in the church.If you have no inclination to the guy,then just become his friend and do not let him sense that you are not feeling easy with his friendly gestures to you,because he may take an advancement to get you.
• United States
7 Jun 12
Hi there, thanks for your tip. yeah I'm just this guys friend. He hasn't said anything to me like hi i like you blah blah blah. I know he's just friendly or being friends. Anyway hope all is well.