If you want it your way do it yourself.
By syramoon
@syramoon (654)
United States
June 5, 2012 7:22pm CST
So, I was over at my lazy friend's house, and she asked me if I would make her a German Chocolate Cake, and I said sure. Then she proceeded to tell me I was doing everything wrong, now mind you I think I've seen her make a cake once in her life. Finally I put down my spatula and said "Would you like to make it?" She said "No, I want you to." Then I said "Fine, leave me to it." Then she said "But you're not doing it the way I do it." Then I said "If you want it done exactly you're way, you're free to cook it for yourself." Of course she stormed off, and I continued making the cake and put it into the oven. Then went to go talk to her, now I'm getting the silent treatment. But I still stand by what I said. I was doing her a favor by making her a treat she wanted, but was too lazy to make. On a day I was in too much pain to be on my feet anyway, and she insulted me. If she wanted her way she should have gotten off her lazy butt and made it herself.
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@JenAC1984 (233)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Hello syramoon!
Wow, she doesn't sound like a true friend hun. I know you were trying to help her, but she seems a bit greedy and disrespectful. I am so sorry you have to go through that. I have also met people in the past who tried to take advantage of me and I had to put a stop to it you know? I would call her up and say, "Hey, now is your time to bake me some chocolate chip cookies and bring them to me now!" Haha...No really, you need to surround yourself with people who appericate your kindness and respect you. She sounds like bad news. If you were in pain my dear, cooking is the last thing I would expect you to do. In fact, if you were to come over to visit at my house, I would offer to cook for you and have a nice, peaceful visit. That is what real friends are for. If she didn't like the way you attempted the recipe, she should have said, "Okay, can we do this together and enjoy the cake when the timer goes off?" You put so much effort into something she didn't deserve! Beggers can't be choosers right?
I would give her a call to sort things out. She needs to know just how you feel and stand by your word. If she apologizes, I would give her a second chance to mend the friendship. Let her know that life is too short and that you demand respect, just as you tried to show her by cooking for her. I hope she learns her lesson. No one deserves to go through that. You are a stronger person for being so kind and generous to your friend. I hope in time she realizes that. i wouldn't want to lose such a great friend if I were her. Smile and go on. Let it role off your sholders because you my friend, are a better person!
@syramoon (654)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I get frustrated with this friend a lot, and I'll be honest I have thought of just walking away from our friendship many times. But she has been there for me through a lot. She is mentally disabled in someways, and has the mental state of about a sixteen year old in my opinion. Some times she's so nice and giving, and other times shes greedy and bossy and throws hissy fits. I know a lot of it has to do with her disabilities - although she has been told by psychiatrist and other doctors, that she is able to function in a way that can take care of herself and her life on a day to day basis, so to me that excuse can only go so far. I'm still at her house, talking to her mother. I adore her mother, and that's part of the reason I haven't been able to just walk away. I'm not really angry about it anymore, and I don't think she will be either when she wakes up, and we cut into the cake. I can't see ending a friendship over a cake, or even her hissy fit. She's used to me going out of my way for people, and I don't think she realizes that I can't do it as often anymore. And she does cook for me sometimes, mostly things she wants, but will say she made them because their my favorites, when they're not. But still, life has taught me to appreciate small gestures.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
6 Jun 12
that was really rude. you were doing her a favor. i think she did not expect that you would have told her what you did. she expected that she would be behind your back running you while you do the task, and you take that from her. i am proud of you for standing your ground. how really unappreciative.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I have ended friendships over less. I agree with you . And you were in pain doing it?! And I guess that this same friends does Nothing for you when yu are having a bad day. How about this b!tch come over and serve You cake? No that would mean actually thinking about something other than herself! Woo. I'm heated. I'm cooler now. All this shows how good of a person you are and all this Karma will come back to you! And here is something sweet from me. Hang in there.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
6 Jun 12
I completely agree with you. Sometimes my husband will do that. He will want me to make something for him and then he will come in the kitchen and make comments about how I'm doing it. I tell him the same thing. And i don't like anyone to be in the kitchen trying to tell me how to make what I'm making unless I ask. It was nice of you to make it since she asked you. Sorry that she got upset with you about it though.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
6 Jun 12
HI Syramoon. I am totally with you...If she wanted it
made "her way", she should have taken the time to make
it herself and it would have certainly been 'her way'.
I hope you let her know your feelings so that would not
happen again...she needs to learn how to appreciate when
someone is doing something for her....
And how did it come out????? Good I am sure...
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
6 Jun 12
You're right... if people want something done their way, they should do it themselves. It's good that you still nice to your friend, if it was me who got the silent treatment, i would leave her house and never contact her again until she said sorry to me...
@freqspaz (220)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Wow, I would have stopped baking the cake and thrown that batter away. I don't care, you don't insult your friend THEN give them the silent treatment. Sounds like SHE should have been baking YOU a cake, not the other way around. I am behind you 100% on this. That is just rude, and totally unacceptable as normal, rational human behavior. Like, really these types of things makes me wonder how more people don't haul off and go nuts.
Or maybe I've just had that happen to me one too many times and it really makes me grit my teeth. I wouldn't do anything for her again, until she apologizes and does something for you, because that is not what friends do, and I am surprised you even classify her as friend any longer, because the way you said "of course she stormed off'' makes me think this is a normal occurrence, and no one should have to put up with such childish behavior from an adult!
