What to do, now?
By Christoph56
@Christoph56 (1504)
Canada
June 6, 2012 3:43am CST
I've recently had a big crush on a girl. She's a foreign student, who I originally met, years ago, when she came out here, and we were introduced through a co-friend of ours. Ever since that day, I had a crush on her... even after only meeting her that once. Well, with the technology of today, after she went back to her home country, we kept in touch, we're friends on facebook, and I would see her every now and then and we'd talk and so on... and this summer, she came back to my city, again.
Well, I was very excited to have her back here, and we've met up a few times, each time I'm just... enamored by her... but, I'm a shy guy, I'm always worried she's not thinking the same. At one point, she told me that when she likes a guy, she shows it, but with me, it's more back and forth. Well, I got a day of work up at this fantastic little city about 2 hours from where we live. It was a video job at a spa, and I brought her along, and she was my actress, in her bathing suit, preforming in front of me. After that, we went all around the town, as I took great photos of her, and every time I took a photo, just seeing that look from her just moved me... I got this feeling all over me... we spent about 12 hours together, and she told me, on the way back, how great she feels to be with me. She says that she never feels so open with someone, like she can really just be herself, and nothing is closed off... she says how it's been great to spend the time together, and how incredible it was. I agreed, and said similar things to her.
We got back to her place, and I was dropping her off. I stepped out of the car and around to her side when she got out, and we gave eachother a long hug... and just feeling her so close to me... is just amazing... now, I have a bit of a fear when it comes to kissing a girl for the first time. I'm worried it's not what they'll want, and they'll just slap me in the face for it...
So I said, "I have one more thing that I just need to ask. Can I kiss you?"
And she replied, "Why?"
and I said, "because I really like you, and I feel like if I don't ask now, I'll always regret it."
so she said, "Ok, but just on the cheek."
I kissed her cheek, and she jumped away, and giggled. I had a feeling I knew what that means. I wrote her up that night, and sent her the best photos that I had gotten of her through that day. She wrote me back saying thanks, but keeping it very simple. I haven't heard from her at all in a few days, now, and I'm just worried that doing this, has ruined even my chances of even being around her while she's still here, through the summer.
What does this mean, to you? I've really fallen for this girl, and I just don't know where things are going to go. Is this the kind of case that I just keep sitting back, and see if she gets back in touch with me? or do I go forward and try to talk more to her? or do I just forget about the whole thing, and hope I can find at least my "Summer Love" somewhere else?
Any kind of feedback on this would be great... although I do really know that what this takes, is time. With an event like this, I just needed to spill it all out, and maybe hearing back from you, will be a big helper for me to go forward.
Thanks a bunch.
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3 responses
@wildflow3rz28 (180)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
I think if she doesn't like you then she wouldn't have gone out with you again.
It's just that some people need a little time to rethink themselves or assess the situation that happened, maybe that's why she hasn't called you again, or it could be she's waiting for what you'll do next because c'mon, you've kissed her the last time you were with her. Writing simple thanks for the photos may mean she doesn't want to look to eager on you.
Why don't you take her out on a real date? And then tell her what you really feel, who knows when she would come back again.
@Lauraleigh99 (4718)
• United States
6 Jun 12
Take her out again and try to get a feel for what she is thinking... does she smile a lot, flirt with you, ask her questions like are you seeing anyone special right now... give her small hints like holding her hand or kissing her hand!!!
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
6 Jun 12
First of all find out what you really want and feel for her plus what you are willing to pay (as a price).
If anyone would ask me if he can kiss me I would ask: why too.
This would not mean I would not like the guy but it does mean I like to know the reason.
I think it depends on the situation (where you are, how long you meet, attraction etc) if I would allow on the mouth or cheek. I don't think this means anything either.
Since she is only there for the summer I assume there is a good reason for that and she also has things to do.
The only way to find out what she really feels for you is to ask. You can do that by email, or text or whatever. Also the good news is: many women do like shy men so no need to see that as a big minus at all.
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