Keeping your temper in check

NOPE...nada..nein! I had the greatest mentor in the world..my Father, whom NEVER retaliated...NEVER lost his cool, No matter what! And I know, as a rapscallion as a child...I tried him to the utmost! When I was mature enough to realize the moderation of his temperment, I asked him...HOW he always remained calm! His concise answer; "I get mad..I give away my power!" I put this philosophy into play...and it has stood me well, all my life! And, boy, I put him to the test..

Oh no, I hope it wasn't me???? I know the reason why we can't do this in real life and why for some, an online relationship can't work in real life. This is because online we don't see each others facial expressions, body language that tells another exactly how we feel, and we don't have to reply back right away. In real life, not only do we see the eye rolling or hear the frustrated sigh, but we also get the "full impact" of emotions when we are talking to another, that can cause his or her friend's emotions to override their logic, and thus you will have a fight, whether a minor one or a major one. Now I have heard where couples met online, got married, and had a wonderful life. That may work for some, but I know it won't work for me. I was in a debate where I mention something I believe, (it was something I could have left out, but didn't, so I regretted bringing it up) and next thing I know, I am trying to let this person know why I stand and won't support something. I tensed whenever I saw a reply back, but I made sure I had info and took a deep breath. In real life, that isn't as easy..

LOL! If I commit too many Guideline violations offline, then will they cancel my account as well?! I actually think it would be a good idea if we could hit the "pause" button in our offline existence, which would give us a minute or two to think over the situation, cool down and react in a more appropriate manner. I do try to think of the example that I am setting and react accordingly, but I do not always manage to do it properly the first time. I guess that with all things practice makes perfect.

I think that there are some people right here who obviously are looking for some kind of reaction. The number one rule of the Internet is not to feed the trolls but there are people who are good at pushing the right buttons. There are times where I want to post something on here that is really blistering someone for something that is said. And there have been times where I think that I have taken a couple of people to task, but really, the original posts were much worse. I think that is is best to dial back the anger a few notches. Let the person know that are being an utter numbskull without utterly going right over the top with it. That is something that people need to understand while online. Sometimes all of us write something that we may regret, it is just a matter of catching ourselves before we press the post response button.

Keeping my temper in check:) I am one of the many persons who have very little patience. But I've been really working hard to manage my bursting out. In irritable situations, I'm telling myself not to react, to keep silent. And it works because lately, I can control my temper. And we don't need myLot to remind us of violation to the rules. Think of yourself. Choose to be happy. Keeping our temper in "good shape" is a choice.

Although it's easier said than done, I still applaud for the act of keeping our temper in check whenever you are understand very upsetting circumstances. The reason for advocating for that is very simple since losing control of temper will not solve any problem . In stead, it complicates issues to some extent . A better way of ventilating is to calm down and have a peaceful talk with the other part. Sometimes discuss this at a later time is an even better choice as it give both of the sides time to think .

lol... All the time!!! You want to comment but then you are just feeding their stupidity and egging them on :) In real life and I get angry I take a deep breath and walk away before I say something I don't want to say

How right you are ! This Is why it is normally said that one ought not to talk in anger, when you are angry count one to ten ,take deep breaths , write down all your emotions and thoughts on a paper etc. etc., In my lot, there is the advantage of a bit of time where we have to type out our responses. Unfortunately, in real life, some tongues would run away on provocation. I am a person whose tongue runs too slowly for my own peace and wish I am quicker in giving offensive remarks when provoked. I hesitate but I lose my peace.

rarely happens here or in the real world, I"m some weird kind of pacifist. Takes a lot to make me that mad.

I think I will post the word MyLot everywhere :p (hahaha) That's it, yah, why can't we count ten in real life if we can count ten here in mylot

hi there allknowing, i do always check my temper, since, many people told me that if a person always upset, he/she is prone to look older. hence, a person will look older rather than his/her real age. that is why i always prevent to get angry easily since i am already old so i don't want to look old. as i would like to retain a younger looking and a young at heart.

Rarely do I lose my temper. Only when I am oppressed or really really tired. But yeah, if we have a mylot as a referee in our everyday lives, the world would have been so much calmer. It is good that mylot is a clean environment unlike other sites I see where users bash each other with hurtful words. I would never have lasted here if people are allowed to be rude

you are absolutely right! people react before they even think and,here, I thought were ADULTS!---before losing your cool out in the real world maybe we should think about the consequences of our actions!