Easy or Hard?

Actually Debra, some of your posts are more than I can handle at this point. Some of course are over my head, and thus of no interest, but as I am also trying to revise my book, I do tend to focus on lighter topics. I am sorry not many are replying, but if I see something that catches my eye, I do if I have the time..

Hello debra. Don't get discouraged. I often look at your discussions and find them very interesting.and well worded. I don't reply very often because I have a hard time writing a comment in such a way that will make sense to every one. Just maybe there are more people like me that come and read your discussions but are not sure how to reply in such a way to give their point of view. So keep up the good work.

I think you should continue doing just as you have, with the possible exception, as others have mentioned, of either linking to a print version or giving us an idea of what a video link is all about. From a completely selfish viewpoint, I find most of your discussions challenging to answer, and heaven knows that I need the intellectual stimulation! Since my son is preoccupied with his new baby and my daughter with her new house, there are precious few people I can discuss anything more than the weather with. That said, I don't always respond because, while I find the topic interesting, I can't "open my mouth and be thought a fool" due to brain fog from lack of sleep or working too many hours in a row. I know when to shut up and wait. Please don't start posting "easy (commonplace) topics." There are more than enough of those around for those who want them. Just my two cents.

Hi! What I have always done is started posts about things I care about. I also always choose my friends by how well we respond to each other's posts. That way we have at least one topic in common! And then I make sure the notifications are on. That way they get emails when I start a post. But since I have many interests I do not expect All my friends to respond. But most do. But then again my goal is to get things off my chest and/ or get my questions answered. If a friend can do it fine . If it is a new person that's ok too.

I think this happens to a lot of people. Usually in my discussions, I'll see the people who normally comment and then a few new users or people that normally don't comment in my discussions. I don't think it has anything to do with what your topics are. I've almost felt as if myLot is changing since I've first joined. When I come here I find that there are less and less discussions I find interesting and more and more of them are just nonsense topics. Before, I'd be able to comment in about 15 discussions a day but now I'm lucky if I find 3. Just keep on posting what you find interesting or what you want to talk about. People will find it and then comment, you shouldn't have to change your interests just to make myLot users respond more

What sort of discussions are you interested to to talk about? We can be friends.

I truly believe that any topic is "easy" when it falls within the realm of someone's personal interests For me, I am an emotional type of poster - much less so than a controversial/political one. I have never yet posted on topics of politics or religion because I am not a fan of really heated discussions (much of that stems from working in online community management and moderation LOL). Some people thrive on diving into those and more power to 'em! That's the beauty of myLot... lots of things to write about I've read all the responses and looked at your discussions in your profile and I do agree with what others have said. Opening a discussion with a link -- regardless of whether it's a print article or a video -- may be off-putting. Having to leave myLot to get current on the intended topic... before reading your personal thoughts and reason for opening the discussion... may discourage people. There are a lot of people here who won't even participate in a discussion where the opening post is more than two small paragraphs (as an example) so, having to delve into prep work is probably more than they are willing to do. You might try summarizing and putting the source URL at the end of your post, rather than at the beginning. People may be more interested to read further on the topic once they have established and understood your viewpoint. If you are motivated by current events, news articles and videos, perhaps you can take your acquired knowledge and condense it into a more concise talking point? Choose the one most interesting aspect of the article or video and open with that? Through the ensuing responses, you can bring in other points and items from the article and introduce everyone to the remainder of it, almost in bite-sized pieces. For the record, I'm a "long discussion person" too... I'm not at all intimidated to tackle word-intense contributions... it's really just about the topic for me

This is probably the first time for me to participate in one of your discussions. I don't know what your discussions are mostly about but if they seem to you unappealing to others, then maybe you should try topics that are just simple and not very controversial, or just share some experiences which others could relate with and react as well.

Yeah, same thing happens with me. I generally do not start a discussion unless it is something that I am passionate about. It usually contains some sort of a message for better humanity or something deep like that. I used to post more everyday boring things and they did get lots more comments but no real depth or great thought to them. At least the few comments I get these days are decent. It does seem that most people on here just want to reply to the easy stuff so that they can rack up their cents quicker without having to use their brains too much.

You should stop worrying about that and write what you want not what others want to read.

Debra, I have heard a lot of people state in other discussions that they stay away from discussions on religion and politics -- especially politics. Even though you are respectful to those who disagree with you, some people are still afraid of being attacked when they disagree. I also agree with the idea that people want to get the basics of the discussion without following a lot of links -- especially video links. The advice to summarize the gist of what you got from the links, leaving the links for those who want to evaluate the source themselves, is good advice.

You are right, debrakcarey

Hello debrakcarey! Here are some of the reasons I join discussions: 1. I can relate to it - most important 2. I'm curious about it - when I want to find out what it is about 3. I got something to share - when I feel I need to voice my opinion 4. Catchy titles - okay, this one is very rare but sometimes when I read catchy titles, I end up going to that discussion and having opened the path, I end up commenting too I also have the same dilemma because I feel that while other discussions have many participants, mine is always replied to by the same people I have encountered here before. That is why I like participating instead of creating my own discussion. I cannot think of interesting topics at all!

hello debrakcarey. i wonder why you asked such a question.because i just found there are many mylotter participation in your discussion. i think you should write down what you think and what you like and do not care so much.everyone has so much interest and there are always some point you can share.believe yourself enjoy your time~~~~~

Usually you are right , people tend to pick the discussions that are easy to reply to ,But yet there are few discussions which are age specific,country specific and certain group specific.So Its really great if you put in a discussion which interests the most group of people. :)

Yea. May be because it is human nature.They think differently. And most of the people will prefer the easy discussions because it is easy to understand and easy to response. I prefer this type of common discussions that will include the topics about normal life happenings and feelings.But you can decide what you have to post because it is very important here.

I know what you mean Deb, but be true to yourself. If you have something you want to discuss go ahead. Believe me, I can see integrity in a discussion from miles away. If you notice, some discussions are truly serious, and then some are seriously a way of reaching out and finding commonality. Some of my discussions get more responses than others, but they are my discussions. I prefer to have my discussions my way.

Just do what you like. I post discussions too, i just share the thoughts with that who cares about it. If some one response me, i'm glad, if not, i thought it as the diary

Nothing easy or nothing hard in mylot. Everything is fun in mylot . You can't just get more views in few days. People who are repeatedly responding to your post do it as they like it. Sooner day by day you will get more responders and then friends in mylot. Once you get them you wont lose them as they become like true friends. Happy mylotting

Debra, I personally think you are very unique. I haven't been here long enough to get to everyones posts , my time has been tight lately. One thing I notice at all sites, the more friends you got, the more people of same interst read those posts that interest them. Get more friends, read more posts of new people and friend them, you will be suprised that the more people on your list, the moe people will read your posts.