Jealousy
By adforme
@adforme (2114)
June 6, 2012 2:30pm CST
Does anyone out there want to admit to sometimes having this raw emotion? I will. I am always conscious of this feeling. It sometimes creeps up when I hear about celeb paychecks or if someone gets further in their endeavor than I do. I am a person that believes if this feeling has never been one you have had, than it is one you fail to admit or will have in the right situation. Rather than deny the feeling I admit it to myself. But, I have a healthy kind of jealousy. I do not wish harm on the person that may have influenced the presence of this feeling. It is just natural, and I am a grown up. I see an attractive man, and then his wife is beside him. Ok. There I go. I hear about someone winning the lottery, and I don't have two dimes to rub together. There it goes again. I get over my feelings of jealousy eventually, but at least I admit. I can tell when someone has jealous inclinations toward me. It is obvious. Silly or serious, jealousy is real. Can you handle your jealousy? Does it take over your life? Maybe it causes you to do terrible things. Well, I give myself a spiritual lift by understanding that I have great blessings that I remind myself of that hold me down every time.
4 responses
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
7 Jun 12
I can honestly say that now that I am older I don't get feelings of jealousy that I am aware of or that I pay attention to. When I was younger and first married, yes I admit that I could be jealous at times. I think that jealousy, especially as related to romantic interests, is a sign of insecurity.
As far as being jealous of what another person has, I just don't feel it. I'm very happy with my life right now and am thankful for what I have.
I have one sister, however, who is extremely jealous of me, my family, the fact that I have a husband and she doesn't, my accomplishments and just about everything that I have or own. I have to say it put so much strain on our relationship that I just don't bother with her any more. I couldn't stand her jealousy and it got to the point where I just quit speaking to her and we haven't spoken for about 4 years now. I'm not angry at her or anything, I just can't stand her jealous behaviour.
@clouds0327 (1389)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Yes I admit that sometimes it eats me up and worsen my depression. I sometimes ask why some people seem to get what they like in life easily when I have to work hard for everything. Sometimes even working hard doesn't help. There are things that I just can't have. It's like its the rule of life. I can't get more than what I need. I can't be too happy. I can't be pampered. It's like I must always keep the balance. It's unfair, some people seem to have more than what they should have when I seem to be always struggling. Since I was a child I had always been disappointed with most things. I had always wished I was somebody else, lived in a different house, had different stuff. But I guess those are just only in my imagination cause I don't see any chance of getting any of those. So you see, when I see someone getting what I want to have easily I feel bad. These people seem to be getting what they want simultaneously nonstop. They are really fortunate. I never liked this feeling there's only one way to solve it. It is to have what I always longed for. But I don't know if it is possible anymore.
@adforme (2114)
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7 Jun 12
I understand clouds, but acknowledging your feelings is healthy. I know some people that say they don't get jealous; it is unbelievable from what I know about them. Just continue to be honest about your feelings and know that it is human. You may want to see my prior post called "My Feelings are Mine". It allows you to feel that it is ok to have feelings. You have the right to own them.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
7 Jun 12
Like you, I also feel jelous once in a while. I feel jelous that other women is far better than me in terms of so many things. But like you, I do not wish harm on them. I just hope that someday, I could also be like that or where they are. I take them as inspiration or someone who could be my motivation. I can't think of an incident where I did something wrong out of jelousy but I have watched so many people do it. Yes, the feeling of jelousy could be very dangerous. It can lead people to do something unexpectedly. Something that even themselves would never imagine that they are capable of doing such terrible things. I think that jelousy and selfishness is partly related.
@tajara2008 (81)
• Australia
7 Jun 12
I admit to being jealous at times, especially over my friends having money and me struggling from pay check to pay check... But that would turn to an anxious feeling as i would try to compete with them, like going out to places i knew i couldnt afford just to prove to them that i too had money... then it turned to depression because i would be flat broke till the next pay day... been there and done that.
Now i'm older and hopefully a bit wiser, i just see my situation as stepping stones to where I want to be... after reading and doing alot of research i know what i want and how to get there, so each step forward is a milestone for me..
But i admit to the feeling of jealousy when i see happily married couples when i have been divorced twice and am now single...
If jealousy wasnt a part of life why would it be bred into us.... it can be good if used properly, or bad if abused.
